There are a few proven ways to get your ex boyfriend back and this article is going to show you how to do it. Basically you have to concentrate on male psychology which will allow you to get inside his head and understand exactly what he is thinking after the break up. Knowledge is power and you want as much information as you can get your hands on here.
Understanding How He Feels After The Split
You probably already know that men and women think very differently and have different priorities in life. They also react to things in differing ways to women. This is especially true after a break up. Even if he was the one who split up with you, it does not necessarily mean that all of his feelings are gone. Men will often try to pretend that something doesn't bother them because they are worried about damaging their male pride and being seen as foolish in front of you and their friends. Therefore, if he seems distant and like her doesn't care, it is not always bad news, just remember that.
Take A Step Back
Guys by nature want to do the chasing, it is the natural way of things. If you are running after them and pleading for them to take you back, stop. This is not going to look attractive in his eyes and will turn him off for good. Instead you should be taking a step back and let him pursue you. It mat sound counter-intuitive, but this tactic is very effective in that it pulls your ex boyfriend towards you without them even knowing that you are doing it.
Remember that as human beings we value that which is more rare or things that we have to work for. This is the same with relationships. If you offer yourself up on a plate to him he will not value you or have any respect for you. I know that this may sound harsh, but this is the way that humans work. Just be patient and give the situation some time and you will soon find that he is making more of an effort towards you than previously.
Reassess The Contact You Have With Your Ex Boyfriend
You have to take a serious look at how much time you are spending with your ex boyfriend. Are you constantly texting him or chatting? You may think that this is a great idea as you are showing him what he is missing and get to keep him in your life as friends. However, this is probably the worst mistake that girls make after a break up. You both will end up settling into a new relationship as friends and get comfortable with this. You will also be giving him exactly what he wants, an ego boost. He will also know that even though he broke up with you, he still gets to keep you as a friend. This is the perfect scenario for him but the worst one for you as you will always be wanting more.
Have more self respect for yourself and try your best to stay away from him. There is no need to be rude to him, especially if you have to see him every day. Just keep as much distance between you as possible as this will create a need for you. When he starts to miss you he will wonder why he broke up with you in the first place and begin to regret his decision. This is a very effective technique as you are allowing him to come to his own decision naturally without playing guilt trips with him or forcing him into something that he doesn't want.
Stop Updating Your Social Profiles
This is the same kind of technique as it is used to make him miss you and wonder what you are doing. Have you ever seen girls on Facebook update their walls every five minutes, uploading photo after photo of themselves in the hope of getting some attention? Just look at someone's behaviour after a break up, they get desperate and want to show their ex how they are getting on with their lives and make him jealous. What do you honestly think of this behaviour? Is it not glaringly obvious what they are trying to do? If you notice it then their ex boyfriend is bound to as well. Not only do they look pathetic and a little crazy, they are ruining any positive feelings that their exes have towards them. Do not let this happen to you.
What you should be doing instead is to disappear from his radar for a while and let him fill in the blanks in his own head about what you are getting up to. This is a more mature approach that will create an air of mystery around you and make you much more appealing to him. He will then start to make more of an effort to get in touch with you to find out what you are up to. This technique is also very effective in making him miss you.
Your Next Steps
You have now learnt a little bit about the male psyche and how they think and feel after a break up. Hopefully it has been of use to you and you can start implementing these techniques right away. There is so much more that you have to learn about how to get your ex boyfriend back though if you want to be successful. Do not leave things to chance. First of all it would be a good idea to understand why men leave women and after that you should learn the signs he still likes you. Good luck!