Why Beauties Get Cheated On Big Time!

what is wrong with most men today, i am good looking charismatic and intelligent and full of fun,yet time after time i meet the same men who are really keen then just let me down, by the way i am not an easy lay, but very a kind and pleasant person. I am very disappointed not to have met Mr. right by now!!

Oh, pur-lease! Men who go for the most beautiful also want the most women, period. They are not genuine to begin with.

The problem is that the charismatic men who are likely to cheat yada yada ya are the only ones with the guts to go up and talk to a beautiful woman! We are human too... we need love and attention and a good relationship... so message to all the good guys.... Don't be such chickens! Ask us beautiful women out!!!

Posted by Joy in Seattle 20 minutes ago

"Men cheat for EMOTIONAL REASONS. It's not about sex."

HAHAHAHAH MEN CHEAT FOR SEX & EGO BOOST !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! period

One more thing. Somebody upthread mentioned that his cheating wife fell for a fantasy. That's a big thing. Fantasies, whether sexual or romantic, if allowed to overcome your common sense and hold on reality, can absolutely wreck your life. This is especially appropriate when we're talking about anything to do with Hollywood, which trades in fantasy not just on-screen but in celebrity relationships.

Real life is NEVER like the movies. In real life, car chases tend to end in piles of mangled metal, Jack Bauer would be dead or in prison long since, and we (mostly) all know that.

But a lot of us, of both sexes, fall hard for the romantic/sexual fantasies spun out by the romance novel/movie and adult entertainment industries. I link those two together quite intentionally, they have much in common. Both feed innate appetites in men and women (and not always in the stereotypical ways, there are guys who eat up romantic comedies and ladies who like porn, though we know which way the trend runs) that real life does not, and _can not_ fully satisfy.

If we forget that movie romantic comedy relationships are just as much fantasy as Jack Bauer and Indiana Jones, we can start judging real life relationships by fantasy standards, to which they can never measure up, and that in turn can lead to cheating, where the fantasy can be lived out...for a while.

Fanasy isn't necessarily bad, but we should always be careful to remember that it is just that, and that the guy in the romance novel doesn't exist, never existed, and can't exist, like the Swedish Bikini Team and cars that jump over trains in car chases.

ALL MEN CHEAT!!!

To some of the above posters, I find it impossible to believe that 'serial cheaters' all do so because "the woman is being all me, me, me" as the reason for every woman a cheating man cheats on. Some men just get a thrill out of 'catching' as many women as possible, all the better if they're especially attractive; they don't care about their significant other, because if they did they WOULDN'T BE CHEATING.

IDK..My theory is its emotional too.
My BF and I were going through some hard times this past month because of our trust issues. Both him and I never cheated but were very close to doing it.
I found his text messages, he never found mine but I did own up to them.
Anyhoo, Im thinking he did it because I was making more money than him and I was working part time..He was working two jobs for us. He also couldnt pass the cop test and I feel that he just felt he was a plain loser and needed someone else to make him feel better. I never treated him as a loser but I do remember one drunken night he said "YOU THINK IM A LOSER RIGHT?" Im like what tha? No, I love you. Anyhoo, when he started doing that, I didnt know of course but I had a feeling, I started looking for someone to pay attention to me too.
ANYHOO, Im hoping we can both move on from this. We just need to communicate more on both our needs or expectations for each other to keep us together.
Hopefully now that we identified our problems we can move on because we really do love each other...
Just my experience and theory.

I think its harder for an attractive woman to find a good man. Her good looks make him insecure and she has to try harder to prove her intrest making her come off as needy or high maintenance. If she in anyway acts cool or rejects him he thinks it's because she has a dozen guys lined up. I think less attractive people meet people who actually fall in love with thier personalities and feel more comfortable making a bond.

Not all men cheat. Also, just because someone cheated in one relationship, doesn't mean they'll cheat in future relationships. People do learn and grow.

I am a very physically attractive woman. I'm not trying to be conceited, but I am. I will tell you right now that being beautiful physically does make it difficult to date for the above reasons and more. As proven by many people commenting here, a lot of people dismiss someone who is physically beautiful as stupid, high maintenance, shallow, lacking a personality, a gold digger, etc. I am none of these, but sometimes as soon as someone sees me, they assume I am and there isn't much I can do to change that perception. As a result, I meet plenty of men who would like to take me out, but very few who actually give a damn about who I am as a person. Dating is beyond difficult. I tried online dating for about 2 weeks and kept getting asked "why are you single" by men who obviously hadn't bothered to read a word of my personality profile. That's why I'm single. I'm single because you are only interested in my face and my body and as far as good qualities go, those rank as two of the least important ones I have to offer. Work is the same way. I have to work twice as hard to get past my beautiful face and youthful appearance and be taken as a serious, intelligent, capable person. Sure, I may get a job more easily because I am attractive and interview well, but I also have to work extremely hard at that job not to be dismissed as just another PYT. I've actually been asked on several occasions why I even want to work my a** of to build a career when I could just get an easy job as a secretary and find some rich guy to take care of me.

Recently I was cheated on by a good guy (think the complete opposite of the bad boy type) who I had a wonderful emotional and physical relationship with. He was my best friend for years before we became more. He didn't cheat on me because I wasn't enough for him or anything like that. He cheated on me because the concept of commitment, being held accountable, having to grow up and the possibility of investing fully in something that could possibly fail was too much for him. He couldn't handle it, so he freaked out and destroyed it. Cheating with someone who will never be more than a fling and running away from what we had was easier than dealing with all of the above. Looking back, I realize running away from things that require commitment, accountability, possibility of failure, etc. is a consistent pattern for him. I don't know why I didn't see it earlier. That is why this intelligent, sensitive, funny, hansome, wonderful man is in his late 30s, has no children (even though he loves kids and desperately want to be a father) and has never been married (even though he apparently wants that as well). The truth is, he loves the TV image of that life, but freaks out anytime he might have to deal with the responsibility and commitment it takes. Cheating, or finding other ways to destroy opportunities, is an emotional thing for him right now that I hope he will eventually get past (even though any chance for us is gone) because he is a good guy 95% of the time. Right now he's just a good guy who is acting like a complete jacka**.

Nobody ever said beauty was the answer to keeping a man faithful, by maintaing one's individuality, uniqueness and some what independence not to mention confidence ooozes sexual appeal and keeps a man intrigued. You can't do nothing with a "man" who is out for his own desire...Karma is a B**** and she will come back everytime!

A wise friend once told me that all women want the bad boy because they think that they can be the one who will change them. Not true ladies!! Sorry to say this, on second thought, no I'm not ALL men cheat we say we want the nice guy but then complain that he's not manly enough so we get a jerk a wish we had a nice guy. It is a never ending cycle of up and downs and we won't ever figure it out. I do know what goes around comes around and sometimes with a vengance. Just try and be good to the partner you are with now cause you never know!!

Happiness starts from within and being faithful is a commitment of true love that only those people who love themselves completely and have the strength to give themselves to another human being can accomplish. It is not about beauty or ugly. If you love yourself, love your mate, understand and respect each other, and are willing to commit, you can have a succesful relationship with anyone and that person will love you back! Guaranteed.

Because a ugly fat chick appreciates a good looking guy being with her and will get kinkly in the bedroom. A pretty girl thinks she's too good to please a man LOL

It is comical to read so many naive 'truths'..
The one that never seems to emerge is there;
for Ex: If I have been very active with 30 women
and I don't mean 'one timers' just affairs of
at least a little bit of time together, while their husbands are at work or out of town etc., am I then the
'man always cheats kind of a guy'??
It seems to me that 30 to 1 odds are in favor
of the lonely, ignored, abused, active 'Woman/women' being the cheaters.
Think about it............. ;-)

I'm 53yr old, I'm no silly young girl...been around seen a thing or two ok? Men cheat when the thrill of the chase/persuit is OVER plain and simple. Men get turned on by the chase, they get seriously turned on by the wining and dining, the fake persona the seduction is such a sexual turn on...WHEW! Ok once they get you in bed...and have had you every which way, they begin to get bored and look for the next challenge. I don't care how pretty or rich, or well built you are, if the guy has questionable character he will cheat no matter what. Not your fault he was like this before you met him but he hid it well.

This article is absolutely correct. Generally speaking, women do it to themselves, then they try and lay blame instead of taking responsibility for their actions.
Think of a woman's behavior as that of a cat. Notice the cat always strokes itself on the person who feeds it. But if your neighbor starts feeding it something it likes better, your cat will be spending it's time there, because they have no loyalty except to the highestbidder. This, plus a woman's desire for a bad boy is why nice blokes like me end up empty handed and those bad boys with fame or bucks win every time. Tiger, and those like him are not stupid. They know only too well why women chase them. So does a gold digger deserve any loyalty or respect in the first place? In this modern world,women cry out for respect; as though it should be handed out on demand. The reality is; respect has to be earned and females are not going to get any by chasing money, someone else's fame, dumping your partner only after a replacement is found, or stupidly thinking sensational looks is going to turn a scoundrel into a really great guy.

no man no woman
i am sure this is human and thats it

Eh. Some men are just asses. And that behavior of cheating, especially serial cheating, isn't as simple as "hey I was horny and wanted to be with another woman." It has a lot of emotional layers to it and stems from both personal issues and problems in the relationship. It isn't as cut and dried.

That behavior as an isolated incident doesn't necessarily mean the person is horrible, but be careful because your habits become you. The person who habitually cheats may not have started out being a lascivious kind of person, but, through the repetition of bad behavior, that's exactly who they are now. They can change it by changing their behaviors, but good habits take time to form.

A person like that isn't going to be rehabilitated overnight. So if a guy tells you he's been a cheater. Get the details. When was it? How long ago? In what relationship? Did he learn something from it? Or did he do it again? Because that's going to tell you what kind of person he truly is and what you've got to work with if you are interested in him still.

A guy who cheated on his girlfriend once in college because they didn't have a good connection and were fighting all the time, tells you one thing. A guy who has cheated on every woman he's been with or hasn't managed to hold down a relationship ever, is another thing. Both guys could still be good prospects, but both have some weaknesses. With the first guy, depending on how long ago it was, may have some maturing to do and need some help in learning how to communicate what he's feeling. Also, he may have a problem with avoidance when times get tough and that's what made him look elsewhere. You deal with those bad habits, you've got yourself a keeper.

The second guy may be a no-go if he doesn't see anything wrong with his past disrespect of the women he's been with. If he doesn't get that he treated them like sex objects and not people or that he treated them like second-class citizens and used them to get his needs met selfishly, then take him out with the trash. But if he gets that there has been a shallow dimension to his behavior and you can see that he longs for something deeper or more meaningful in life, then you might let him sleep on your kitchen floor a few nights until he proves himself worthy of your bed.

Men are only as faithful as their options. We could love you to death and the "other woman" may not look as good as you (trust us, we know), and there is NO WAY IN HELL we would ever leave you for her but sometimes, we get selfish and the desire for something we've never had before is too much.