Study Shows Men & Women View Infidelity Differently

Deb,

Not all men cheat. They do have good ones. You just don't have one obviously.

Dina p,

You sound like you are just looking for a meal ticket. I feel so sorry for you. It must feel terrible knowing they don't really give a crap about you. BTW they will never leave their wives. Do the world a favor use protection. We don't need any more ignorant people in this world. Ignorance breeds ignorance.

Bill, you are an idiot, and definately not capable of a long term relationship. Not a keeper. I wonder if there are drug, alcohol or some mental illnesses present there.

All I can say here is that I was one of the stupid ones. We were regular church going people who raised the kids in the church and worked hard to stay far away from bad influences. Looking back, it was the kids and I who did this and HE lied about it, saying he wanted to go really early and then he would be gone ALL DAY. When he came home from work he disappeared until really late or he slept all evening, after raving that he needed meat and potatoes every night.
I knew everything was really weird but couldn't bring myself to believe that he, the man who brought me into the church and had such a "holy" family could cheat. I didn't understand what was happening. Turns out there were several, even little young chicks, and drugs which finally got out of control. I don't believe in divorce, but that was not marriage. I had been fooled. 20 years with this guy who had such problems. Once we were married it all changed.
I too believe it is emotional immaturity that makes it hard to commit, and committing yourself to one person is just that. You never allow yourself to be put in situations where you are tempted.

Couples can be lasting or not depending on the two main things; Sex and Money!

For me? Ask not how many a single woman goes out with her boy friends, but ask yourself how many girlfriends you go out before too.After getting married the spouses Must be the LoveOne of each others.

Men who thinks their spouses/partners cheats on them, because they've done it. Infidelity only happens if somebody started it, duh!

These results have been known for some time. At best, they replicate previous findings.

Infidelity is a matter of choice .People choose to cheat We can be faithful if we want to

In the past, present and future; this is how it was then, now and forever.

Posted by Marry Foreign Women Mon Sep 26, 2011 10:30am

"However, 'evolutionary' logic, marriage is a huge benefit for females, since females raise children. The females get to take the male's resources (power, social prestige, wealth) and us it to exclusively benefit their own offspring, and deny that males resources to any other female. A good deal for her."

I am part of this history.

LOL after watching "Cheaters"??? This is completely pathetic & idiotic. After reading the tabloids at the checkout line in the supermarket it has been determined without a doubt that the martians from the moon have said that it is made cheese. The internet sux.

What about when the guy has affairs with other men?....As the husband in that situation...and I had told my wife-to-be that I enjoyed both men and women....she had given me the impression(especially by wanting to marry me, which I didn't want to do....I wanted to live together...but she wanted the whole "show" of a ceremony....which I found distasteful, but did not want to deny her of this event in her life). Eleven years later, she wants a divorce....out of the blue...with no discussion AT ALL. She flies in from Houston, TX(our main home is in Decatur, Alabama), walks in unexpected with a sheriffs' deputy and serves me with the papers. I had done NOTHING out of the ordinary...no sex with other women, just as we had discussed(I put no requirements on her). During the trial(which lasted ALL day, fifteen months after the serve date), she responded to my lawyers questions: Did I love her, she said yes, ..was I good to her, she said yes, did we have a good sex life, she said yes....the only problem she had...suddenly, after almost 13 years of seeing me, was my sex with other guys...she made a big deal about HIV(which I was extremely careful about, and of course, she had the 'Use it against him' pre-requisite HIV test..which was neg.).
I had even, just a few months before, bought her a Porsche 911. Women out there....WHY.....she wouldn't even discuss ANYTHING with me....for a couple of years before the serving, she would ask me why I married her(she had gained a bit of weight), I never insulted her...always let her know how much I loved, respected and admired her.....she would call herself fat and ugly, which would truly break my heart....I told her, after everything else had failed, that I would do anything it took to help her if she'd like, join a club, build an exercise room(which we did), and I would do it with her , if she wanted. She would stick to nothing, but I was NEVER negative, just would cautiousely try to find another way to help. WHAT DID SHE WANT FROM ME?.....I do think people she worked with were putting thoughts of doubt in her mind..they were petty and jealous...this is the South, you know( a reminder to you conservatives out there, close-mindedness DESTROYS!!!!) I just don't understand any of it...and because I love her(she hasn't spoken to me since the day of the serving-about anything), and always will. I would at least like to understand.

Quote from the article: "[M]odern men have inherited an evolved wisdom from a long line of ancestral men who could never be 100 percent certain that a child was actually theirs."

There is no such thing as (macro) evolution. Thus, the above sentence needs to be corrected as follows:

"men are inherently not 100 percent certain that a child is actually theirs."

Wow this is so uninformative...research done by watching a reality show. I commend the professor for his hard work sitting in front of the TV. This is one of those "duh" revelations. Men have always been polyamorous by nature...it all depends on self-control. Doesn't necessarily mean men love the women they are having affairs with or love their wives less. Women have always been stronger emotionally hence the need to make an emotional connection. Well done prof...maybe you can tell us why chicken lay eggs by researching soap operas.

Wife has a headache, nothing else to do but go find a happy ending somewhere

I cant fathom asking a cheating ,two timing ,backstabbing adulterer, if they loved the person or not. What I would do & actually did, was say I hope they were worth it because they cost you your wife of 14 years & the respect of your four children.

An expert analysis of human relationships based on irrefutable data and solid empirical guesswork. Sadly the study came to an end when he lost the remote.

Forget all of the "psychobabble" males and females cheat because they like sex!

What I find funny is how upset women get about men who take off their wedding ring.
I know single men who wear a wedding ring because then women pick them up, these same women would not even talk to them if they did not have the ring on.

This makes alot of sense. Women are more emotinal creatures and above all have to feel love and care during a relationship at all times. When either aspect is lacking for whatever reason, I think we all seek out an alternative way to fill that void. In that sense, it is no wonder that a woman would go to another man, because for her this would help validate her feelings and give her the satisfaction of feeling what her current husband/boyfriend (in her mind) is failing to provide, even if only temporarily. In hindsight, this could be the percursor to physical cheating since the "other man" would then have his number one need fulfilled in return, which is trust. In other words, in his mind he would then feel obligated to provide and care for her in ways that her husband isnt and just like the article explains, it is all very evolutionary. Once the emotional connection is in place, sexual relationships come very easily. Conversely, this could happen vice versa as well, both are equally as damaging however regardless of gender and whether they emphasize if the cheating was physical or emotional. Usually they both go hand in hand.