3 ways to boost your confidence

Most of the women that the author mentions in this article are choleric personalities from which an outward confidence naturally oozes. They are extroverted. They like people- and like telling other people what to do to get what they want done now! Unfortunately, they often have serious control issues. Every personality has it's positives and negatives. If you can find out what personality type you were born with and currently have, you can focus on the parts that you are naturally good at (instead of trying to be like someone else.) Finding your own strengths will give you confidence as you see yourself accomplish goals with ease (as the author mentioned), and as others respond to your natural capabilities.

I agree with the idea of setting yourself goals if you have a healthy way of thinking. Unfortunately the lack of confidence usually comes from people having negative views of themselves (for whatever reason), which usually stems from the fact that their thinking is a little distorted. What if you do achieve the goal, but your lack of confidence makes you sell yourself short and make excuses as to why you did well. I know I do that a lot. Then, setting the goal can even make me feel worse. The initial feeling of finishing a goal is pretty nice, but then the self-doubt fills in and the cycle continues...

I really like this. I'll try it, especially its a new school year coming up and I definitely need help with my goals and making new friends. Thanks for the post!

Confidence is gluttinous & arrogant. Napolean was confident, George W. Bush was confident, Pol Pot was confident, Hitler may have believed in himself more than anyother human ever and achieved some serioud goals of his, serial killers & rapists are extremely confident and therefore find all the young women and men they can manipulate into being their victims. Most dominant A Type "confident" people I met are manipulative, schemers, they do "fake it" because they know they'll "make it", they are confident to degrade and step on others insecurities to lift themselves up. The moment I became a more "confident" person most of my A type personality friends bailed on me because they couldn't stand that I had an opinion, thought I was worth something, was no longer easily manipulated or pushed around. One even said I had mental problems and must be suffering from depression. Thanks friend, glad you want your friends to be confident and happy enough to believe in themselves and accomplish something in life. Americans need a massive dose of humility or we just need to flush the culture of this country down the toilet. Chances are the writer of this article is so insecure she has to write about being confident to make herself more confident. Those who can't do teach right?

Wow I definitely like this article. I will try to use these things in my life.

I taught myself these techniques a long time ago. I used to be painfully shy, but now people call me 'friendly' and 'outgoing'. 'Fake it till you Make it' is particularly helpful.

And if you're concerned about what people think of you (I was), its helpful to remember how you think of them. Do you spend a lot of time dwelling over what a classmate or co-worker says or does, even if its something stupid or embarrassing? No? Then they probably feel the same about you. So RELAX.

To the parent who let her child get away with saying something like " That lady seems beautiful even though she ISN'T ".....needs to be taught a firm lesson that beauty is not about physical appearance, but always comes from the inside. That lady does not SEEM beautiful, she IS beautiful if she has confidence like that.... If the child does not learn, they will just end up being superficial like most everyone else in America....

I liked this article. However, all people with any personality traits can be confident thinkers. look at Marelyn Monroe. She thought herself ugly, even though men gaulked at her.She taught herself, if you think sexy you will be sexy. Positive thinking people! That's all it takes. There are some gorgeous women who don't feel sexy, and they're not. then there are some not so gorgeous women that think they're sexy and they get the man.

Yoga is a great way to make your mind+body connection, which can boost self confidence. Anything that lets you take time for yourself and reflect from within :-)

link: http://www.myownsurvey.com/MindGame-Marketing/YogaFit01

confidence, since I was in primary, I used to keep in mind this; It's not important what
people think about you, what is important is, what you think of yourself.
As long as you think good,say good, and feel good, everything follows.

Jackie Onassis would have been a much better example of confidence than Michell Obama if you are looking at first ladies. Barbara Bush is also a very classy and confident woman. I agree with the suggestion of giving better examples. Find people who don't just talk the talk but walk the walk.

why wouldn't michell obama have some confidence.she and her muslim husband have never had to pay for anything ;they both live luxurously off my tax dollars..witness recent vacation (number 9) to spain and now at marthas vinyard;what a joke this couple is ; same way with muslim loving susan saradon and her left wing antics. please give us better examples in the future

To Tara, you go girl! Great idea! Teach the kids the right way to think and we wouldn't have so many problems in the first place!

being confident takes a lot of positive thinking on the sides...nice suggestions.

I am beautiful
I am strong
I am smart
I am funny
I am successful
I am sexy
I am kind
Above all .....
I am loved by God, family and friends

Thank you Mary. You one simple phrase summed it up beautifully, perfectly and completely.

[as you think in your heart so are you] the Bible.

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