What Is Off Limits To Criticize Women About?

Yes, I know it's an old thread. It's unacceptable to have different standards for men who criticize women than for women who criticize men.

By the way, it's a good thing to receive criticism.

If you don't want the truth then don't ask the question. Women are fu!@ing psycho anyway!!!

WHAT ABOUT "IT'S YOUR JOB" OR "IT'S YOUR DUTY" LIKE FOR INSTANCE,...CHANGING THE BABY'S DIAPER...(THAT TOOK YOU BOTH TO MAKE), OR DOING THE DISHES, ETC. ETC...ANY COMMENTS TO THAT?? :)

Critical item is "late braking" in the car. This is potentially dangerous, especially on wet roads. Late braking does not give people behind you time to react. Plus it is extra hard on your brake pads and rotors, which are not cheap to replace anymore. Late braking is dangerous.

Commenting on outfits is OK if you have something nice to say or can suggest something better. I hate pedal pushers. So I suggest pants which make her legs look longer. Win-win. You can criticize as long as you have an alternative to offer.

Sorry, but if you can't talk about these items at all, your relationship is doomed. How is one suppose to discuss issues of real importance, like, finances, child raising, etc., if they can't talk openly about something as superficial as weight, what they're wearing, etc.? I'd actually go so far as to say that FINDING a way to talk about it openly and honestly will benefit your relationship down the road. To avoid the issue at all can simply lead to communication problems down the road.

Hair: style, color, true color or not, length, cut, thinning, etc - ANYTHING - guys don't comment about our hair, unless it is a GREAT, NICE COMPLIMENTARY comment, and then, you should still think first!

....Hmm.....all this is true and the clothing comment DON"T EVERY SAY THAT!!!!! Literally I think you learned your lesson, but that doesn't mean I can explain it to you! When a girl spends money on a new expensive dress they want to be praised...like "You look great in that!"
and "you look so skinny in that it fits you perfectly!" those are the best things to say...trust me I'm a girl!

i do have to agree with John. Its a good point

This article is ridiculous. Exactly what is wrong with this country, as a matter of fact, exactly what is wrong with this world. Why are people so afraid of the truth? I just celebrated my 5th anniversary yesterday (In Los Angeles that's saying something) and our 12th year together. I told my wife 45 more to go. And god willing we will get there. You know why? Because we don't follow these stupid conventions. There is also a reason why 50% of marriages end in a divorce. Nothing should be off limits in a marriage (conversation wise)! Not critical, not attacking, not demeaning but respectful and helpful. My wife knows this is where I am coming from because she is my queen and my heart. You can't discuss weight or appearance or anything else. C'mon! Let me ask this question to all of you? Why is it the first thing a person, man or woman, does after a break-up is some form of self improvement. Woman and Men start working out to lose weight and work on their appearance, because no one wants to go through life alone. So if this is true. Then what you are telling me is some possible, hypothetical bozo is more important that your current significant other. So why can't we mutually hold each other to a higher standard. Think about it Ladies and Gentlemen and stop being soft. Long lasting relationships take and need just these type of conversations!!!!!

Claire, you sound so typical; power to the people... Which is why I married happier company (spanish).

My mother tough me "If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything" So here goes________________________________________________________________________________.

Wow, women will constantly try to "improve" them, but don't say anything to women? Wow. Talk about a double standard. This is one of the dumbest articles I've ever read in the advice area. Clearly you have no real experience in a relationship that has any real chance of survival.

This is a bunch of crap. If women don't want to hear the things that their men are feeling or thinking, then dump the stupid bitch. For Christ sake, enough with emasculating men. Once a relationship is grounded, every topic is fair game, if not, get out.

I have one thing to say to both genders and anyone who wishes to be wise in all of their relationships. That is to leave the 'COMMENTS' to inanimate objects only!!! The best way to approach someone on a possibly sensitive subject is to offer helpful solutions to what they are doing especially if what they are doing can hurt or truly upset someone.
Thank you all for caring enough and keeping this in mind the next time.
With Gods Love
Dawn P

ya better not comment on her hygiene or scent either.

duh.

Some call it criticism, I call it growth.

If we can swallow our pride (or the false image of yourselves)
we don't need to feel hurt by criticism. Accept it, learn from it
and move on.

so, women can can say things about my friends and i can't say anything about hers. Relationship over.

heaven forbid you let a gf know she's put on some weight. It's probably just better to keep quiet about it until she puts on so much weight she is no longer attractive to you and then just break up with her. That's probably the better policy.

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Women on the other hand can criticize at will and without limit. The writer of this article has no credibility whatsoever. Get a real job and quit being a hater.