Why Guys Love the "Thrill of the Chase"

Articles like this annoy me and are probably why I'm single. I do not chase and I do not let girls chase me. I'm very blunt. I either like you or I don't. There's nothing you can do to change that.

I agree with YourTango. It's not restricted to guys. And I enjoy the feeling of being chased as well. Makes me feel good in certain ways. But I hate what comes after the guy I'm seeing gets his prize. It's like they are no longer that interested. Oh well, that's life right?

perfectly said.

Note to self, play more games, keep them guessing. Not a bad idea. While game playing seems pointless and is often frustrating, I definitely understand and appreciate the romantic notion of the chase. I'd love to read more from you regarding what it's going to take to get you to settle down. Who is your dream girl?

I have to agree also with this whole "chase" factor.This is honestly true, us guys actually love the thrill of "the hunt".why do you think guys work and be successful and buy cars,clothes,homes,jewels and all types of expensive things? Answer: The same reason a deer hunter buys a deer feeder or a deer stand and why a fisherman searches for the best rod reel and tackle...These objects men dress themselves in or work so hard to obtain are the "bait"that attracts women.Signs of success and women love successful men.So we men in turn get the bait so when you see a woman you never had or conquered and she seems unattainable and foriegn to you and you're intrigued you wanna know how she feels how she smells what it's like to hold her to be with her to court her you catch her attention with what? The bait:the corvette the jag the benz the 1500 dollar suit the rolex watch and the mauri gator shoes and why did you buy these thing s to look so nice when you could have bought a chevrolet and some jeans and a t shirt and nikes because to catch the best fih you have to buy the best bait,tackle and equipment to put that trophy on the wall .Then once you find out about her and eventually conquer her,the thrill is gone.Especially when she gets to making plans to shack up and starts planning the wedding...

Gosh this is ridiculous. This is why love doesn't exist anymore. People are to lazy to love so they half do giving love but the adverse is that they half do getting love. Chasing is fine if eventually you catch something (other than a disease). But why is it so bad to work hard for something worth working hard for. You work hard to get a promotion, you gonna quit when you get it? You work hard to save to get a nice car or house you gonna crash the car or sell the house when you get them? So if you are not willing to sacrifice your material possessions why then is it so easy to give up something that can be of real value to you once you have worked so hard for it? Chase that answer why don't you!

Good article as always!

I'm actually in a situation now where I have found a guy I really like, but there are still other guys who give me attention. But it depends onthe kind and quality of attention they give me and if they want to be my friend or just get some booty. Its becoming so much easiler to see the difference that if they start the booty-call i stop talking to them, and if they are serious about wanting to know me then they can contact me. I let it go at that. I have a great guy, and even though not everyone knows he is in my life i still have the utmost respect for him and our new relationship we are building. I also let him know that I get attention from guys, and he understands it is to be expected. He is also very handsome and girls hit on him all the time too, I expect it. But I know he is mine and also wouldn't do anything to jeprodize what we have.

It is fun to get chased, to know that you are desireable, but its also important to know where you are, and where they are comming from too... (booty-call or friendship)... And always be safe (like Majic said, you dont want a stalker)

Good luck!
-Blue

MERRY CHRISTMAS RICH,

IS THIS YOUR ORIGINAL POINT OF VIEW? IT IS VERY INTERESTING .THANK YOU FOR GIVING ME THAT INFORMATION.
YOU SEEM TO KNOW ME SO WELL .

YOU ARE ALWAYS WELCOME TO COME BY AND CHAT KIND SIR.

J

Jazmine Sullivan has that song "bust your windows." So, we know better than to play w/someone's feelings. Not to be cliche' but all is fair in love in war. Charge it to the game. Sade says it best "Face to face, each classic case.We shadow box and double cross,Yet need the chase." Chemistry, relationships, men, and women all require "the dance." When you move I move, one step forward one step back. That's the rhythm of life. It's beautiful, enigmatic, and inscrutible. That's what keeps us on our toes. The tete a tete the verbal volley lends itself to fire. If there's some fire in your heart there'll be some sparks in between the sheets.

Is this really just restricted to men though? It seems like women are just as guilty re: this. Do we always pick the nice dependable guy? No, we try and land the impossible to get guy, the bad boy that needs reforming, the player, whatever.

To remove it from relationships, it's like playing a video game. One you've completed all the levels and won the game, do you really want to play with it anymore? Not when there's a new version with better graphics.

Ladies the men are going to hate me for telling you this but....Problem is men seem to think that they own the corner market of The Chase. Women can and should chase if they want too. If you enjoy being chased have a man chase you and another that you chase and so on. Remember the advise your mom always told you "Never count your eggs before their hatched." Rule One- don't stalk and Rule Two- chase not only one but several men- all at once. This doesn't mean sleep with several men but, have propper appropriate dates that end up with you in controll and having the upper hand. That way if he feels that his side of the chase is over you have nothing invested- you can walk away or should I say walk towards the next man. This is not rocket science it's called dating. Who says that just because your a woman you have to love to be chased or frowned upon if you do the chasing? Don't let any person call the shots in your life. Good hunting ladies!

I have to say that I agree with this theory of men with "the chase". I just think its apart of a guy's nature and not something that you'll be able to just grow out of. The secret to it, is to find a women interesting enough that while even in a relationship... you feel like you're still chasing her.

Mabey she won't call you EVERYDAY but every other day and since she has a life outside of you, she'll have something thrilling to say. She'll give you time to miss her..... and other little things like that, that will allows things to not get mundane.....

I believe Rich Santos is either a female or will be a female soon if he can get approved for the loans to pay for the procedure. I'm sorry but although there was some flashes of truth here over all this author is definitely under 35 and also a huge fan of "Sex in the City". In fact the only reason I have any doubt that the author is a female is the fact that in #2 Fantasy Ideal, he wrote,

"Once dating begins, they usually doesn't turn out to be what I built her up to be"

Only a male would make such a blatant grammatical error, and I'm a guy who was in the "dummy" English class in H.S. Also, in #4 he actually used the word "Giddiness". A major faux pas from a heterosexual male. And the fact that you had to implement "Teamwork" as he described in #6 quite frankly automatically disqualifies you from writing on behalf of strait men (gay men too for that matter) everywhere.

You're leading innocent and impressionable women astray with this bullshit! How you think you're entitled to put this on the internet is even funnier. Actually, I can't blame you. Who ever is in charge of content for Yahoo should be held responsible. They probably worked for Chrysler in their last job.

I agree the the whole "chase" theory as well. Guys start out being really passionate individuals and then as the relationship goes on they lose their passion and or interest. Thats because the chase is over they have you so they get bored and they move on to the next one. That really explains a lot. I dont believe that guys will ever get over the thrill of the chase but was they get older and more mature then they realize whats more important to them, chasing girls or being with just one girl they really like. Who wants to spend their whole life chasing someone? I wouldnt find that to be very fun. But im a girl!lol.

Great post loved it!!!!

I must say, though I've been married/with someone most of my life, I too enjoy a good man/woman chase. I've been secretly desired by men all my teen/adult life and enjoyed it, knowing I already had the man for me and how far to allow things to go without stepping into a danger zone. To be desired is human, admiring someone is human, to stalk and frieghten someone because of your admiration for them is scary! So people chase but please do not STALK! I love to test my abilities to obtain the unobtainable, but I also remember people have feelings too. Feelings come with emotions which can get out of control and cause harm when hurt!!!

no idea

This is too much game. If I feel a guy is just enjoying the thrill of the chase I start disliking him. I hate playing games & don't want to be played with. People like that don't have a chance with me at all. I am too smart for that! :-)

This is a hard one. I am a horrible date. I have left dates in the middle of them. I went to the movies with a guy and got up and walked out the Emergency Exit because the movie was really really bad...the guy was kind of bad too, so I figured why stick around? I expect to get beat up one day or sued for expenses, hehe.

I have also had the whole Dinner in a nice restaurant, and a Horse & Carriage ride which was very romantic and I had allready slept with this guy, so I dont know if its chasing that I was experiencing or not.

I hate relationships. Romance is nice but only if its real. I might love a guy to pieces, but if he stops making the effort then I just turn around and walk away. I care but I am at the point where I dont need marriage, its more like, yeah if that happens its great, I dont need to save anybody, or vice versa. I am more into the MOMENT than demanding a lifelong commitment even though I dont want STD's so a little narrowing down from sleeping with the entire population might be necessary. Even if I agree to have sex, I will walk out mid-makout if I am not feeling the love. I dont call anybody back, might text. If a person likes me and knows me then they know where I am. Just because I have sex with a guy dosent mean that I will ever have sex with him a second time and I may never speak to a person again after having sex with them. Even if it was great, it might not be a good idea to spoil that memory with a lame rerun.

I had a girlfriend who told me that SHE was a horrible friend. We stayed close friends for a couple of years, were still friends, but only talk randomly because she lost her kids and has cancer and goes through terrible mood swings,she was on suicide watch a few times. I told her that I loved her but that YES she IS a horrible friend but that she could still call me anytime and I mean it. So, were still friends but no demands on her. She can lean on me whenever but I am not going to demand that she feed our friendship in order to remain my friend, but usually it is her taking and me giving if anything. I do what I can and I have no problem telling her "no way" if I cant do something. Dosent change the dynamics. So I guess its like that, your either into someone and like them the way they are, or your not. That kind of thing. It wouldn't matter how much chasing goes on etc. Have fun.-Rachel.

I agree with ya Gloria.

I guess the chase goes on vice-versa. Women love to be chase and men as well. But that doesnt mean it has to end, just keep your profile low at some times. The only thing that is impossible is to chase more than two women or two men. There are lots of kind of chasing...one is when you know you like it but playing hard to get, two is when you just can't find the time but gives the other person more reason to pursue you and the third one of all is what we call "Fatal Attraction". Men and women often dont seem to know what they really need but they know what they want. The only thing I can say is that..." chasing only gets better if there is mutual feelings on both sides."