The Art of Making Love

Making love is projecting a deep expression of feelings! A desire for physical, emotional, and spiritual contact with another human being that extends far beyond the act of mating.
Making love is like renting a car in Nevada, and driving to New York City. It's a trip ! A wondrous adventure of exciting exploration into the realm of mind and body. Our bodies are one huge sensory organ with a central processor I call the "pleasure center", for without it there would be no sensations to enjoy. This center, of course, is your brain. It truly is the most potent sex organ in your body. To stimulate it, is to receive immense pleasure. This is the secret to "Making Love" ! It's the art of being 'tuned in' to your pleasure center, and takes focused concentration.
The first step on your trip is the desire to produce sensations through fantasy and awareness in your pleasure center. This is usually made easier by depriving yourself of all sexual stimulation for at least a week. This is very important! An almost daily habit of normal sex will desensitize your interest in making love, and dull your pleasure center awareness. It's crucial, within a relationship or marriage, to provide a deprivation time between love making trips. It's a balance! For example, a trip of extended duration, without reaching the destination, will exhaust and disappoint you. In contrast, a quick daily trip to the store of 'tension release' will deprive you of a journey only your mind can presently conceive.
In my latest count, there are a hundred different ways to make love. Small wonderful excursions before arriving at your ultimate destination. You may ask:" Where can I purchase your road map?" Well, you already have the vehicle and maps for your trip. They are in your 'pleasure center'. The problem is, you jump on the Concord, and arrive at your destination in minutes. It's a short and perhaps unsatisfying trip. The vehicle you take, and the pleasure you receive, is totally up to you! You have control over your own sensuality. It's not your lover or husband's responsibility. If you want to 'make love' instead of just having sex, you must initiate it! Not by words, but actions. Loving, sensual, exciting, 'pleasure center' actions.
Many couples have never experienced 'making love'. They've only had sex. Many people can't even conceive of sexual stimulation and gratification without genital involvement. What's the point? Right? Well, the point is, to increase your sensual (touch, taste, sight, smell, and hearing) sensitivity to a level of extreme orgasmic sensations. Normal sex is often a devastating 'short circuit' of sensual pleasure for women. Ninety percent of their pleasure comes from 'making love', not the act of intercourse. I'm not saying they don't enjoy it. I'm saying women, and some men, are missing ninety percent of what they could be experiencing. The secret is stimulating yourself first through fantasy! Thoughts are tremendously powerful! They seem real and feel real ! Remember, your brain doesn't know the difference between reality and fantasy.
My greatest joy in a relationship, is 'making love' in all the one hundred different ways. Each way is a single loving expression of my feelings toward her. It could be in words over the phone, of my desire to feel her skin next to mine. This, to me, is very special 'love making' ! Or, it could be slowly kissing her sensitive finger tips, one at a time. Perhaps tasting the soft, warm curve of her neck. These are all delicious sensual pleasures heightening the expectation of more and more exciting exploration. Each explosive kiss! Each caress by hand and lips! Each piece of clothing carefully removed are wonderful, exciting adventures in the art of 'making love'! This process should progress over many days. A multitude of stimulating side trips on the road to 'N.Y. City". Enjoy the ride !!
Dr. Jerrod