Have you ever been at the park, pool or library and all the woman or friend next to you could talk about was their child? Maybe it was Johnny's latest accomplishment or even what she does to make sure he eats a proper breakfast, but whatever the topic, her next sentence usually starts with her child's name and what they did, know and can do. One of the reasons that some moms are unhappy is that it seems like much of what they do and say is all about the baby, toddler, or child. But your brain doesn't have to be baby drained simply because you become a mom. Take time to do these activities for yourself and get an A in Vocabulary and Comprehension, as well as Debate and Discussion and continue to pursue those things you love.
Moms eat free. Free of children, cooking or cleaning. Wouldn't that be nice? Take time to go out with your friends and eat a meal that doesn't involved cutting up someone else's food or taking someone to the potty (unless of course it's so you can try out their new blush). Spend time talking and listening to your friends, but not about your kids. There will be little talk of diapers, potty training, (and absolutely no talk whatever was in the diapers and potty chair!). We will not discuss every bright and wonderful thing our child did that day (one share per person is enough, thank you).
Pamper your piggies. Manicures and pedicures are becoming a great deal more budget friendly. In some areas you can even get one for about the price of a meal out. Take some time to massage your mani and pamper your pedi without anything other than a good book.
Declare date nights. I know this couple that goes out together every Friday night. Sometimes it is a movie, other times dinner and if it is a paid babysitter, maybe just an appetizer and drinks during a happy hour. But it's important to take the time to reconnect without interruptions to change a diaper or cut up food; to break up a fight in the game room or to wrestle them to bed. Use this time to just get to talk about the week or even make plans for the future.
Look in a book (or magazine). Here is the catch -- it can't be about parenting or potty training, discipline or development. Pick up a good romance, mystery, science fiction or biography. Choose from the many Kindle downloads available and take it with you wherever you go. You can also consider using audio books in the car. Simply slip in the CD and listen as you go.
Learn a language. Have you ever wanted to learn another language? Take time to learn the language, the culture, and the history and who knows, maybe someday you can even visit there with the kids!
Get classy. Whether as a way to help you finish that bachelor's degree or just for fun, learning something new can broaden your horizons, help you learn about the world and maybe even spark an interest in a new topic, career or hobby.
Go global and local. Take time to watch the news and learn more about the world around you, starting locally and going global.
Join a group. Whether it is a mommy playgroup, networking group or one that helps you pursue a hobby or interest, joining a group can help keep you informed and entertained. Take a few minutes one day to check out meetup.com and see what groups are available in your area. Don't see anything you like? Start one yourself. You may be surprised at the friendships formed.
Dream a little dream-then make it happen. Pantemm Inc. was founded by a mother overwhelmed by the size of and organization (or lack of) her diaper bag. Her idea caught on to become a popular business. Work at home moms are the new "stay at home mom," finding ways to make money and stay home with their children, doing anything from selling Avon or Mary Kay products, to blogging or starting their own businesses. My neighbor started a pet sitting business and another woman started an errand running and shopping business.
Whatever the reason and no matter whether you work outside the home or inside the home, there are a many ways for mommy to avoid "baby brain drain."
What is your favorite way?
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