The X-Factor: The ignored or uncalculated risks cheaters take in love triangles.

qt4u, you are obviously involved with a married man if you really believe that crock of #$%@ you just posted. Sounds like you are trying to justify this type of behavior which leads me to believe you are engaging in it yourself. The problem with this explanation is that it excuses the cheaters behavior in order to blame the wife. That is pure bull!@#$ The only person responsible for this mess is Steve McNair and his mistress.

The truth of the matter is , when you have high profile men, they often get caught up in the sense of entitlement that being rich brings them. More money means access to more of everything, including women. When a man is selfish and lacks integrity, he will creep no matter if he is getting plenty of sex at home or not. The problem is the rush they get by having that "extra" on the side.
A greedy man will take it at home and away from home, it doesnt matter, and if he is letting his fame go to his head, he will definelty stray, because he feels like he can and that he deserves it. It takes a humble man to stay faithful, no matter what is going on at the house. This is why so many wives think their husbands are being faithful, just because they think they are meeting his needs, when in reality it has nothing to do with that and eveything to do with his integrity.
This is no doubt what happened: McNair was having a great time impressing this 20 year old girl with his money and fame, taking care of her and her family, (this is why her family says "she had it made" they probably condoned the whole thing) telling her things to make her think he was gonna leave his wife, but when things got too "real" for him, he probably broke it off,told her no way was he leaving his real life, she wasnt having it and she went for the "if I cant have you no one can" mode and shot him, she knew she was gonna do it thats why she bought that gun.
The person I feel for is his wife. How horrible it must be to find out about your husbands affair this way..now she cant even confront him. How is she gonna face her kids?
Men like this always think they are going to be smarter than the last guy..it wont happen to them. But when you mess around you dont know what you are going to get..I cant say I feel bad for McNair, maybe I should. But I do feel horrible for the family he left behind. Actually two families are in distress due to people being selfish.

Although I am morally opposed to acts like adultry, I believe that the behavior has deep roots in our basic natures. That is, evolution has keyed some of us genetically toward risk-taking behavior which in general is mathematically "rewarded." In other words, we have cheaters because cheaters successfully procreate and pass on thier cheating genes enough of the time to make it a significant strategy in the battle of survival of the fittest. If there was ever a time when monogymy ever conferred overwelming statistical advantange for numerical success--and this I doubt--I think that in the modern world that time is past. While I believe that people should stick to a partner and do what is socially best for raising their children, I cannot but see the evidence that cheating will always have mathematically positive outcomes [e.g. cheaters will always have more children than people like me], and so will always be with us. And I have no doubt that the common-sense crushing lust that some people "feel" is there because millions of years of natural selection have made them that way. Which is exactly why we have morals, laws, religion and custom set up in every society to try and curb the otherwise unbridled behavior. It is and will probably be a never-ending struggle to socialize ourselves out of otherwise mindlessly acting out like animals, doing what "feels good" rather than what makes sense.

Some people like the "rush" of doing something they know they shouldn't. Almost akin to bungee jumping or some other kind of adreneline sport.
When you add the fact that a lot of atheletes & entertainer's have not been told "no" in quite some time, they believe laws & certain morals do not apply to them.

Some men are glutonous when it comes to sex and that new exciting thing/toy/game. A wife or girlfriend whether in a marriage or serious relationship can be a beautiful, sexy and all the top qualities as she was when they first met, including being attentive, supportive plus have a stripper pole in the bedroom. The man will still take the risk if it so pleases him. Not all men think beyond the excitemnt or here and now, hence the reason they always get caught with their pants down. I sympathize with Steve McNair's family and with Ms Kazemi's family. In the end Steve McNair was being selfish!

Many times the wife is so terribly neglectful of her husband that he is forced to take such calculated risks. Perhaps if she was more in tuned with his needs he would not have felt it necessary to take such a gamble.

The money and fame for the athletes and the greed to have some type of escape for regular everyday men.