The other day some guys and I were discussing the "innocent girl" versus the "bad girl." Across the board, the guys agreed they prefer an innocent woman over a "bad girl."
It's important to own whatever mojo you have, because we do pay attention to that overall aura you're giving off. And sometimes we go for the opposite of what we went for in the past - but we definitely bucket women into innocent or bad.
It's tough, though, because, while we like innocent women, we don't like to be bored. On the other hand, a crazy bad girl is too much. I like an innocent girl with a bad streak that comes out once in a while.
My buddies and I also theorized that women all go through a bad guy phase. It was an interesting epiphany, and one that may be way off, like most of the theories my buddies and I make about women.
Here are some reasons guys like innocent girls:
Corrupting Innocence is Fun
The reason I think the buttoned up business look is so hot on women is that I like taking things apart. The "innocent" style is put together. Making someone bad is fulfilling and fun, and it feels more like a mutual journey. Guys just want to be the leader of that journey instead of the followers. I guess it's like white fresh snow versus the snow that's turning black on the side of the road in under the haze of car exhaust. The fresh snow is more of a palette for adventure.
We Don't Take "Bad Girls" Seriously
Sure a bad girl can be fun and enticing, but she's not the type we'd bring home to mom in most cases. We also assume that a bad girl is not looking for anything too serious, so it's safe for us not to look for anything serious.
"Bad Girls" Are Intimidating
This is my biggest issue. I don't do well with intimidating women. I love confidence, but that confidence has to be a quiet confidence - not in your face confidence. Most guys don't want to admit it, but they don't necessarily want to be in bed with a girl who knows more than they do (though a Catholic school girl probably knows more than I do, so I'm always on the defensive in bed).
"Bad Girls" Seem Promiscuous
I'm not sure if anyone likes promiscuity. I am sure no one likes being cheated on. Either way, a woman who seems promiscuous will get hit on because a guy wants to take her home, but it usually doesn't amount to anything in the end.
"Bad Girls" Style Are Less Mysterious
I've always thought the nerdy girl who covers up her figure underneath is sexy. Leaving a glimpse or a tease of hotness is more effective. Then I can do the work to reveal the rest. I guess I like glasses better than tight leather. I wouldn't complain about a woman showing too much skin, but I don't find it as compelling.
Guys Have Control Issues
We hate to admit it, we usually like to be in control. A bad girl is tough to control - we never know what she's going to do next.
What are your thoughts on my list above? Do you go through "bad boy" phases in dating?
Posted by Rich
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