Men are fickle creatures that often exhibit the same signals across the board that they are interested in a woman and want to move the relationship past the dating stage to something more meaningful. Catching these signals and acting on them is an important part of telling him you feel the same way about him. If the signals go unnoticed, he may think you're not interested and your chance with the man of your dreams will be lost for good. I understand the fickle nature of men - I forced my husband to ask me to marry him more than 20 times in college alone.
The First Signals
The first signals will be aimed at the woman in general. Men are physical creatures that love to be touched and caressed. While men tend to be less on the emotional tip of a relationship, they'll inevitably give a slight touch or brush of the arm or maybe a kiss that's filled with a bit more action and hugging than the previous kisses. These are all great signals that he's ready to put this friendship behind him and move on to second or third base. Maybe even home plate.
The Keyhole to Other Signals
That first kiss is the keyhole through which he'll look at the entire relationship. The best advice is to take a chance on the first kiss; don't ask him permission. Once a woman asks a man if she can kiss him, he'll be left with a decision to make and that will shoot the spontaneity out the window. Make the first kiss quick and to the point without making the kiss feel like it's coming from a family member. If he wants more, he'll lean in and initiate further kissing. Too much power and a long first kiss may overpower the man into feeling like you both are on different fields in the relationship and that's not a good place to be.
Moving from First Base to Home Plate
Once these signals are recognized, the man will likely open himself up to more aggressive touching and action. Maybe he'll allow his hand to graze your breast, inviting you to move on to other actions. No matter how he introduces the topic of sex, you have to be certain not to move from interested to gawking in mere seconds. While a man's most sensual spots are certainly beautiful to look at, staring intently at just his body is not going to keep him in the mood.
Is He Ready for Sex?
From this stage, the act of sex may seem imminent. But, you need to be very cautious with how fast you move. When the relationship is new, these signals can also be new to both of you. There will be times when he simply wants to make out and not have sex. Take things very slowly and allow the man to lead the way. There's nothing wrong with a hot and steamy make out session to help you both to get to know the boundaries that are set and those that are being dropped.
When it comes to taking that relationship to the next level, nearly all men approach the subject in the same manner. They'll be caring and caressing, nuzzling and hold on just a bit longer after that good night kiss than usual. They'll invite you in for a drink, as cliché as it sounds and they'll move at their own pace. But, this pace is unique to each and every relationship, so take note of his actions and stop when things seem a bit overheated. Taking your time in a new relationship will build character and trust; two things that are needed for the relationship to last through the years.
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