When I was a wee, nubile 23-year-old writer living in the big bad, very expensive city of Manhattan where rent is the equivalent of a vacation to a tropical paradise and I subsisted on Ramen noodles for two out of my three daily meals, I definitely made a conscious decision to date guys that had stability, a.k.a. a good job.
Of course, most of the 23-year-old guys I knew were like me --struggling and unsure of their career path. In fact, most could often be found on a weekend playing touch football or, let's face it, getting high, rather than looking at the help wanted ads. But I guess that's what our 20s are meant to be -- a time of self-exploration, dipping our pinky toes into different career fields, drinking martinis on weeknights and engaging in casual relationships with Mr. Right Now.
By 22, after having attended college in Manhattan and having done the "dating thing" since the ripe old age of 18, I was very much channeling Charlotte from Sex in the City, sitting in a coffee shop with my girlfriends, lamenting the whereabouts of my Mr. Right. And having always had a bit of a daddy complex, dating a guy 10 years older than me didn't feel strange. In fact, it was quite liberating to kick to the curb those directionless 20-something men, whose idea of a date was going Dutch at the local bar, where their roving eyes would be forever scanning the room to see if someone better was about to walk by.
So I dated half a dozen guys who were all 10 to 15 years older than me (I drew the line at 17 years -- for some reason, anything over 20 began to feel a little too familial for me), before I found "the one" and I finally felt like I was on the right track to finding love.
I know what you're thinking -- how could I give up the ripped hard-bodies, nowhere near bald-heads and the shared generational inside jokes for an older guy who would essentially possess none of those traits?
Well here's why, dating and eventually marrying a sugar daddy truly does rock, and supersedes any of the drawbacks one might think go along with the sugar daddy package