"Do These Bridesmaids Make Me Look Fat?"

I'm extremely overweight and I have more than a few friends that are STICK thin or have sexy curvy figures. But I'm also very self confident. For my wedding I had one Shakira figured bridesmaid and one busty yet petite bridesmaid that are both very beautiful.

It's like using a bigger purse to make yourself look thin.

Either get some self confidence or lose some weight or whatever you need to do. This is just sad.

Why would anyone, especially strangers at a grocery store, assume you are a b---- just because you have a ring on your finger? That's stupid.

The thought of the size of my bridesmaids never once crossed my mind. I was just glad to be among people who cared about me. I'm also very glad that I don't have friends who think like that.

Gee, the statistics come from Slim Fast? Couldn't possibly be a conflict of interest there...

Both of our attendants were female, and both of them are beautiful girls with very slender figures. One is an esthetician and the other is a film actress (no kidding). I tried on the dress they wore, in my size, and it looked dreadful on me - but on them, divine!

So did I feel self-conscious or unattractive? I thought I might, but NO! I looked and felt amazing. After all, I was the one marrying the man of my dreams.

My bridal party is made up of four astoundingly good looking young women. It's actually turned into a bit of a joke really. My MOH is my lifelong best friend and she is a tall, slender, green-eyed, blonde with big perfect breasts. She looks something like a cross between a young Christina Applegate and Drew Barrymore. Meanwhile, I am short, dark haired, dark eyed, and the definition of a pear shape. But you know what, no matter WHAT my girls look like, and trust me they are all gorgeous, I am the one eyes will be on, because of that whole white dress thing AND the fact that I will be glowing with love for my future hubby. Your bridesmaids are there to support you and help you through this journey. So if you are really that concerned about what they look like, it's because you have them for the wrong reasons. True friends are beautiful to you no matter what. Because of the love and support you give to each other.

The narcissism is rank in here, someone open a window.

I know for a fact I'm going to be bigger than my maid of honor if I ever get married (she's been my bosom buddy since the first day of high school; she's the only person in the wedding party whose identity I already know), and I'm totally cool with that. Because all I should be caring about (as far as my bridesmaids go) is that my friends love me and support my decision and are willing to wear semi-matching (at least themed) dresses because of that.

That's pretty stupid. You're getting married; be happy! Of course you want to look your best, but that doesn't mean you want your loving friends and sisters to look their worst.

My best friend is a fashion model who weighs 118 pounds at 5'10". Should I cut her from my (hypothetical) wedding because I'll never be that thin? My younger sister is considerably prettier than I am - maybe I should cut her. I should also consider marrying a very ugly man so that I can make sure that I am the more attractive one.

What crap! Recently, someone I knew got married and had decided to EXCLUDE her best friend from her bridemaids because she was too fat (will never get her to admit that, but her mother told me they wanted "attractive girls" as her bridesmaids).

I think too many people spend more time concentrating on the wedding and not the marriage itself.

I'd like to say this is crazy and couldn't possibly be true, but I personally know someone who (sorta) thinks along these lines. One of my friends got married (side note: the marriage ended THREE MONTHS after the wedding) and of our group of friends she chose three people (two of whom weren't good friends with her at all) to be in her wedding party, specifically for how they would look in the photos. A few friends were excluded (not only from the wedding party but actually from the entire wedding) because the bride thought they were too attractive and would take attention away from her, and another three friends were excluded (just from the wedding party) because they weren't attractive enough. The real kicker? After the marriage quickly dissolved it was to one of the "too attractive" and one of the "not attractive enough" girls that she ran for support. Some people really are too self absorbed and superficial to make any kind of sense. And it's unfortunate that those people are becoming more abundant (or at least more widely seen) so people start assuming that every engaged woman is planning a ridiculous wedding with no real thought for her marriage.

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It never occured to me until I was looking back after reading this article that ALL of my attendants were bigger than me. I did not, however, do this on purpose. My very best friend was my maid of honor and my (ex)sister-in-law and another very close friend were bridesmaids. I chose these people, not because of their size, but because they are all very special to me. I love them all equally and they are all beutiful in their own special way. It shouldn't matter what size you are as long as you know you are beautiful and spaecial. The only thing that REALLY matters on your wedding day is that you and your man will be together for the rest of your lives!

I never realized until just now that ALL of my attendants were bigger than I am. I did not do this intentionally, however. I chose them all because each of them had played, and still do, an important role in my life. My very best friend was my matron of honor and my (ex)sister-in-law and another close friend were my brides maids. They all are besutiful in thier own way and if not for them the day would not have been as special!

you know you look very pretty and someone who would think you look fat in that dress means that they are jealous thats aLL i got to sey and i dont care what they say about me it is the way that they make you feel

i hope you have a wonderful life with your husband

To Snarkey, couldn't of said it better myself.

MeghanR, wow you really are shallow. Can't believe that you posted that you were concerned that eyes would be on your gorgeous matron of honor but then you quickly say that it won't be because the eyes will be on you because of having a white dress and glowing with love for your future husband. The fact that you'd be concerned about not having "all eyes on you" is really sick and shallow. It shows that women DO get married for the wrong reasons, it's all about the wedding and not about spending more time on having a great marriage.

I think if you have a big wedding that chances are, you ARE a Bridezilla. No doubt. Women get ridiculously picky over the stupidest things. When I marry, I want a small ceremony on the beach, and the reception to be only a few feet away! I will only care about the man I'm marrying and the honeymoon night, now that's what matters! Poor men who marry bridezilla's. They are the women who have to throw a party for everything...."oh look honey, our pride and joy is turning 3mos old let's throw a huge birthday bash for a 3mo old...we have to match all the decor", blah blah blah, vomits, blah blah blah. Get a soul bridezillas.