Shine, Where is the Focus on Communication?

As a frequent Shine reader, it has come to my attention that many articles are based on assuming we know what men want, or expect. And if we don't know, we argue about it. I wish that Shine would focus less on making assumptions and more on communicating questions and needs. It is silly to make up rules considering every person's situation is different, and most things learned in love, need to be learned through experiences and shared through experiences, rather than assumptions.

Incase my point is not clear, an example could be paying on the first date.

At least every month Shine produces an article about "who should pay on the first date." Some articles say that women should be offended if the men don't pay, while other articles say that the women should pay because it's 2010, and chivalry is dead. Well my personal opinion, is that the women should bring enough money to pay for herself. Obviously she is not obligated to pay for the man, but she should not expect him to pay for her. How should he know what she expects if she never had a conversation about it? Things like this are learned through time, experience and communication and when you are to assume something, you end up in a pickle.

Basically I just wish that the writers in Shine would focus more on how to communicate our needs and how to get what we want, rather than assuming things and making biased judgments.

Thank you for reading my opinions.