The New Year brings along with it many new resolutions, like losing weight, eating more healthily, getting to work on time, etc. And as scores of you know, many New Year's resolutions revolve around a vow to move on from "the ex." And some people fail. But why? Because thinking about getting over your ex and actually deciding to get over your ex are two very different animals.
It's a choice! Your choice!
Just as you choose to make the decision to lose weight, to eat better and to leave earlier for work, you can choose to make the decision to get over your ex. This means that even if you've done the crying, the journaling, the talking and all the work possible to get over your breakup, if you haven't made the decision to get over your ex, then you won't get over him/her. That's the plain, simple truth.
So now it's time for you to DECIDE, or RESOLVE to truly move on.
Think about it: losing weight is a choice, bettering your job performance is a choice. You work hard at it and eventually your state of mind changes and doing better and focusing on your job just becomes a part of your routine - it becomes part of who you are.
Easier said that done.
No kidding. It's easy to sit on your couch and cry every day. It's NOT easy to pick yourself up off that couch and start living your life again. But that's EXACTLY what you have to do. When you do things that make yourself feel bad, it doesn't affect your ex; it only affects you! It doesn't hurt him when you choose to stay at home crying instead of going out. IT ONLY HURTS YOU.
And you LOVE you, so take care of YOU!
I choose me!
Now that you've decided to get over your ex, and stop wallowing in your own damn misery, you have to change your mindset regarding him/her. When you find yourself reliving moments you have had, stand up and say out loud, "Snap Out Of It!" And go out and do something you enjoy! Or if you're at work, quietly make a list of things you love about yourself, or make a grocery list, or just write gibberish - whatever it is - do something quietly that forces you not to think about your ex. Then get on with your day.
And if you haven't deleted the text messages, emails and IM conversations you have saved - GET TO IT!
Go out and live your life for YOU and for nobody but YOU. Choose yourself. Love yourself. And realize that your ex is in your past. IN YOUR PAST. Live for the present and create a future.