Want to know if your relationship is built to last or doomed to failure? It's all in the telling of the story.
By Samantha Leal for TheNest.com
Did his sexy smile and cute dimples do you in? Did you see her and know she was the one? Do you make jokes about how you fell in love with him despite that hideous shirt? Interestingly enough, how you describe the way you and your significant other met speaks volumes about your chances for success as a couple in the long haul.
According to Tara Parker-Pope, author of For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage, the actual details of how you met are trivial -- the telling of the story is what really matters. Unhappy couples tend to paint their "how we met" stories with mild criticisms and cast it in a more negative light while those in happy marriages recount the beginning of their lives together with a more positive outlook, often laughing and smiling when retelling to others.
We asked members of TheNest.com to share how they met their partners. Here's a few of their "how we met" stories:
"I met my husband when we were just 16 at my first job at Crate & Barrel. He was hopelessly stuffing a pillowcase with the wrong size pillow and time stood still. I knew he was the one. We became good friends and started dating in our mid-twenties." - ElizacbCheck out other real couple turn-ons
"We met on the first day of college. We both had entirely different majors but we were in the same elective course. I normally don't talk to random people but actually had a conversation with a friend earlier that day on how to change my antisocial ways. When I arrived at class I first took a seat at the back of the room, but then I remembered that conversation so I plunked down between two guys sitting in the front row and immediately introduced myself. I talked to both of them for the entire class. The first thing I thought about my now-husband was that he was the cutest nerd I had ever seen. That was nearly five years ago and I still can't believe I got to marry him!" - StellarShunty
"We met at the first practice for our coed flag football team. While running drills, we somehow got tangled up together and fell to the ground. I ended up hurting my wrist. He felt horrible about it and asked me out for a drink that following weekend. I showed up at our apology date with a cast on my arm -- he actually broke my wrist! We immediately hit it off and that night we both knew we found the one." - KellyPotter24
"My best friend in high school was a drummer, so I met my husband when they started a band together with mutual friends. My friend knew what kind of guys I liked and sent me a message with a link to his blog. When I checked it out, I thought he was cute, so I started talking to him on AIM. After a few weeks of chatting online we found out that we were both going to the same local show, so we decided to meet in person there! We started dating shortly after, and then after seven years we're finally married! The best friend who introduced us was one of the groomsman! I think in his version he'd talk it up about how much I chased him...I was pretty aggressive at 16!" - MeganJane86Check out these offbeat date ideas
"We met at work. His story: Coworker gave him the heads-up once he saw me standing in the lunchroom, he looked over but was too nervous to say hi to me. He saw me later in a conference room and 'just walked in to check it out' while on the phone. My story: I saw the most gorgeous man I have ever seen walk into a conference room where I was attending a Super Bowl potluck. I couldn't stop thinking about the cute guy I saw at work from then on. Later: My department trained his department so we were both hoping that we would meet again at training and were really surprised and happy when we did. That was the day the magic happened, and I knew he was the one. He says the same!" - Kaylenelizabeth
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