VIDEO: "Help! My Husband and I Keep Fighting About the Dirty Dishes!"

I just eat out of the pan over the sink. Paper plates for when the Queen of England stops by.

Perhaps this woman is feeling taken advantage of and is focusing on this one aspect to make a point. I personally like doing dishes, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc., but if you feel taken for granted then it becomes a chore and a resentment.

If you keep having the same fight over and over again then it's not about the topic of the fight.

Have you listened to the topic and taken the agreed upon actions? If not then the fight is about not doing anything to solve the problem. If you have then something else is underneath and the fight is a symptom not the problem itself. Take action and see if you need to dig deeper.

Sounds like a lack of communication and working together as partners to me. Not sure how long you have been married but I would think you have some kind of patern or structure in your marriage, like my g/f works later a few days a week so I make dinner, do dishes and pick up around the house. When shes home early she takes care of it, neither one of us complains and there is never a argument over things that both should be taking a turn in doing.

this is a problem in are culture, we all know dishes are a woman's job! so quit being lazy and get'em done! and hurry up because you could probably get the grass cut before the sun goes down!

Compromise. I cook, he does dishes. He washes laundry, I fold. I leave drawers open, he closes them. He leaves cups laying around, I pick them up. The last two were a part of a very honest conversation where we both said what we honestly forget. It used to drive me crazy to pick up his cups but now I find it enduring because I know he closed the drawers I left open and it's not a big deal. The point is to love each other.