Men are way less emotional than women, especially during times of need. Sometimes the guys in our lives aren't sure how they can help, and other times they just don't understand the problem. As women, most of us have learned to cope alone. It would be nice to see our significant other stepping up to hold us when we are sad or pick us up when we are down. These are the situations where more male input would be appreciated.
Women handle stress in many different ways, but it's always helpful if there is someone there to help them deal with it all. Men don't always know how to offer assistance, especially if they aren't dealing with the situation firsthand. There are things I agonize over, and my husband simply doesn't understand. If your partner cannot physically see the problem, it will be hard for him to sympathize with you. I have stopped going to my husband with my stressful events and instead have turned to my girlfriends. They understand what I have to say, and can give me advice when I need it.
Mothers and wives hardly get sick days. I have experienced this recently, and it stinks. Men aren't very understanding when you fall ill, especially if it means they have to miss work or have to "watch" the kids. There have been a few times I have fallen ill since having our sons. My husband is the moneymaker of the house, and when he misses time at work, we fall behind on our bills. It would be nice to be able to have my husband bring me soup in bed or let me sleep off the flu, but that won't happen realistically. If I'm not feeling well, I have to wait until he gets home to rest or else just go about my day as usual.
Do you ever have those days when you are just sad? It happens to me at least once a month, and I get no support from him at all. I have talked to friends of mine and they have said the same thing about their husbands. If I approach him with a concern, he usually blows me off. We have many arguments because I feel sad and can't tell him what the actual issue is. It would be nice to just be comforted and told everything was going to be okay.
Men don't process their emotions as well as women do. It is hard to not have the sympathy that I think I deserve, but I take comfort in the fact that I am not alone. Men should consider learning how to support their women when they are going through difficult things, it just may help their relationship more than they think.
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