For years we have been hearing about female breadwinners and the evil ways they emasculate men. Now it turns out that despite our cultural attempt to make successful women feel badly about themselves in that regard, about 40 percent of women actually ARE making more than their men. and it's a good thing.
That's a lot of dough, no?
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The fact is, while growing pains are "pains," indeed, this changing tide is a good thing for all of us. Marriages of truly equal partners are happier and more stable and, in general, better for children.
The fact is, women and men who are happy in their careers, whether at home or outside the home, have better marriages. It makes sense.
When both partners are pursuing what they love, whether that is domestic or career-driven, they will have passion for the marriage and for the family. The antiquated notions about men and women and how men need to be the breadwinners and women need to stay home and tend the home fires are changing. And thank goodness they are.
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In my own marriage, I know I will never be the breadwinner (unless I go all JK Rowling), but I also know that my husband and I are equally dedicated to our careers and, because of that, we share everything else.
My husband and I talk about our work and our family in equal measure. If he ever lost his job, he knows he could count on me to support us (though with less money) just as I could count on him when I was a stay-at-home mom. Equality is never a bad thing.
For those who want to believe it's an emasculating marriage wrecker, I wonder what kinds of marriages these people have. Is it Betty Draper waiting with a scotch for her husband a good marriage? One person may have to take more of the domestic responsibility, but that person need not be the woman.
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This idea where men or women could be the "breadwinner" is freeing for both men and women. We have more choices and they do, too. That is real equality and my guess is it will save a lot of marriages, too.
Do you think a woman earning more than a man is emasculating?
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