One of our readers is engaged to a wonderful man. The catch: He was married before. Does it matter? Let's chat...
Here's our reader's story...
I'm engaged to a fabulous man. We're head over heels in love, and I'm so excited to be planning for our big day. But he was married before--his first marriage didn't work out for a bunch of reasons--and I was fine with that. It's all in the past!
Also, my friends are giving me a hard time. They keep joking about his divorce and say things like, "You guys can just skip over the 'til death do us part' part of the vows!" I get so offended. What should I say? Now I can't help wondering, does his past divorce mean that our marriage might be doomed?
Here's my answer...
My doll! First off, you are so lucky to have found this wonderful person, and he is so lucky to have found you! Congratulations on your engagement.
People get divorced for ALL kinds of reasons. Sometimes a divorce signals that one partner had commitment problems. But most of the time, divorce happens for many other reasons, and people can go on to have wonderful, lasting, healthy relationships with other people. (Case in point: Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt!)
Every relationship is different. Your fiance's past marriage ended, for one reason or another. But that doesn't mean that your relationship together won't be rich and happy and wonderful, for the rest of your lives.
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When your friends joke about his divorce, just tell them honestly: "It makes me upset when you say that, even though you're kidding. We're totally committed, and this wedding is celebrating our love and happiness, and I want you to see how much this day means to me." (Or you could just say: "Dude, shut the heck up.")
Dear readers, what do you think? Have you ever dated a divorced guy? Or been divorced yourself? Or have divorced friends who go on to have blissful, committed relationships? I'd love to hear your thoughts!
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