"Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate Mixing Race, Culture and Creed" a Powerful Handbook and Guide Written by Authors Christelyn Karazin and Janice Littlejohn
Kimberly Jessy Reporting in LIVE today with one heck of a busy week with articles to write, Celebrity footage to edit and post, and Books to reviews. Its never a dull moment in Pinkville!
This week I had the amazingly wonderful surprise of being present at a book signing that was dear to my heart.
Lifestyle writer Christelyn Karazin-author of the popular blog BeyondBlackWhite.com-along with career journalist Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn, authored the now FAMED BOOK
Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed
I say FAMED because I get a feeling that if the right hands gets a hold of this book, we could end up with a Big Screen Hit specifically for BROWN Girls that love to date Beyond the Black Race.
Move over Steve Harvey "Think Like a Man' and Watch out "Sex in the City" Swirling is a Tipping Point waiting to HAPPEN! This could easily be a BLOCKBUSTER FILM!
According to Amazon,
The first handbook on navigating the exciting, tricky, and potentially disastrous terrain of interracial relationships, with testimony and expert tips on how to make the bumpy ride a bit smoother.
"Swirling" is what happens when Neapolitan ice cream mixes, creating a whole new flavor. Swirling, the book, guides women through mixing it up with someone outside their own race or culture.
At a time when racial and cultural intermixing is at its highest level in American history, when men and women of all races are breaking down color and culture barriers in their pursuit of love, Swirling can't come soon enough. Written by lifestyle writer Christelyn Karazin-author of the popular blog BeyondBlackWhite.com-along with career journalist Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn, Swirling is packed with girlfriend-certified advice, featuring real-life stories about women who have happily coupled interracially, firsthand tips on how to deal with potential pitfalls, and guidance on how to make the most of online dating and social media.
Just like dishing with the girls over a pedicure or delving into a long, soulful conversation with best friends, this one-of-a-kind book speaks the truth like none other has dared-busting through the stereotypes of "Jungle Fever" and telling lovelorn women exactly what to do if Mr. Right hasn't yet come knocking.
Swirling is dear to me, because as a little girl, I always loved boys from other races. I was always a girl that was into multiculturalism. I remember dating a boy in high school, we will just call him "Jerry". We liked each other, but Jerry happened to be a White Boy. I remember a couple of fellow Brown girls found out I was dating him and took it upon themselves to insult BOTH of us and dis-respect us in front of all the other Brown kids. I promptly ended the relationship and slipped back in my PLACE of dating ONLY Brown Boys. I have to say, I regret that decision and paid for it dearly years later in my dating life.
As a woman you have to know what works for you. I like to use a shoe as a simple metaphor. If you know that whenever you wear a certain shoe, it makes your feet ache. You end up with Corns or damaged feet, you probably won't wear that shoe again. That is a simple metaphor to say.
Whenever I stuck to just Dating men within my race for some reason it did not work out, I never felt liberated nor did I feel safe. The behavior in certain cultures can either Help you, or hurt you. In my race the attitude and behavior of the men was not healthy for my personal growth, development or emotions. It simply did not jive. I never felt like I could be myself or be all that I could be in fear of out-manning or being more successful than the particular man I was dating at the time. It was a pattern, I thought something was wrong with me, so I started doing research on what other women were going through. Low and behold I was not the only one that felt this way. I kept all of this to myself.
I stumbled upon Christelyn Karazin on Facebook and her popular blog http://beyondblackandwhite.com and her other blog http://noweddingnowomb.com which created a movement which brought tons of awareness about the 72% percent out wedlock births in the Black Community.
I began to follow this young ladies musings, and writings and watched.
She spoke everything I had ever felt about dating, mating, marraige and Black Girls Swirling. Now don't get me wrong, this book has nothing to do with say, O Black men are bad and White men are good or go for other races cause the Black Race is bad.
This has book has EVERYTHING to do with, Black Women and Brown Girls having OPTIONS and opening their mind to have more possibilities for marraige to men that have the same values, morals, and desires in life as you.
With there being a million more Black Women than Black men, due to Incarcaration, Early Death Rate, Down Low and the numbers of Black men that are successful marrying out to every other race other than Black Women. The Book
Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed Swirling is packed with girlfriend-certified advice, featuring real-life stories about women who have happily coupled interracially, firsthand tips on how to deal with potential pitfalls, and guidance on how to make the most of online dating and social media.
According to statistics out of every race, Black women are more in danger of never marrying. This can be overturned tho, if Black women, let go of the "isms" and slave mentality that keeps them in bondage to dating strictly to one race, and having a high possibility of sharing men, being a "baby mother only" and never marrying ever. Black women need to open their eyes and wake up and move on!
Open your options ladies there are a billion men on the planet why limit yourself to one group of men in a particular race that has often showed you (Black Woman) that they don't value you. Move on, there is an entire smorgasborg of men out there that are interested in you too.
Scared? I understand, You don't have to do it alone Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed is the perfect guide to helping you step out and take charge of your dating life now!
here are some of the reviews of the book!
In Swirling, Christelyn Karazin and Janice Littlejohn perform a vital service. Their insightful discussion is both in your face and disarming. A much needed contribution to our national conversation about race and relationships. --Ralph Richard Banks, Jackson Eli Reynolds Professor of Law at Stanford Law School and the author of Is Marriage for White People? How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone
"Wisely written . . . . smart, conversational and honest." --Mekeisha Madden Toby, The Detroit News
"What an important and timely topic! Karazin and Littlejohn's warm conversational style sets the perfect tone for women in interracial and intercultural relationships who are seeking practical advice and support." --Linda R. Young, PhD, psychologist and blogger for Psychology Today
"A welcome, heart-felt primer on what African-American women can and should do better prepare themselves for the challenges, frustrations as well as the possibilities and hopes in the turbulent world of relationships. It's a book whose time has more than come." --Earl Ofari Hutchinson, Nationally syndicated columnist, author and social commentator
"Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn and Christelyn D. Karazin bring a refreshing perspective to this hotly debated and newsworthy topic -- they also have the journalistic mettle and personal experience and humor to pull off a book that is both entertaining and informational . . . . a must-read." --Brian Lowry, Variety Chief Television Critic
"This surprising and oh-so-timely book should be considered essential reading for any woman who feels rudderless when it comes to finding a soul mate . . . . smartly researched and eye-opening." --John Griffiths, Us Weekly Television Critic
"After nearly 20 years in an interracial marriage, the one thing I've learned is that black folks often have more hang-ups about these kinds of relationships than anyone else. And if anyone can help us all sort through the nonsense, problems and preconceptions, it is Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn, one of the smartest, most empathetic writers I know. I only hope she starts on a book for black men next!" --Eric Deggans, TV/Media Critic, St. Petersburg Times
"A breath of fresh air." --Cherilyn "CW" Smith, popular blogger and author of Black Women Deserve Better
"Couldn't come at a better time." --Lecia J. Brooks Director, Civil Rights Memorial Center, Southern Poverty Law Center
I want to say Thank you to Christalyn and Janice Littlejohn for creating this awesome handbook and guide for Brown Girls. Grab this book, get a warm glass of Milk and Honey and curl up and read this book! It could change your life!
More later, until then Ciao!!
Kimberly Jessy signing off!
