Telling Your Honey He's Fat is a Sign of True Love

Self body image is most important than anything else. Think positive! Overall it is not easy to lose weight. God knows!

My wife and I have been married 43 years. She weighed 115 lbs when I married her. I weighed 160. My wife still weighs the same. I weigh 313 lbs.I used to fish ,hunt, lift weights and hike a lot,I also rode dirt bikes. I was hit from behind in my auto and sustained a back injury. My wife knew how much pain i was in, so she never bothered to tell me how much weight i was gaining.I truly wish she had. Now it's effecting my health and I must loose weight. My life depends on it. I have developed type 2 diabetes along with many of it's complications. Wish I knew how to loose this weight fast.

1. Not attractive, 2 bad for their health so yeah I'd say it.

Both my man and I are 200+ pounds. We both realize we are over weight and very lazy. But, we both love how the other looks. He doesn't find skinny people attractive, and I got tired of twiggy men when the buffer guys found me too big (even back when I was only 150). We both plan to eventually lose weight, but we never pick on each other, and don't ever joke about our weight. It just upsets the other when one of us mentions how big we feel or think we look. Yeah, I'm a bigger girl. But, hey, I'm almost 6ft and I got curves to boast about.

If your partner has let themselves go since you met them, I think you can say something. If my husband put on 100 to 200lbs since I married him I would have a problem with that in many ways and I would have to speak up before problems arouse. I would not blame him if he spoke up if I gained a lot of weight. It is not what we signed up for when we agreed to marry. I know we love each other for who we are but physical attraction is a big deal in a relationship. No offense I am not into plus size and neither is my husband.

i think that when someone has gained weight, they know it, you really don't to make them feel bad. I think instead of telling your husband he is fat, you would just try to help and encourage better habits, and do it with him@

I can see exactly how this would play out. "Hun, you're getting fat".. "Babe, so are you". Pointless to do.

Sadly, women have frozen out all discussion of marital weight gain. The idea that it is "okay" to tell a husband he is too fat is laughable. If the pot can't call the kettle black, then the kettle dammed well needs to shut the hell up too.

when i was first getting together with my now husband i found out that he was a smoker and i told him that i'd love to date him but that i couldn't date a smoker (smoke make me quite literally sick) and the next week he came back to me and told me that he'd thought about it and realized that i was more important then a cigarette and that he'd quit cold turkey. and except for a few backslides he's hasn't smoke continuously in 12 years. i think honesty tempered with kindness is the best way to go.

There's a difference between telling someone their weight is going to impact their health and saying you don't look sexy enough for me, loose a few pounds. If jerks would stop picking at little things that aren't a big deal then it would be a lot safer to tell someone the truth when it counts.

Getting a little fat as we age is normal but when you completely let yourself go is very unattractive. When the stomach hangs more than other body parts...not too appealing visually. Proven that men are stimulated visually, so lets not pretend and make eating ourselves to death ok or large flabby arms and bellies even remotely sexually attractive.

i am a personal trainer and work very hard to live by what i teach.. Im not the skinny little barbie doll kind., but one who is realistic and healthy.. I try to help my hubby, ive said lets go for a walk with the dogs after dinner or something to get him off the couch, but he refuses..I can't help him , he has to help himself.. hopefully he gets it before its too late..!

My husband and I were both relatively athletic when we began dating, but we definitely put on some "happy weight" together. I don't care how he looks, but I did have a discussion with him about the fact the men who put on their weight specifically on their stomachs are prone to heart disease more than men who don't. I don't want to lose my husband to something that we chose to ignore; I want to have the longest, happiest life together, and that's why I said something. He knew it was out of love and concern for his health rather than for my own enjoyment.

I've lived in Korea since 2007. There, a partner will definitely comment at the first sign of weight gain. Even close friends will make a comment. The attitude is "I care enough about you to give you the brutal truth." No wonder they are so much thinner than Americans.

Simply couldn't. Love a trim-well-built looking guy - but then, always thought John Candy was adorable. And some men I worked with, glasses, skinny as a rail, but funny, brilliant.
Many kinds of men, many kinds of sexual attraction. So there!!!

I can't remember what weight i weighed or my husband, when we met in 1999, but i know we've both gained weight since. i believe it's because we've made careless choices along the way, and made a lot of excuses. curently we're both trying to loose weight. i'm glad about that. i do now that like anything else it will require changing habits, and that'll be the real answer. just as the bible say's:faith without works, is dead.

After 51 years of marriage, my spouse yelled at me "You've gained so much weight over the years and you don't work at taking it off. Have you no pride?" We are still married but I'm not sure why.

i think weather you have a wife or husband noone should call either one fat or put them down in any way shape or form, b/c one u should love your other half no matter how they look. if you feel a certain way sit down and talk come up with ways you can help one another....nd for those shelfish #$%$ people who go off looks half the time they ain't sexy or good lookin they self if you have one of those you need to throw ur DOUCES UP...as chris brown would say cause you need noone in your life like that if they can't expect the change your body goes through......then F***em then find some one who loves you for you

What a load of #$%$! You don't insult your partner and expect this to bring you closer!! Encourage yes insult NO!! If my husband turned to me and told me I was fat (even if I was) I would smack him!! Trust me this would not bring us closer. I would not insult my man like that. He is (like all people) fully aware of his weight I do not need to point it out to him. I will however encourage him to come with me for a walk, hike or bike ride. I will also talk with him about how WE can get healthier together as a whole family.

You have to be tactful when it comes to the one you love. Ask him if he would go on your diet with you to help support you. This way he thinks it is for you not him.