Valuing a persons' opinion; how far is too far when you no longer listen to yourself?...
In our time of despair we tend to require the advice (e.g. opinion) of a friend or love one. But does their opinion become the determining factor for our life choices? We are apt to convince ourselves that another opinion is necessary when the choice we have to make is extremely grave for our immediate or long-term outcome.
How often have we felt that the given advice we received, we weren't quite in agreement with its message. Although our friends and loved are only attempting to ease our minds with soothing words and cheerful advise, their judgment is not always the best choice for us. Although we appreciate their opinion on the situation, ultimately we are left to live our life's with their suggested choice (e.g. advice).
Most of the time which is more frequent then others, we only want to vent on the situation; not necessarily obtain a full opinion on what we already know within ourselves on what the end result of the matter will truly bring. We are often at times apprehensive of the accurate conclusion that lies within our hearts and minds due to a sudden shift in our lives that introduces change.
Change is often perceived as a failure, a mistake, erroneous and unacceptable. If only we can welcome change as a new beginning to a genuine happiness and view change as simply taking a different route then we initially anticipated to achieve the same aspirations. We then would become less hesitant to trust our own opinion rather than value the opinion of someone else. Change must be seen as assisting us in the decision. Encouraging us to capture once again our true happiness. Identifying the good in change can make it all the easier to transition our life.
Spirituality teaches that we must love ourselves, know our inner highest self, and believe (e.g. trust & faith) in ourselves. Christianity preaches that we first must love God and others the way we love ourselves. Self-love is the gateway of trusting and knowing who we are and what it is we truly want in our hearts, soul, spirit and minds. Once we have discovered self-love we expect no lesser love then the love we express to ourselves in our duration of existence on earth. After discovering self-love nothing or no one could ever misguide us or choose for us what is befitting in our lives.
When it comes right down to it, the most valuable advice is our own advice. How a person perceives you are merely their perception on the matter, it's not the final choice or the final word on the issue. Only if you belief their opinion is valuable and accurate then it will be or is.
Opinion is defined as a personal view: the view somebody takes about an issue, especially when it is based solely on personal judgment: expert view: an expert assessment of something.
Expert is defined as somebody skilled or knowledgeable: somebody with a great deal of knowledge about, or skill, training, or experience in, a particular field or activity.
These definitions lead me to ask, when did we begin allowing persons to first judge us without consequences and then become and expert on our life issues?
True we may have friends that have known us throughout our lives but that still does not give them titles to become the judge or jury on our life choices (e.g. freewill). They themselves aren't always able to confront their own problems without deep contemplation from within themselves.
What people think about us or our life choices is of no importance. It's what we think about ourselves that does all the damage or progress. Our opinion about ourselves holds complete value of all that we are and all that we can be. Our friends and family are not the influences in our lives. They are just another view point to help in confirming our real choice/s. We must become our own influence first so that we then are able to encourage others.
Our life choices are lessons that we are meant to face and confront as human beings in this society we call world. Without these lessons we are unable to strengthen our minds, unable to unlock our courage, and also unable to become enlighten by our spirit (e.g. inner most high self). If we do not trust our own choices and/or our own advice we then lose out on the necessary lessons to complete and fulfill our life purpose.
This is why we are always inclined to listen to own instinct or intuition or our own feelings because this is where the true answers lie, within our own selves and lessons are intended for us to learn while inhabiting earth.