User post: Dear friends (you know who you are),

Oh I know exactly what you mean. I was always the single friend and all I wanted to do was tell my friend's "shut up, your boyfriend would give up the world for you!" I'm not annoyed with the friends with babies yet because all of my friends are having babies right now... so check ya in a few years. But get it out! And then go out and enjoy the no-strings lifestyle!

I can fix all of your problems. I want you to sit down, read what you have written, re-read, and continue to re-read it. Once you have read this enough, you will understand why you are single and get left out to dry. However, I will now take down all the pictures of our beutiful children and perfect little can't do wrong family for all of our envious single friends. Just Like Farra said, we only show you the side of our story we're proud of. I'll take a couple pictures of our newest edition getting some milk at 3 am so you can feel better about your single life.

My dad died, leaving behind my mom and my 3 other siblings. My mom struggles with a lot of stuff. The only friends she has outside of work are from high school, on myspace. She shares a room with my 9 yr old sister, so that I can have my own. She almost never gets new clothes or shoes. She drives a huge truck that she can barely get into because i took her honda. She never gets to go out unless we (the kids) force her to. We forced her to go see harry potter, that was the first time she had been to the movie theater in about 4 yrs. Her days off consist mostly of cleaning, because my siblings are slobs and I wont clean up after them. She has a son that doesnt care about her, even though shes always worked her @$$ off to keep him happy. She has a son and a daughter that have no respect for her. As for me, I feel bad for her. But shes given up hope of things ever getting better.
Ive never had kids, but i've seen the best and the worst of my siblings, and myself. Trust me, If you could see what our family is like, you just might avoid men completely.
I beleive that my parents weren't ready for marriage, or kids. So what if youre the only one of your friends thats single. You'll hae fun longer, and be more ready when you do settle down

Well said!! I sometimes feel the same way.

You are on the brink of 30 so you are 29, be happy you are single honey because most people get married at 35 these days..Plus you only see the good side you don't see how they feel when they wake up and feel old because they have kids and are married, you don't see how they feel when they look in the mirror and they are 20 plus pounds over wieght with stretch marks and a baby running around thats crys all day.. Also you don't know how it feels to hear something like college and your mind wonders to the fact that you can't save after the bills are paid now so how will I pay for my childs college in the future (this is how parents think). You don't see what really goes on in their house because people only let you see the good not the bad.. You don't know it feels to see girls that are younger than you and don't have kids and hangout with friends or have the choice to go on trips without carrying a baby around, and it hurts to know that your glory days are over and you are not cool anymore, and honey youth is important to women, but what they do have they are grateful for even if its just being married and having a baby. You need to be happy for what you have because chances are your life is much easier than theirs because realisticly children bring stress and being married bring stress not alway what us women want to recognize. When you get married you will not see what you did when you were looking on the outside because the reality is you saw what you wanted and what you want to see is not real honey...My sister is married and has kids and she feels old and stressed and she gets mad because her younger sisters live freely without children and she gets upset and thinks that she is left out of things because her kids come first... Heck your friends could be talking about her husband making breakfast this morning after he had an argument with her last night, so just chill being married is not what it is cracked up to be honey, its really not..You pray your friends continue to be happily married because in this country marriages are doomed and I am dead serious girl, I see clean through the smiles and talk of how good something like marriage is because the ones that talk so much are the ones that go through h*ll and have to make sh%t smell like roses..

I totally understand you!!! I am also close to 30 and the last of my friends (and family of 3 siblings) to have yet a husband or baby....I understand

Could you possibly be more self concerned?

Granted, the not calling to cancel stuff is bad whether a parent or not. Seriously, though. Do you really thing they are thinking of rubbing anything in your nose when they post cute things their baby says? I am married and have a child, and I can assure you, when my child hits a homerun, it's more likely that I am proud of what they accomplished. Not how I can grate your skin.

I think I understand why you aren't married.

interesting. here are some things to seriously consider:

- have you directly told your friends any of these 'concerns' you have? if not, things won't change.

- your married/partnered friends' lives are not perfect like they seem. being with someone and/or having children is A LOT of work. anyone that tells you otherwise is either lying or on sedatives.

- if you are truly happy being almost 30 and single, embrace your life as it is. go out and do things you enjoy doing. find a hobby, take an art class, join a book club, walk your dog, etc. eventually, you will meet other people with interests that match yours. these people might even be single men.

- remember, friendships do not always last forever. even some of your longest lasting friendships may come to an end if there is nothing to hold them together any more. in order for friendships to last, both friends must put work into the relationship and have things in common. sometimes, people outgrow each other. in your case, you might want to evaluate if you have outgrown your friends or if they have outgrown you.

good luck!
LA

You know, I think you need to find some single friends to mingle with. It shouldn't be too hard. Then you can have your single friends and your married friends. Just do all the single stuff with single people.

I feel u, me and my friends are the same way!!! lonliness does suck!!!! and it does suck when u get stud up

hope u feel better!!!

Great post. As the last of the guys to get married or have children I tend to get the subliminal implication that there is something wrong with me by my so called peers, which is what they are now, their status as friends has pretty much mutated into associates because they do not feel they need to participate in any courtesy nor consideration that I show them regarding communication.

Using the excuse of "kids" or "wife / husband" obligations is all well and good but when it's so consistent that the level of interaction with the (Married w/ children) is going to be so predictable, why bother, that's life, accept it for what it is.

Friendships take effort too just like any other nurtured relationship. Friends may not be as high on the priority list as spouses, children or SOs but they don't need to be taken advantage of for mere convenience because of the assumption since you do not have as many obligations or responsibilities you should orient your schedule around them 99.9% of the time.

Initiative and courtesy /consideration make all the difference. It's a choice.

Amen sister!!! I would like to add "When you say/act/think just because I have not birthed a child I do not know about children." You are just being rude and condescending.

Whether you are single or married (and some of us married more than once), we know it's not a picnic on either side of the fence ALL of the time. I know this won't help much, but be thankful your being single means you probably weren't willing to settle, unlike many others who end up divorced or unhappily married to the wrong one.

I think everything you say is perfectly valid. I'm married and I have a child, but I get where you're coming from and I'm sure it is hard to relate to married people. I think married people think they know what it's like to be single, b/c they once were, but seriously, we've forgotten A LOT!

Most of my friends are married, but I have a few single girlfriends. I will try to be more sympathetic of them. I would never be one to stand someone up though - that is just RUDE!

And it probably is a good idea to make some single friends. Then, you will have people who can be there for you.

Gripe worthy: your friends stand you up, go overboard about how cute thier kids/husband are/is.

Not gripe worthy: everything else.

Get over it or get new friends. That's life. We're all odd man out sometimes. Sometimes nobody on the playground wants to play with you, sometimes your the smartest person in the room. Sometimes you're the dumbest. Sometimes you're the only redhead in the whole family. SOmetimes your're the last single person. Sometimes...you just gotta get over it and grow up

Congratulations for being a fabulous single girl! You get to go out anytime you feel like it, wear the cutest outfits without worrying about baby drool all over them, use your money and your paycheck on YOU, travel, date, and meet new and interesting people! Release the focus on the qualities you think you should have and enjoy the good things you actually do have! No more head tilting honey, you are great and fab and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise! (PS: I am married but long for the fabulous single days).

girl be happy you are single and have nobody to clean up after, no diapers to change, 3 a.m. feedings, get to sleep in on the weekends, no babysitters to pay.......as I told my daughter, kids will hold you back from what you want to do. stop looking for Mr Right, travel the world, enjoy your life, marriage isnt always what its cracked up to be, believe me !!!

Why is that in 2009, women still judge themselves on whether or not they have a husband and children??? Enjoy this time for yourself!! Screw your neglectful friends and make some new single ones! The world is your oyster!!!!

Deal! Your self-absorption is the problem!

Amen, sister!