The outspoken rocker claims that more attractive women are "bad in bed," but this writer thinks she's got it all wrong.
- Veronica Wood, BettyConfidential.com
I'm personally offended by what Courtney Love said this week during an interview with Fuse's "On the Record" regarding why she thinks she's so 'awesome' at sex: "I'm better because I was never pretty," she told the show's host, Toure, in comments that were also reported in The Huffington Post. "Pretty girls just lie there. Us girls who grew up a little more homely have to try a lot harder."
b---- , please. You just started an all-out war with every single girl out there who considers herself to be both attractive and good in bed - and that includes me.
Now, I don't want to toot my own horn, but I'm a pretty girl. I've had enough random, outspoken men on the street tell me so, and at some point, you just have to start agreeing with them. And, Ms. Love, I also happen to be a fireball in bed. I know my ex-boyfriend and our neighbors with the really thin walls (and let's face it, everyone who lived in our old apartment building) would be able to back me up on that one. Like anything else I care about in my life, I try to give it my all when I'm in between the sheets, and I do not "just lie there," thank you very much.
That said, I will admit that I've heard stories about beautiful girls being sub-par when it comes to their sexual skills. I was shocked when a guy friend of mine told me that one of my good friends - a woman I consider to be drop-dead gorgeous - was like a cold, dead fish in the sack. I definitely wasn't expecting that response when I excitedly asked about their hookup. I was really surprised.
But still, her poor performance doesn't necessarily have anything to do with how attractive she is. Maybe she was just nervous, or wasn't feeling it, or was simply inexperienced. (Or, ladies, you're probably familiar with this one: Maybe she just stopped trying because he wasn't good.)
I'm convinced that Courtney's remark was just a stupid ploy to get everyone in the room to picture her having sex, which is not something anyone wants to do voluntarily. Or, maybe it was her strategy for trying to take the interviewer home (and for his sake, I hope he didn't hop on that train).
Whatever her motives, Courtney's statement really got under my skin, so I decided to ask my friends what they thought. Did they agree with her? Are pretty girls bad in bed?
"My boyfriend once said that there's a stereotype, but it's true - ugly girls f*** better than pretty ones," says Shannon, 23, from Boston. "He didn't really elaborate, but I guess it's because pretty girls don't have to try to get guys, and maybe they think the same applies in the bedroom - that guys should be the ones catering to them." I definitely see Shannon's point, but what woman, besides a professional model, is so confident that she believes she doesn't have to put in any work, whatsoever?
"I don't know if it's completely true," says Brian, 24, from New Jersey, "But I feel like women who aren't as attractive are definitely more 'energetic' and fun in bed, because that's their way of coming across as 'sexy.' One hot girl I was with literally did nothing for me; it was as if she expected it to be good just because she was naked."
Wow. Is this true? Do some girls really lie there and expect the guy to be satisfied just because he's in bed with them? If that were the case, wouldn't guys just smarten up and start going for the least attractive girl in the bunch to guarantee a romptastic time?
Doug, 24, from California, doesn't think so. "Ugly girls think they need to do something crazy-kinky in bed to get guys to stay with them. But really, it just makes them look foolish and leads to a bad reputation - and guys talk about it. Sex is already good, and sex with a hot girl makes it that much better." Hmm, now I think we're getting closer to what this is really about: confidence, and how you use it in the bedroom.
"Courtney Love kind of has a point," says Jessica, 23, from New York, "but I think it goes a bit deeper into what a person thinks about themselves, and whether they feel the need to try harder sexually in order to keep a guy around. I think it's pretty lame on a guy's part to just assume a girl's sexual capabilities solely based on her looks."
It is lame for anyone to assume how good (or not) you are in bed based on your attractiveness. And shame on you, Courtney Love, for furthering this stereotype. It doesn't matter whether or not a woman is gorgeous - it's all about how she uses what she's got. If she chooses to just lay there, or if she's a wild, moaning, whirlwind of a lay, that's her prerogative - but one girl doesn't speak for us all, and she certainly doesn't speak for me. And that's especially true when that girl is Courtney Love.
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