What Broke the Deal?

Humm...Yes deoderant is useful. I feel like a guy that really likes you will give u a piece of gum a few times.Not dump you, thats just an excuse unless they have some phobia.I think some guys are out for sex, then you get some truely looking for a partner.And they appreciate one when they find one.I am 47, and I will never forget a bus ride I took one summer as a young woman in my twenties.A elderly gentleman just so happened to be sitting next to me and we started a conversation. During which he said," You know young people work way too hard at love when it is so simple. You either do or you don`t." That statement was like an angel sat next to me and I had no questions about why a man chose to make the decisions he did threw my life. Its a bitter pill to swallow but thats the way it goes.

Seem to have forgotten the pet thing. Too much attention to pets, means no attention to you. It works both ways. Did you ever notice how many "Single Cat Ladies" there are? We don't want to compete with animals. If we are to be attentive, so should our women!!

Vagina has a sexy natural smell, but if the cooter just flat out stinks. . . I mean. . .come on. No excuses for that.

Funny now that I think about it he was the only guy I ever asked that question to, it was 3 months after we started seeing each other. A situation happened & things were just different after that so I wanted to know before I put myself out there again. Now I know I did it one too many times & admitted that to him but realize I kept compromsing on what I wanted that is why I kept doing it. You live & you learn, C'est la vie.

I feel like #4 can be a catch 22, since half the time I go out on a date the guy is pressuring me to drink more than the couple of drinks I am comfortable with. Of course, if I were to take his lead, drink the extra cocktails and look a little sloppy, it would be a turn off unless his plan was to get me sloppy drunk so he could try to get me into bed (not going to happen). By not taking his lead he sees me as uptight. For the most part the above listed reasons for not calling are completely valid, but with something like that, the other person really needs to assess their behavior as well. How much are you drinking? Did you pour your date more wine without asking if she wanted it? When the waiter came around did you order another round without asking your date? If you chose the atmosphere of the date, did you pick a place generally associated with a couple of leisurely glasses of wine or good microbrews or a place that is more of a heavy drinking scene? I am not a big drinker and have a very low alcohol tolerence. Occasionally I'll go a little overboard in a group of good friends, but I am usually content to stick to my 2 glass of wine over 4 hours buzz. Guys are not always so content with that decision and for me, that is a reason to not pick up the phone when they call me for another date. As far as hygiene goes, bad hygiene is gross on anyone, male or female, and most guys are not up to par in that area (even the ones that think they are). I think everyone should take good care of themselves, but guys who expect women to follow standards like keeping up with waxing and shaving, getting manicures & pedicures, maintaining great hair, having sparkling clean teeth and fresh breath, etc all of the time should look in a mirror, check how their hands and feet look, take a look and a whiff downstair, consider the last time they manscaped, scrubbed and powdered that area, go to the dentist, stop smoking and be become more vigilant about brushing 3 times a day, flossing 2x daily and using mouthwash. Also, unless you are going to pay upwards of $100 every month to have the hair ripped off of your balls or are willing to put a sharp, slippery object around those sensitive areas everyday, don't expect that your girlfriend should do it.

first of all the person pixie that said a womens p---- suppose to have a oder thats a lie that part of the body aways surpose to b smellin good, because i know i keep mines smellin good and clean always. so men are right never talk to a women who's p---- smells cause thats nasty.....

a dealbreaker for me is, if she lies,family judgeing you,listen to girl friends,not respectful to herself and dont pass my test of honesty. always asking buy her things. that is a RED flag........most women think they're to good so thats a factor ...materialistic pride can kill off any GOOD relationship.

LOOK, THEY ALL LIE.. THEY SHOULD REALIZE THAT THEY CAN'T HIDE THAT FROM A MAN.. FURTHER, FEMS HAVE BECOME LAZY IN THE LAST 20 TO 30 YEARS ; YES, THAT INCLUDES THEIR PERSONAL HYGIENE.. I'VE SPOKEN WITH A FEW MEN WHO FOR A TIME STOPPED ASKING ANYONE OUT DUE TO THAT 'ODOR' SYNDROME THAT IS DISCOVERED LATER IN THE EVENING.. IT'S SAD THAT MOST BROADS DON'T CARE ANYMORE.. THEN WHEN THEY LOSE ALL THEY HAVE ARE QUESTIONS ?? GET A CLUE GIRLS..

To many women listen to the girlfriends and if they don't think he's "RIGHT" for you it's a bad thing for you because they think if they would not go out with you then you should not either.

Why did he stop calling? He didn't like you much. Who cares why?

trying to establish a relationship to soon: i agree but men need to realize that if you want to take your time to build on a relationship you need to take your time with sex....no sex

I actually agree with this list, with the exception of the family. Some people are not close to their family or are nothing like their family and if that is the case there is no need to snip them out of your life because their fam sucks. I think number 5 is hilarious, but I'm not surprised. A lot of people BOTH men and women don't know how to use soap AND a washcloth. The ear wax thing though- I mean, that's just weird. Who ignores their ears so long that they have noticeable wax?? That's just odd.

#3 is kind of stupid IMO, if a girl Im dating has a s---ty family (and a few have) then I just don't hang around them. Why should it stop me dating a great girl? Maybe as a girl its a dealbreaker if your family and your guy dont get along, but usually those types of families aren't crazy and/or douchebags.

Finally it's about time the men get to tell their stories.
I have wasted way too many dates talking to someone with dog breath.
It's about time someone said something.
I never talk to a woman unless i'm chewing gum.
ladies you need to cut down on drinking and start brushing your ENTIRE mouth more!
It's really disgusting and you wonder why no one talks to you.
and sometimes their parents are true @$$h0les and you get treated like the Ex boyfriend before you even get through the door!
and screw the whole dealbreaker scenario there's no deals until I put a ring on that finger! ;)
I have dated every race and every creed and your all the same money hungry materialistic zombies!
your so predictable it's stupid.

These seem really superficial. If a guy is that superficial, I'm not sure I want him to keep calling.

for me the deal is that i love my woman but dislike her mom she's way to unpredictable

I admit I'm guilty of number one & but learned not to take the relationship to that level too soon & then ask that question because by then for some emotions are involved & you may start to compromise. Figure out what you want when it comes to a relationship & where you see this going.

Lol guys have been guilty of this too! It goes both ways. In fact, my experience has always been the guy saying "I love you" before me. I'm talking before month 3 in being an offical couple. Well, my biggest turn of for guys is hygiene and girls for the most part seem to be better than guys at that! I don't like a guy who drinks like a fish either and his friends are important. In fact, a major deterrent in me every dating my recent ex is the fact that all his friends were losers. He had a job and was stable when I met him. Well in the span of 8months he lost his job and was broke and mooching just like his friends. Still no job. They hate my guts, never got to know me, and they all cheat on their girlfriends with their guy friends girls! Oh, and they all live in government housing which pays them to live there and they don't work and they are all between 18-23. So tell me why someone that young with no health or mental issues needs my tax dollars spent on them.

Family and friends can have their opinions but it doesnt mean I have to listen to them and take their advice.

Both men and women are guilty of trying to establish a relationship too soon. Take it one day at a time and learn to really know each other first. Then get to know his family.