Why He's Not Introducing You to His Parents

Oh, and fiction, it's an old wive's tale that a woman will eventually look like her mother. I am almost 44 years old, am very petite(a strong wind would probably blow me away!) with dark hair and eyes. My mother, who is 68, is slightly overweight, about 5'7" tall, and has blondish hair and blue eyes. We don't even remotely resemble one another!

even though iv never met them, my beau talks about his mother and how he takes care of her and steers clear of his father. he has even gone out of his way to keep me from bumping into his dad when im around his home. i dont mind i have my own daddy issues to worry about. im in the relationship for us two not our parents.

what if he just isnt that close to his parents? I mean thats the case with me..I had a horrible childhood as my father through me from room to room while my mother just watched. I really have nothing to do with them and have not since i finally reached 235lbs as a 17yrold and hit my dad back.

I really just never wanna bring it up..ever..cause the response i get is the awwwww! I hate that more then anything..dont feel sorry for me It happened im over it.

As a parent of teenaged boys who are not yet dating, I know I will be very curious about any girl they choose to go out with and will most likely want to check her out for myself to know what my son may be getting himself into. I will NOT, however, try to tell my sons whom I think they should date, nor will I advise them to break up with someone unless I find out there is something about the girl that is serious like a criminal background, drug use, etc. Just as I did during my dating years, they will have to learn how to deal with different people until they find "the one."

same applys to girls i susppose.

My man introduced me to his family in either late May or June. As of last Sept of 2008 I've been living with my bf who happens to live with his dad. yea my bf doesnt like talking about his childhood either.

yep...parents of midwestern boys are a tough audience :)

Who cares!! I'd rather not meet the parents. Its not a pre requisite for me or something that I'm looking forward to do as the relationship advances. I think the earlier you meet the parents the sooner you jinx the relationship.

I think it all depends on how the relationship is at that point in time, sometime relationships have ups an downs and being that its only a couple of months maybe he might not be too sure if the relationship is solid enough to meet someone like his parent.

maybe hes just using you for sex??? anyone think of that possibility??

He won't introduce me because both of his parents have passed.

very good points...

What if I'm too scared to meet his parents?

Definitely trust your gut, don't be oblivious to him acting shady.

Uh, why is there a pervasive assumption that only women are in a rush to the altar? Why do people sneer at women who are ready for marriage but think men who are eager for commitment are endearing?

Most of the Boys have reverse behavior; They do introduce you with their family members but it does not means that they are serious about the relationship .You may be just one of his friend whom he has introduced to his parents/family members.Introduction with family members does not guarantees the genuineness of a boy friend .

My husband and I just celebrated our 2nd year anniversary. We've known each other for three years total. I've NEVER met his parents. We are both in our forties and this is the second (and hopefully, last) marriage for both of us. I have kids (who live with us)he does not have any kids. His parents are both still alive and live only about an hour away. Am I concerned? No. Honestly, I was at first for all the reasons listed above but I trust him completely and have a lot of respect for him. He has his reasons, some of which he did eventually share with me. If I never meet them, so be it. I married HIM, not his parents or sibling and I'm thankful every day that I did.

How can I ever look my mother-in-law in the eye? She walked in on me naked once while i snuck in for a late nite romance!!!???? ahhhaahhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!!!!!

hahaha, mine WAS from rural Iowa....and I never did meet his parents....

I had dated a guy like this last year! We were together for 9 months and i had yet to meet his parents. His dad is preacher at a major church in our city and i had yet to even be invited to the church! He said it was because i never mentioned going, that i partied and he didnt think i was interested. He also said it was because i had smoked cigarettes and his family was serioulsy against that. I totally understand and told him "dude im not going to light up at the dinner table and as a matter of fact i wont even smoke a cig while im around your fam, that's horrible." I didnt speak of it anymore. I told myself that if he wanted me to meet his family, then i would. This guy's shoes seemed squeeky clean, but behind all of that polish was alot of dirt that im sure his beloved family knew nothing about. Oh well, wasnt worth my time anyway. Cant belive i just wrote a whole paragraph about it.