Two-Night Stands: Why More Men Are Trying for Seconds

Shazam..... holy cow batman I knew it was the catwoman just by the way she said meow

george and betty.....better. not be over the stupid yoville comment I just randomly shouted nurse betty cause she was dressed in a nurses outfit. She went off and dave was there and saw it to. She sad she was saggy or something with some cuss words. I said wow dave and I just lol'd that's all you can do on yoville you know. And you can't see your self go to the bathroon either they block it out. That's even funnier

This is written as if the guy is victimizing the woman. She's participating voluntarily. There's no mention of deception.

When the hormons are raging, common sense is the last thing on anyone's mind. Nothing is more important then fulfillment, if you know what I mean. Afterwords It's a lot easier to see and think more logically. Reassess the situation and if the object of our affection still has that magic appeal, seconds are always good. Who knows but what that second meeting will bring, perhaps a lifetime of love and fulfillment between to special people!

very well said Pioneer. Brilliant. Bravo. Thanks for all that; I appreciate what you said, the way you said it.

Unbearable writing style. Please, please, please try to make your columns readable. You may have a point here, but I really can't stand to read all the way through to decipher it.

Sex does not equal a relationship or feelings... How long is it going to take for some women to figure this out????

precious? Oh man how about a lonely tree...what's with the cartoons unless your supporting a cause then I get it. I actually do like spongebob especially when he was rackin out to krocus I wanna rock with squidworth. But not so much starwars that's just not something I can get into.

If a person has sex with someone else in hopes of something else developing, then why are thy having sex first? If something more develops,awesome. But when you share that intimate a part of yourself with someone before you even really know them, you can't complain later on that the other independent person had different expectations. Well,you can,but really? Casual sex is just that: casual. As long as both parties involved are clearly aware of the circumstances and of mutual expectations, then it should not be a big deal. But the risk of unreciprocated interest in the personal arena is the risk you take if you have casual sex. Especially early on. I personally would have difficulty with having casual sex. I would feel uncomfortable sharing that part of myself. Hut if you can without emotional ramification, then more power to you. It is all about understanding intention and potential risk in all acts of interpersonal interaction.

Ah...nothing like maturity on the internet.

Anyway, casual sex is just that. Don't be surprised if someone hits the road after the 1, 2, 3rd time. Getting to know you shouldn't take place in a bedroom anyway.

I've been trying to wean myself away from Shine for about a couple of weeks now as the topics just seem to be getting more and more nonsensical as the days go by. I think it's habit that brings me back. Then I stumbled across THIS post.

It actually saddens me that in this day and age many, many women STILL don't get what is intuitively obvious to most men. That is that having sex with a man in the "hopes" that a relationship will develop out of it is one of the most unequivocally dumb things a woman can do. My theory on this is that way too many women are confusing "equality" with sameness. That is they're trying too hard to "act like" or to "be like" men in the name of equality (either that or they're watching way to many SATC reruns or taking fictional television and movie characters too seriously in general).

While I agree with what many of you are saying, to get to the point (author) you are way over thinking the "why" in this equation. Men are much more simplistic than women when it comes to sex and relationships. As someone else already mentioned, it takes the average guy a LOT of work and effort to get laid. If it's good and willingly provided, yeah, of course he's gonna want to come back and "hit it again!." Even average or below average-looking women don't need to put in half the effort a man does when he wants to have sex.

Men ALSO know that women (generally) tend to naturally bond when having sex. This is (apparently) not a hard and fast rule, but we all know it happens (generally). So it makes sense for a guy who is not interested in a "relationship" to "hit it and quit it" to use the authors words if all he wants is sex. As long as he's being honest about his NOT wanting a relationship when asked, he shouldn't be blamed for accepting what is being freely given with no contract or discussion about "what this all means."

Then comes love then comes marriage then comes a baby in a baby carriage that can't be me then sorry factory has liquidated and gone out of business

Christine, the articles are always about the "MAN and what HE chooses to do with a one night stand" because they are written primarily by women for women. It's not men writing these articles about what men want and why.

Frankly, if the majority of women having one or two night stands were REALLY okay with it we wouldn't see so many of these stupid articles about what pigs "all men are" for taking advantage of these poor, vulnerable women who got themselves hurt because "he should have told her that casual sex really was casual and not something more."

Okay, maybe that was a little sharp, but hopefully it illustrates the point that anyone who has casual sex only to learn later that it really was "just casual sex" should take a little responsibility and learn from the experience. Women can no more control men's behavior anymore than men can control women's. The best we can all do is modify our OWN behavior and be clear about any expectations up front BEFORE sex enters the equation.

Maybe

That's just gross. These woman are acting like prostitutes without getting paid. Oh wait, they have "needs" and watch SATC.

What your gonna have the runs or your be gascious and I said long beach dork not long island

each it's own--risk is the only way to go.

P.S. I like Everlong ......

I've left after the second sleepover. I actually ended it and didn't run out, I just explained it all in an email which he didn't bother to respond to. I like what Frederick B said about bringing it on if you want more and if there's something to discuss.........say it. So simple. I've always said what I mean and mean what I say. I wish more men were that direct instead of just disappearing or beating around the bush (so to speak...).

I agree this is better. Stay 2 nights and who knows what may happen...it's okay!