The following is an email exchange that occurred over the past few months with an EMandLO.com reader about how hating her imperfect body was keeping her from having sex with a smoking hot guy:
Butter Body: Hey, Em & Lo! So, I think that I just might (fingers, eyes, everything but legs crossed) get cozy with a guy I've been crushing on forever. We're friends, but frequently get a bit romantic when we hang out and naughty-text once in a while. I would love to have a relationship with him. He's funny, adorable, and we get along so well. Then there's the problem. He's HOT. I'm talking smoke show. Super muscular and athletic, cute face, perfect teeth - the whole shebang. All of my friends think he's a babe. However, I am not physically perfect. Far from it. Don't get me wrong, I think I'm quite pretty, but I have lost 140 pounds, and had a baby. So basically my body is WRECKED. I really need a tummy tuck (or three), but I can't afford it and insurance doesn't cover it. And no, it's not like a little pooch. It's a big ol' deal. I usually have great confidence in the sack because the few guys I've been with had their own body-quirks, too. I look pretty decent with clothes on, but I'm afraid that if it ever were to happen, he might get weird. (All of his past girlfriends had good bodies). I know I should be all "girl-power!" but I just don't feel that I can muster up enough to get nekkid in front of him. I don't want to not be my confident, happy self. I wish I could just ask him "hey, would this be a big deal?" but that seems weird. Help! Please sign me, ButterBody (everything's good but her body)
Em & Lo: We LOVE you! You are awesome. Let's make a deal: if we give you "official" advice, do you promise to write us back when/if you have sex with this guy and let us publish it on our site? We just love your voice! Let us know...
Butter Body: Yes, I will!! Thanks so much! This is killing me. For the meantime, I've decided that if the opportunity arises, I'm gonna hit that. Like a sledgehammer. :)
Em & Lo: Not sure if you noticed but we answered your question last week here [in which one of our tips is "Make like a honey badger and don't give a s---"]. Keep us posted!
Butter Body: Omg! You are fantastic. I've been on a trip in the boonies for a week and haven't had Internet access! I will keep you posted and send you an email soon because there's news to be had! Holler! :) P.S. We're totally friends and I about peed myself because my new honey badger T-shirt just came in the mail today! I adopted it as my new motto before I read your reply! Wha?
Butter Body: So...here's the deal. I worked, strived, so hard for this hard-bodied guy's attention. Never came. Once I stopped obsessing over how he'd judge my body, I found my own groove. Once I realized that I didn't have the best body, but that I was seriously ok with my tummy, I found a guy who not only thinks, but BELIEVES that I am the sex goddess that I am. He is not perfect himself, and thinks that I am. And I think that he is! The sex is hot and amazing. Yay!
Em & Lo: Aw yeah. You go, you crazy little badass honey badger!
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