What you learn from an online dating profile isn't enough.You finally went out with that cutie pie iloverocks69 from match.com. You met for brunch and it was amazing. He looked at you like no one has looked at you in a long long time; he pulled out your chair, and even helped you with your jacket; when you both picked up your menus, his hand brushed yours, and it was electric.
Not only was he chivalrous, you felt like 15 monarch cocoons just hatched in your stomach. This guy was a keeper. On the first date, he also made you cry from laughing so hard. Thankfully, you weren't cracking up so much that you couldn't keep your mimosa with strawberries in your mouth. Read More: Dating Is Like Roulette. 3 Rules of Dating Casino Style
You never thought you would date someone you met online, but now it seems inevitable. He called you the next day to tell you that he had a great time, and wanted to see you again next Friday. Date number two was better than the first. This time you went to your favorite restaurant and he was sweeter than before.
This is getting good. You are getting to know more about each other, then you ask him his last name, and you wonder about his life. The date ends with a kiss that us so phenomenal, you almost invite him in. You are really considering this guy as a potential partner.
Then you start thinking about dating someone you met online. You want to trust your feelings, but you don't really know him. Now you hold the power in your hands. You know his last name. What are you going to do with this information? Your computer is just right there on your desk. It seems so innocent just to Google him. Well ... is it? Read More: How To Speed Flirt Your Way To New Love [VIDEO]
To Google or not to Google, that is the question, and I say go for it. You've gotta keep yourself safe and informed, right? A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. If you click his profile on Linkedin, he'll see that you peeked, but Facebook is a pretty safe bet for not getting caught.
I'm in no way advocating that you hire a private detective, but I was dating someone online and he mentioned that the separation with his ex got ugly, and was put in the paper. What kind of ugly are we talking about here? And why the heck was it in the paper?
He was honest in telling me upfront that there were some issues in his past, and I'm not one to judge. But, when things are public record and in the local paper, breaking and entering is one of the things on my not acceptable list.
I was dating someone online from another website, and he told me - and everyone else we ran into - about his job as a paramedic, and an emergency medicine professor at a local college. Read More: 7 Sex Positions Men Love
I just happened to be strolling on the ol' local college website and they didn't have an emergency medicine curriculum, or any other major that was even slightly related. However, they did have a guy with the same first name that happened to be a janitor. Maybe that was just a coincidence and he didn't even work there.
The internet is there for many reasons and it can help you make informed decisions. I just hope no one Googles me.
Written by Dina Z. Colada for YourTango.com.
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