The Eight Rules Of Rebounding

a very good friend of mine is doing this right now and NOTHING I say can make her see reason. She broke up with her fiancé (they were together for three years and have a baby) on Tuesday June 16 and the following Friday she went out with this new guy and moved in with him by the following weekend. She insists they click and she is happy. She has two children and thinks it doesn’t bother them at all because he has a boat and they like riding it. I have tried everything to get her to slow down or at least get her own place and she swears he isn’t a rebound, just the guy she was meant to be with. I hope she is right 

My fiance was a rebound! Ha ha!

I rebounded with a nice guy and would've been happy had he not insisted we 'keep in touch'. It was long distance and at first he called me often, that stopped, then he emailed me a lot. That stopped. I got attached to him then he lost interest. I finally wrote him off telling him to never contact me again.

This is seriously one of my favorite post. I could have used this information 2 years ago, but it's cool. Thanks Frisky!

I disagree with the last portion of #4. Yes, getting cheated on isn't fun, but why start a war? I say walk away gracefully and don't look back.

I have to say that if you do rule one your are one of the worst people out there. I have had that done to me many times and it sucks a whole lot.
I also agree with rule seven get your own place to hang out.

poor kids!!!

they must feel like the world is over.

I've been the rebound twice, and never had a girlfriend before them. So naturally I got attached quickly and easily. Of course I didn't know I was the rebound. I guess the way she kept talking about her ex should've been a hint. I don't know. I just think it's pretty messed up that people think that they need to have sex with someone else to"forget" about their exes. I say just get over it. if your ex was a looser or a b**** it's not worth holding on to the past, and their mistakes. Now if both parties just want to get in and out, that's fine, but don't bring the ex into the conversations.
But girls need to know that most guys are two-faced bastards that only act like they love you in order to get in your pants. And many guys never grow out of it.
Although not all guys are assholes. So you just have to keep looking, unless you think you can change him; and if he loves you he will change.

Whoa Dixie! Crazy story! Were they dating before she ending the engagement? That seems a little extreme to move in after knowing somebody a week. I think sometimes people may not realize they are rebounding and not intentionally leading somebody on?

I was the rebound and knew from the moment we met I could/would be hurt. Even knowing it was coming, I still went down that path. And I was right I was hurt BAD. Then while I was still recovering from that, I met a wonderful man, we talked about everything, including the fact I was very in love with the last man. He said that he would wait him out, that he thought I was worth the effort. I just realized that he was right. I can't imagine a better man for me or in my life. Funny how life works out? And the one that hurt me? We are in touch, I feel for him, that he can't move on and he lost a great woman.

"missajames," though only 17, seems to have the most mature and meaningful post on this topic thus far, not to mention the facts she can spell, has good grammar, and knows how to punctuate. Take heed, ladies! You just might "loose" your man to someone like her!

Well, i used my exes bestfriend as a rebound. There not friends anymore, but i do have to blame my ex for hooking me and him up. So not all them rules are true. Cause me and him are doing fine and my ex still holds a friendship with me. Plus i wouldnt mind dating my rebound man.

do whatever your heart desires, who has the real answers to your situation

jiveturkey316 23
She claims not but... I mean WOW that is a bit fast!!!

I've got a ninth rule. DON'T REBOUND AT ALL. It only makes you look foolish, especially if everybody knows you just broke up with the guy or they broke up with you. Most of the time is doesn't work. If it does, you're very fortunate.

I've been there. I was engaged and we had been together for 1.5 years and after a 20 year marriage. So he was a rebound but he proposed with ring and made sure July 4th that my family knew while we were visiting on vacation. Odd thing is that he had another friend so called that emailed him 1wk prior to let him know she would be in town.His response was "unfortuately, I have to go out of town and I am sorry I missed you". Found out they text constantly and another girl called me last week to tell me after the breakup that he called and texted her constantly wanting her. She is 21 and he is 41. This is his daughters in laws sister,. So needless to say he knows I know. He has texted me to tell me to leave him and his friends alone or he will get me for harrassement. She came to me so he is nuts.. I am glad I found out before I married another loser.

Well, I am quite young, 17 actually, and even I must agree that rebounding is completely immature. I fell in love my first relationship, my Jr. year, and afterward, I knew that I had not gotten over him. My friends set me up with a guy who spoiled me and took me everywhere. But I knew that it was so wrong. Not only because he really seemed to like me, but also because I knew I was lying to myself. Having another guy hold me wasn't gonna make me forget my ex's touches, but make me miss them that much more. It was like everything was a comparison. I knew that I had to take time to myself.
Although I felt I would regret it at the time, my best decision was talking to my ex, and becoming his friend again. We separated on bad terms, but were able to overcome that hurt, and just enjoy each other's company again. No we're best friends again and hope to attend college together.
After telling the other guy that I really wasn't interested, and why, he really appreciated my not using him like my friends suggested. We're friends now too!
So from this whole little story here, I'm trying to get out: don't rebound. It's a denial technique that just makes things worse.

Yeah i made that bad mistake of getting with someone knowing that i WAS STILL MADLY ENLOVE with my ex. That really messed things up for me,my ex,and the partner i was currently dating.DONT DO IT TO YOURSELF,its the worst mistake you can ever make emotionally.

Its been aqbout 3 years and some change since me and the man i truely loved with all my everything just up and dumped me .We had broke up for a few weeks i dated this guy we know ended up pregnet oh my guy wasnt no angel during the split-we got back 2gether not 4long he went to jail Iwent to see him he said why are you here dam that hurt i said cuz i love u i am here 4 you he didnt want that life at all with me any more oh ya he let me also know i was getting to fat for his taste WHAT A PIG he did put me through HELL while i carried our daughter.ANYWAY he has spooked me from dating due to several reasons Will I EVER BE SANE AGAIN? SIGHNED LOST AND LONELY AND SOMEWHAT CONFUSED