How Do I Tell My Boyfriend to Lose Weight Without Hurting His Feelings?

HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's even tougher 2 tell your GF 2 loose weight!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've got an idea ....
You don't! You don't TELL them to do anything. You have an open discussion and bring up topics such as health. But by no means do you just "tell them to lose weight". I can just imagine my wifes/girlfriends response if I came home from work one day and told her to lose weight. She'd be P|SSSSSSED. And rightfully so!

If you have known him for 8 years, and now he is your mate, it will be fair to assume that you have an open line of communication. So I would think it best to have a conversation with him and see what might be happening in his life that is causing him to gain weight.
Nothing will change if you do not talk to him, and if you just up and start doing some newfangled health routine every time you spend time together, he might think you are being snide. But hey, you are the on who is most informed on his mannerisms, so you are the one who is in the best position on how to broach this issue.

From personal experience with one of my longtime friends, I can tell her emotional state by her weight gain or weight loss. Anytime she is stressed, depressed, or feel as if she has no control over something in her life, she always packs on the pounds.
If she is in a good place emotionally, then she will shed the pounds. As a friend, I try my best to lend her an ear whenever I see her gaining weight.
I NEVER say," hey you look fat, or you have gotten fluffy."
Instead I ring her and see when we can hang out, then find out what is going on in her life. Usually it is some guy stressing her out, or something at work that is out of her control and is making her manic. Whatever it is, she always find comfort in food, hence she gains weight in rapid succession.
I remember the last time she had a bad break up, she was crushed. So she rang me to see if I wanted to accompany her to Milk Bar. I agreed and we were off, while at the counter she ordered 4 bagel bombs and 6 crack pies, to go. The moment she did that, I know I had to save her from herself, if not she would have eaten all that food by herself when she got back to her loft.
So instead of making her go home and eat herself into an early grave, I invited her to spend the weekend at my place. I listened to what she had to say all weekend, and lent her a shoulder to cry on until she felt a little better. I also called her every evening for almost two months to make sure she was doing alright.
Anyway, long story long, she did not gain weight or end up in an early grave.
So what I am trying to say after all that is just talk to him and figure out what is up, probably he might be using food to fill an emotional void or to have control over something, when he feels as if he has lost control of everything. But you will have to find out the reason for yourself.

My nagging, materialistic girlfriend asked me to lose weight once, I lost 125 lbs overnight when I dumped her!

My fiance's mother is very much overweight, and it has caused her lots of health problems, including diabetes and making physical therapy difficult when she was injured in a car accident. My fiance is not overweight because he works out, but he definitely has his mother's tendency to gain weight. He's aware of it, and I have made sure to talk to him about it whenever he starts to put on more weight than the usual fluctuations people have. I make sure to remind him because I love him, and I want us to be able to be healthy together when we are in our 50's and older.

And honestly, even for people who are naturally thin (like myself), it's important to stay in good physical shape and eat well. Even my father, who runs almost every day of the week no matter the weather and is 6'4" and weighs about 185 had a stroke my freshman year of college. He has high cholesterol. Fortunately, he's fine now, but it was scary. I think if you make sure to bring up the concerns you have about his health, you can have this discussion without hurting any feelings. You only get one body; it's important to take good care of it.

What do you do if the change is due to working long hours? When he was in school, he had plenty of time to hit up the gym. Now that he works long hours and weekends, he has gained weight. We eat fairly healthy but the exercise just isn't there.

I cant even mention this subject to my GF!

A simple, I think as we are getting older we should start doing things to take better care of ourselves. Maybe we should join something together so we can spend time together while doing it. What do you think? Any ideas?
Its nice without saying hey fatty jump on the treadmill you disgust me.

How Do I Tell My Girlfriend to Lose Superficiality Without Hurting Her Feelings?

A lot of people forget that even when you try to focus it on you wanting to be healthy and inviting your partner to join, that they might not be at all interested in it. I work out regularly, eat very healthy, don't smoke, and only occasionally drink while my boyfriend doesn't work out, eats fast food daily, smokes, and drinks with friends a few times a week. He has gained quite a bit of weight over the years and I am worried about his health. I've nicely suggested and invited him to help me "get healthy" but he has zero interest in it. You can't force other people to do something they don't want to do.

I had same sistuation with my wife. There an easy way to suugest he loses weight without even saying it, it will help you physically also and bringyou closer. What I did was say we needed to spend more time with each other and that we should set some time aside each week to go off to the forest preserve and bike to a secluded spot way in the back a few mile ride, and have a picnic, just to enjoy each other's company like we did when we first meet.

Now we we have a great physical activity and a date all in one. Also go for bike rides around the neighbor just talking as we bike. We both lose weight get in better shape and have become closer mentally. Biking and talking has been a great way for us to make sure where growing together instead of apart. Just start suggesting date like activities that are physical. Hiking, biking, jigging what ever it is you think both would like to do.

If you love him, you need to rethink that whole 'not sexually attracted' thing. If you're concerned about his appearance more than his health, then maybe you're being superficial and don't love him as much as you think.

If you love him and are truly worried about his health, you may not want to really attack it at the 'Honey, you need to lose weight' level. I think I'd tell him 'I've been thinking about our eating habits, and I'm worried that we're setting ourselves up for disaster. I want to start eating healthier and being more active, but I need your support. It would really help if we both did this. Then we could be each other's support system.'

If I'm doing the cooking, I can change a lot of things. My husband eats what I put on the plate. He has no idea that I have just used 90% turkey and 10% hamburger in the meatloaf, or that I 'fried' his pork chop with cooking spray instead of boiling it in an inch of oil. :0)

Has he ever been on a diet while you were together? Did you team with him to help him through it? Be honest now - Did you clear the house of items off the diet or did you place cakes and cookies on the kitchen counter? Sabotage is a huge problem when one of a couple diets.

While on a diet have you learned about it or completely ignored its principles? Be honest now - If he's on some plan you should be able to rattle off that plan's principles and why they work. Based on those principles you should be able to tell at a glance if that food item is on or off the plan. Having no clue about it means you will endlessly offer incorrect foods and that *does* equal sabotage.

Tell him if he lost weight, his peter will look bigger.

JUST SAY HEY #$%$ LOSE SOME WEIGHT OR YOUR HISTORY, THATS THE SAME WAY WOULD TELL US SO WHATS GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS GOOD FOR THE GANDER

Ok .. so lets turn the tables ... if this were a letter from a guy about his girlfriend the WORLD would jump down his throat about being shallow ... so get over it ... tell him he's fat and he needs to lose some weight else you're walking ... unless you don't really mean you're walking ... then get over it ... easy ...

i dont see any problem hearing women telling me to lose weight. i believe men needs this advice.

People loose alot of calories in the sack. Try giving it up a little more.

well if you love him it dont matter if he gained weight...or was it just sexual attraction.

tell him you only give skull to skinny guys, but be prepared to give names