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What sexual things should everyone experience before they die? And how does someone who married young rank against those who didn't?
I got married at 25 and started dating my husband seriously at 23.
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Prior to that, I was in two very serious relationships (both of which ended in engagements) over several years and those three men sum up the grand total of my sexual experience. But what I lack in number of partners, I like to think I make up for in enthusiasm and can-do excitement.
I know I lucked out when I met Rob, so I would trade a few wild and crazy sexual experiences for the really good one of meeting my soul mate at 23 (actually, we met at 10) -- but this idea of "sexual bucket lists" does intrigue me.
Ninety percent of these can be done in the context of a loving, safe marriage (like mine). The rest, alas, I will have to leave to the single gals among us. But here is a list of 50 sexual must-dos before you die.
- Kiss a girl
- Have anal
- Have a threesome
- Engage in group sex
- Have phone sex
- Masturbate
- Use a vibrator
- Use a sex toy on someone else
- Be tied up
- Tie someone up
- Have sex in a public space
- Be a voyeur and watch others having sex (live, porn does not count)
- Sex in a car
- Sex at a drive-in
15. Mile-high club
16. Sex with a stranger
17. One-night stand
18. Married sex (the best kind, in my opinion)
19. Sex on a boat
20. Sex in a body of water
21. Light spanking
22. Read erotica
23. Play strip poker/Monopoly/card game
24. Sex in the shower
25. Sex standing up against a wall
26. Sex with no kissing
27. Sex in the pitch black
28. Sex in the broad daylight
29. Making out with no sex long after you're no longer a virgin
30. Sex in a tent in the wilderness
31. Watch porn together
32. Watch porn alone
33. Learn to give yourself multiple orgasms
34. Sex on the beach
35. Blindfolds
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36. Using ice sexually
37. Sexual role play
38. Whipped cream
39. La Perla lingerie sex
40. Frederick's of Hollywood lingerie sex
41. Sex with someone much older
42. Sex with someone younger (legal!)
43. Sex in a foreign country, possibly with a foreigner
44. A quickie in a skirt
45. A longie in the rain
46. Sex in the ocean while people swim all around you
47. Feather ticklers
48. Sex while "altered" whether by alcohol or something else
49. Learn to orgasm in less than five minutes from intercourse alone
50. Silent sex in a full house
How many have you done? And what's on your bucket list?
Written by Sasha Brown-Worsham on CafeMom's blog, The Stir
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