I was posed a question today of what the difference was IF any between someone loving someone and someone being " In Love " with someone...
I thought about it and I guess I would say that it would be like a relationship between two best friends or between Family or between a parent and a child... Its more of a platonic love. A deep connection through experiences or bonds that are paternal not romantic.
I think being "in love" with someone has more emotional needs involved that need to be satisfied by another person. A romantic relationship always has boundaries and agreements of conditions that people place on one another going into it and are expected from the other person. Its like an obligation of faith and devotion to be true to one another. Even though platonic love involves emotions also, they are not such strong "yearning" emotion like being "in love". Platonic love I feel is more unconditional even to the point sometimes where they are free to do as they please without any emotional consequences to the other person ( to a degree of course ) as long as that person is happy with their life and has more to do with enjoying the other persons company and social bonding aspects of it, like the comradery of friendship.
"Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back, don't expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their heart, but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours. "
Unfortunately sometimes romantic love has its insecurities that show up as jealousy unlike platonic love. Usually I think that emotion comes out when things are unclear and people are not being honest with one another. I think if there is full and total disclosure and both people posses self-esteem and self-confidence in themselves that if anything were to happen and the relationship dissolved for what ever reason that they would be secure enough about themselves to be able to move on and realize that you can never control another persons feelings or actions. If they felt the need to betray your trust then they were never worth your time and respect to begin with. If you feel that your alone and ignored in a relationship and feel that your not getting your emotional needs met then that empty jealous feeling comes out more and more. I think its all about communication and TRUST. "Where there is love, there is trust, where there is doubt, there is jealousy." You can show your affection for someone in other ways than being jealous. I think jealousy sometimes has alot to do with someone being insecure about themselves and trys to control the situation for selfish reasons.
For example: "Sometimes a girls heart can't afford to be just friends" ?
...We are Social & Sexual beings who need companionship and interaction with others, but it doesn't always need to be sexual. We all need and want to feel that we belong and other people care and respect us. To have that feeling that you have really made a connection with someone else that can relate and understand you is awsome. People say that its impossible for men and woman to just be friends... There are people who are just meant to be friends and others who are meant to become more... I don't see why men and woman can't go out and hang out as friends and companions and help each other out in the tough situations in life....? I thought we were intelligent human beings that can practice self control and restraint...
Those who we throw out of our lives for trivial reasons because we can't bare to be around them because their attention is towards another at that time; will be hurt and scared for our betrayal of their friendship and may not be able to forget, and that will be the thing that someone may not ever overcome to let you back into their lives as you once were. If at some point that attention that was directed elsewhere to another, faded; and the purpose of the division of the friendship is dissolved for jealousy reasons... this type of reaction may loose the trust that may have once been great and never be overcome to be friends as you once were. Once again, there just might be a conflict of timing... Life is all about timing, Just the wrong time in those two peoples lives to get together, but later on who knows... Their lives might come full circle and they will be in the same place in their lives to make it work.
All I ask is give people the time, patients and understanding that you would want.... People need time to earn trust... its not given away... and as they trust you more they will open up more.
We are always on a learning curve when it comes to people and dealing with society...