Photo Credit: Ron Chapple StockArranged marriages may sound unromantic, but the women who choose them can teach us a thing or two about how to be happy in love, says Reva Seth, author of First Comes Marriage.
Find your inner strength.
"Women in arranged marriages don't expect their husbands to fulfill all their emotional needs," Seth explains. "They look to their spouse as a life partner, a companion, and a source of support - but not as their only provider of happiness." Instead of relying on their husbands, these women know how to create their own happiness - and as a result, they don't harbor resentment toward their husbands for not fulfilling the impossible.
Focus on what you love about each other.
Because women go into arranged marriages knowing that they have to learn to love their spouse, they focus on his positive qualities and let go of the little things that don't really matter. Instead of dwelling on Why didn't he do that?, they look for what he did right. "It changes the whole relationship dynamic," Seth says. "When you're appreciative toward your spouse, he reciprocates."
Since arranged marriages don't arise from traditional courtship, the women who enter them toss their expectations of traditional displays of romance (think fancy, candlelit dinners). They value little acts of love - like when he gives you the bigger half of the piece of cake - which can often be even more meaningful.
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