Here, on Smitten, we're always trying to discover the secret to happy relationships. So we talked to blissfully married couple Kami and Kyle (even their names are cute!), and asked them to spill their relationship secrets...
Here's what Kami revealed:
Our relationship is like any other...we have our similarities and differences, our good times and our struggles. Like other successful relationships, our relationship works because we work at it. Specifically, there are four areas that have made a difference:
What Kyle does:
* He makes sure we stay in 'touch'. Not a day goes by without hugs and back rubs. Kyle will pull me out of whatever I'm doing to 'hug it out'. It doesn't matter if it's laundry, cooking, etc...there's never a bad time to hug. He also takes time to give me mini-shoulder massages throughout the day. Sometimes they are 10 seconds, sometimes they are 10 minutes…either way, they are always welcome. Also, the genius of tummy rubs.
What I do:
* I'm our 'communication' major. Kyle's non-confrontational nature means that he has a tendency to internalize things, whereas I was raised in a family where we spoke our mind. Whenever we've hit rough patches, I've made sure we sit down and talk through the situation until it's resolved. It's amazing how discussing issues right at the start can keep them from growing into something more problematic. Do You Prefer The Strong, Silent Type?
What we both do:
* Laughter is the best medicine. Kyle tells people that he fell in love with my laugh before we even met. We both have a goofy sense of humor, so it's not hard for us to find something to laugh at…usually each other.
* Spousal support. Whether it's Kyle staying late to get caught up at work, or my interest in blogging and photography, we both support and encourage each other's efforts in the areas that are important to us.
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