User post: Is porn bad for a relationship?

Isn't that the truth

Well I have to say that my wife hates that i look at porn it wasn't until she caught me looking at it that I became open with it and did not hide it anymore, I have to say that I only started looking at porn maybe two years ago, that would have been three years into my marrage, Now I have to say that I think sometimes a man can be drawn in to look at porn if he is not getting what he needs at home, I say that because that is how I came to look at porn, you see my wife is very strict when it comes to sex, thier is no oral sex, no moaning,ect... and we don't get to have fun with differnt positions, I use to ask for these things but all I got was an arguement and a lot of complaining, now days it is hard to even get sex twice a month. so I feel if a man is in my kind of situation he will be drawn to porn, I have to say also that I love my wife, I have some issues with her, but I still love her and have no thoughts of cheating on her with another woman, I am just a man who looks at porn maybe because of what i don't get at home,

it only gets worse.1st the porn, then comes the no strings attached hook up sites.that is called cheating.wake up and walk away fast.I speak from experiance, unfortunately.

I wish I knew what to tell you. I've been in a 5 yr relationship and I've always known that he liked porn. We even somtimes watch it together but my guy is not the type to go and go unless he's looking at porn but he wont with me. I'ts getting to the point where by the time I get home he's already satisfied and has become almost uninterested with me. At least most of the time. I'm not unatractive but it is hard not to be a little insecure when ALL the complements go to modles he will never meet.

pornography can be harmful but not in this case if you choose not to lt it. stand up and be secure in yor woanhood the fact that you posted this question shows a sincere love for this guy. he is lucky to have you but he is still he--- a man and as said before, flesh and blood like us all

Porn isn't a bad thing. I watch with my man occationally. It's a turn on. But the fact that he watches AFTER having sex with you is a little strange. If he is satisfied, that shouldn't be on his mind. It may be an addiction issue. If so, he is going to lie about it. You are asking him to give up something that he obviously likes, so he is going lie about it. Don't be hurt by it though. He obviously wants to be with you.

i fucking hate that he looks at porn i feel like i should fucking put a child lock on his computer be cause he looks at it so much.
i am very protextive it's not cool if he keeps doing it when i tell him it fucking hurts mee.
it's bullshit.

I used to hate when my man looks at porn but lately we havent been having sex as much and I thought well I've always heard about couples with that same problem who have used porn to spice up their relationship and well I tried it with my man and it works good so far we have had sex twice today.

Yes Men Like To look BUT !! If it dont set well with you And He (Cant OR Wont Stop )then it is a problem. be true to your self there are men out there that dont look at it! and those men are real men the type you marrie. GOOD LUCK BECAUSE WE ALL NEED IT IN THIS WORLD.

i feel that if he is with me then he shouldnt have to get porn to look at other women. iwould think that im not good enough for him or think maybe he wants to try things with different people i think its almost like cheating because its like having sex with someone else just not in person. yeah you can learn new things by it but i just dont like it!! and if he does get it he shouldnt have to lie to you about not having that no matter how upset you will get if he loves you enough then he will NEVER LIE!!

No you are not. I am going through the same thing. My fiance loves to watch it too. He hides from me because he knows I don't approve. This is a argument you will lose. Men (all men) love to watch porn. Unless he is a devout Mormon, he is going to get from somewhere. I tried to keep my man from it, but it doesn't work. I even told him to let's watch a couple of them together, but I coulnd't, I started to get disgusted. So he keeps them at his house and when I come over he hides them in the back room closet. My mother once said that men watch porn to keep feom cheating, but to me, when he looks at another woman naked, that is cheating.I have expalined to him how much it hurts, nut he still keeps them. I think men just have to have some kind of outlet that they hide from us; with some men it may be gambling, drinking, or even cheating, but this is about the same thing. I gave up trying to keep him from it even though he knows it hurts me. He always says, I'm not cheating, I just like being entertained. I still don't approve. No matter how much you fight it, it's still going to happen. If I were you, when you see that he has been watching porn, start being cold toward him to really let him know that you are hurting, then get away from him for awhile. I started doing this and he has noticed it, and he asked what's wrong and i tell him that it is inappropriate. I have noticed that a few of them hve left his house, I don't know if he let someone else borrow them or if those just got old to him. Just let it go, I know it hurts, but they won't stop. No matter how freaky we are, they still want to see other women do it. I'm not saying give up on it, just don't try to fight and win everytime. One day, when their childish minds have gotten over it, maybe just maybe, they will decide to give it up, but don't hold your breath!

Sara, it is what you make it to be...if he cares about you and knows that you are uncomfortable with the whole porn thing, then he needs to man up and stop. If you're willing to be involved in it, then he needs to find a way to let you in along with his fanatasies. You're right, it is all about trust and respect. If there is trust and respect in your relationship, you'll be able to work it out. Now if he's looking at porn and not having sex with you....thats a whole other issues...hence my case...

My Ex-husband was porn obsessed. He made a mess out of our computer desk, wanted me to wear bikinis and lingerie that he saw. Im a little over weight and that idea made me uncomfortable. I tried to bring my own ideas of sexy into the bedroom and it didnt work for him. He wanted braziliian waxed, fake tanned, stripper outfits and well nothing I did worked for him. He wasn't happy with me anymore. So he is now my ex. My next beau wasn't into porn at all and loved my body and my style like he didn't know any different.

Yes Men Like To look BUT !! If it dont set well with you And He (Cant OR Wont Stop )then it is a problem. be true to your self there are men out there that dont look at it! and those men are real men the type you marrie. GOOD LUCK BECAUSE WE ALL NEED IT IN THIS WORLD.

oh hell no If i found out that my b/f was watching porn behind my back .. to me thats like cheating.
I call him a PIG!!!!

It's not a big deal. Sometimes guys come and then they still want to look at stimulating stuff.. It dosent mean he dosent want you or you cant satify him. It's just like sometimes when after sex a guy can be hard still after coming, does that mean you didnt fullfill his needs? No. It's just that he can go again, What about you do you feel that way? Or are you completly done after every episode? Porn is a way for people to stimulate and fantasize andjust do a little daydreaming, It's ok and who cares how much, unless it takes precidence over attention to you or kids or costs a job orit get sick like Child porn. Then there is a limit, people always say that it grows and becomes a monster, not true then in that case wouldnt normal sex corrupt people and we'd all be doing sick deviant stuff out of necessity. We know that is not the case, ao dont make a big issue of it and hey enjoy it, you my get new ideas or a hot romp afterwards.

No you are not. I am going through the same thing. My fiance loves to watch it too. He hides from me because he knows I don't approve. This is a argument you will lose. Men (all men) love to watch porn. Unless he is a devout Mormon, he is going to get from somewhere. I tried to keep my man from it, but it doesn't work. I even told him to let's watch a couple of them together, but I coulnd't, I started to get disgusted. So he keeps them at his house and when I come over he hides them in the back room closet. My mother once said that men watch porn to keep feom cheating, but to me, when he looks at another woman naked, that is cheating.I have expalined to him how much it hurts, nut he still keeps them. I think men just have to have some kind of outlet that they hide from us; with some men it may be gambling, drinking, or even cheating, but this is about the same thing. I gave up trying to keep him from it even though he knows it hurts me. He always says, I'm not cheating, I just like being entertained. I still don't approve. No matter how much you fight it, it's still going to happen. If I were you, when you see that he has been watching porn, start being cold toward him to really let him know that you are hurting, then get away from him for awhile. I started doing this and he has noticed it, and he asked what's wrong and i tell him that it is inappropriate. I have noticed that a few of them hve left his house, I don't know if he let someone else borrow them or if those just got old to him. Just let it go, I know it hurts, but they won't stop. No matter how freaky we are, they still want to see other women do it. I'm not saying give up on it, just don't try to fight and win everytime. One day, when their childish minds have gotten over it, maybe just maybe, they will decide to give it up, but don't hold your breath!

i have sex and still look at porn sometimes my date an i look together
we dont have a problem jacklen

I think porn is a good way of learning new positions. same routine will eventually get boring. I say you get over it and try watching it with him. Hey you'll probably like it.

Think of it like this: porn is the menu and you are the meal. Just make sure he makes you feel special or the menu is all he gets!