POLL: Is an open marriage ever a good idea? Mo'Nique thinks it is.

If it work for them. That is her man that she would have to worry about not ours.

Some people cannot commit. Some people can. Whatever kind of person you know you are is who you should exude..I know men that are fooling their wives into believing their monogomous but are far from it..I will probably remain single or never commit..Once I get serious the OTHER women seem to start to come out of the woodwork after my guy and I have to fight them all off.. but I leave if the man enjoys it..I cant do that to a man I care about because I wouldnt want it done to me..I love showing I am taken and no longer on the market..but it does no good..As long as I have men chasing me then they All chase me but once I choose one then wooops I guess I was wrong!! So just dont settle be with someone that respects you everyday..it's in the eyes and touch and kiss..A woman knows these things..That is why I am still alone have raised 3 sons I'm still hotter than hell but just dont' know what to do anymore. :(

she is to fat -- why not have an extra girl or two

Poor Mo'Nique. She isn't hot enough to keep her husband faithful but she is rich enough that he won't leave.

All I really want from life is a TV and a wife.
and BOTH of them working.

Maybe she wants to leave it open so when she wants to, it will be ok, too.
I guess they're not concerned with STD or anything else, huh?
How 'bout morality and integrity...guess that's open as well.

I'm very curious about why she accepts that her husband could be with others but she never could... is it because she loves him so much she could never sleep with someone else? Why doesn't it bother her that he doesn't love her that much? Or is it that he wouldn't accept that she could sleep with someone else? Double standard...

To me it seems that she doesn't have the confidence that her husband would only be faithful to her, so she just allows him this freedom, knowing that he's going to do it anyway. Not really an "open" marriage if you ask me. More that she is looking the other way.

Just cause guys have a dick and have the urge to stick it in anything that walks by, doesn't mean they have to fulfill that urge. They aren't animals. They can do the right thing.

The city of Angels (Satan's Angels or Stars)

Mo has her own personal look in life with her husband like all other woman do with there husband.. Now to she basic telling him to do what he wants instead of trying to hide it from her if he decide to do it. But i think every WOMAN and man should keep it hot in there life or u never know....

Monique,

Ok now, just stop it. Who are you kidding girlfriend? You know the sistas ain't even impressed with this lil stunt. Girlfriend, stop playing! You and I know both know that it is so tempting and so easy to just buy into the B.S. instead of saying not just, "No!" but "Hell no!" Ladies, let me tell ya now. Monique is tripping and I'll be the first one to tell anybody, "nooooo!" Hell no, I do not want to share my man." But, but, but I will also inform the less informed and weakwilled, I am no fool to believe that all men will be faithful. All men are not faithful just as all women are not faithful. My philosophy is this, I will treat my man like a king and of course be the queen that I am, but if he strays and acts a damn fool, I won't trip. Nooooo, girlfriend, just show his ass the door and prepare your cute little self to be pleased another. Create your own happiness and enjoy the freaking journey ladies!

if a couple is truly inlove and trusting of each other they can make it work

I think she is an idiot. I don't like her anyway and I think she took that award away from the "precious" star. Her husband looks like a goof too.

My ex-wife cheated on me. At the time, I felt I could never forgive her for that, and we divorced. And now, nearly ten years later, and after she admitted that what she did was wrong, I believe I have forgiven her. But I don't believe I could ever trust her completely again. Once that trust is broken, it's impossible, at least for me, to ever get it back again. To forgive only takes the passing of time, to forget, that is the real challenge. Time heals the wound, but can never erase the memory.

I agree with R because if she is okay with that it'slike she thinks that she can not do any better.

Ok here's my take on an open marriage. I've been cheated on and left by my ex husband I met a guy that I was truly in love with and want to spend my life with, but he gets off on having strange. I'm ok with him going out and getting it because I cannot fulfill that for him being his wife. I fulfill alot for him and he for me, but somethings cannot be fulfilled to the extent that would for some men make them stray. I do not want keep him from fulfilling fantasies that he needs to keep our marriage healthy. We swing, yes and we do it together! But some things aren't always fulfilled in the santicties of marriage and for those who think that your man doesn't think about someone else is lying to themselves! Because they do! My husband and I have a great marriage and I know who he comes home to! ME!!! So for Mo'Nique to say that they have an open marriage and its great MORE POWER TO HER! I'm proud of her to finally open up and say it to the world! Who are we to judge what works for her and some of us in this world who yes, it does work for! Plus when you know you can go out and get it, makes it less desirable.
Keep it real!

I hope that after the oscar hoopla is over Mo'Nique will disappear from
the media. Her performance in the movie Precious is the result of alot of trapped unresolved anger and low self esteem that she's carried for years. While being noticeably obese, she went on a vivious attack against slender or as she called "skinny bit*hes". I saw her once in a mall when she was bigger with big hair. But the look on her face told the story. Bitter, bitter unhappy person as if to say, hello she would
take your head off. True, there are couples who swap partners but they don't advertise it. There are just some things we don't need to know about one's private life. Her having an "open marriage" (LOL) and showing her hairy legs, this is not good journalism or much less a good idea.

wat i want to know wit the guy with 3 wives is, does the no whoring rule also pertain to the man? if so y does he have 3 wives?
i am African where people come 4rm polygamous homes, n trust me its not a funny sight, jealousy always rears its ugly head, plus 4 some reason d men always get a free pass to marry other women but i know a few who have killed their wives 4 so much as kissing anotha man.

its funny cos we r tryna change 4rm this way of life into a 1 man and woman relationship becos it just makes things easier while d western world is tryna change to our way, lol.

Hmmmmm. There is no right or wrong answer to this question. Marriage is a social institution which has evolved over millenia. Today our Western culture postures itself as practicing monogamy in marriage.
Years ago this was not so and even today in other religious belief systems polygamy still exists.

Realistically, the percentage of extra-marital affairs for both sexes based on "conservative estimates are that 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. These figures are even more significant when we consider the total number of marriages involved since it's unlikely that all the men and women having affairs happen to be married to each other. If even half of the women having affairs (or 20 percent) are married to men not included in the 60 percent having affairs, then at least one partner will have an affair in approximately 80 percent of all marriages."

For additional information see:

http://www.adulthoodwonderful.com/survive%20affairs/who_has_affairs_-_and_why.htm

copy and past the abover url into your browser window, check it out, interesting.

Various world cultures place various ideas and values on the idea of marriage. Being a social institution marriage essentially is for the well being and financial benefit of the family. The family is the basic unit of any society. Healthy family life for most equates with a society being healthy too rather than dysfuntional.

If an "open marriage" is going to be successful, there has to be certain boundaries and rules established between the married partners. Since sexual attraction and acting on such can lead to emotional attachment and romantic Love, those involved in open marriages must come face to face with this reality, but monogamous marriages must also openly add this subject to their list of disussions too. Both "open, closed, gay and lesbian 'marriages'" are subject to infidelity on the part of one or both partners. Sudies on the different marriages which have evolved in our society may shed some light on which unions have the greatest success rates, if any of them do. My suspicion is that every relationship is frail and subject to failure, extra marital affairs are merely a symptom of other issues which the affairee needs to become aware of, understand and cope with if they are ever to succeed in a life-long romantic companionship.

Marriage being the highest most ideal relationship between two human beings is also subject to the greatest amount of failure. "What God joins together let no one put assunder?"
My understanding of a G-d is that should G_d join two things or people together, whatever G_d joins in such a bond shall never come apart. Therefore marriage is purely a earthly social custom which religion attempts to inject a spritualistic and/or eternal viewpoint into such.

How many people have you heard say, I've found my soul mate or I'm looking for my soul mate. All those ideas, perspectives and concepts perhaps need to be revisited and perhaps a new era of honesty will enter into play among all peoples, especially those who are in a marriage relationship. It is the will of two people that creates a fertile environment in which a life long companionship may grow and flourish. Every marriage is different, unique, as is every individual on this planet. I feel that there is nothing more sacred than friendship." Freindships perhaps should be subject to similar standards set for marriage. Friends are the support network who surround us during moments of joy, sadness, illness, celebration, play and the other activities which Life offers. Without friends we truly would be alone. As it is written: "It is not good to be alone."

LETS FACE IT PPL IF THERE ARE ANY SAINTS IN THE HOUSE THEN YOU WILL KNOW BY THE WORLD IS TODAY that everything that God say is wrong the world has made right and the things that God said is right the world have made wrong! These are ways of the world! What gets me is the first one you give thanks to for you sucess is God but you love everything he is against! Monique needs pray about this issue! God this is wrong and if you really really truly love God then guess what...It will not seem so right!....I love the lord

Despite what she says I really think that she's in denial. Could it be that she is so hurt by it, and wanting to show her love for her husband, she decides to quell the ugly face that the marriage will get. She wouldn't do it, but will allow him to go outside of the marriage? I don't think so. She definitely needs to see a shrink, and him too.