To help you start the new year in total bliss with your guy, we asked the country's top relationship experts to share the most crucial things they've uncovered over the years - from big-picture philosophies to little gestures that go a long way. These practices will help keep your union in a happy, healthy place all year long. Start it off with a hot New Year's Eve kiss.
1. Act Out of Character
Couples develop a particular dynamic: the way they relate to each other that repeats itself over and over. If you break that pattern and act against type - in a positive way - you inject new life into the relationship. For example, if you always get angry at your guy when he doesn't follow through on some chore, try addressing him in a nicer, more friendly tone, then thank him when he does a good job. It works every time. Find out what he really means when he calls you a nag.
2. Enjoy a Steady Diet of Sex
If you want to maintain closeness with your man, get out of your head and into bed. Guys feel more comfortable connecting with women on a physical level, not engaging in deep discussions. To strengthen your bond, approach your lust life as you would your gym regimen or your diet - make it part of your routine. Set a goal to have sex at least a couple times a week. Try a new sex position every time to really keep him interested!
3. Get in Touch a Lot
No doubt you hug and kiss each other hello and maybe snuggle a little after having sex. But simple acts like stroking his arm while you're watching TV, taking his hand when you're walking down the street, or fondling his thigh during dinner are also ways to bond. Touching your partner throughout the day triggers your feel-good hormones, which reinforces your affection and makes you feel closer on an instinctive level. Tap into the key things that make a man fall in love, and he'll be deeper and deeper in love with you.
You don't have to wait for a special occasion to give small presents to show your love. In fact, gifts are more fun-and meaningful - when they're not expected. Try to get into the habit of exchanging sweet tokens of appreciation for no particular reason. Don't go and blow your paycheck though. It's not about being extravagant; it's just a way of showing that you really get - and think about - each other. These budget-friendly gifts will make him love you more!
5. Be a Good Date
Face it, no one can stay fascinating forever. After being together for a while, the initial excitement fades, and your guy can start to get kind of boring sometimes. Hey, don't think you're off the hook - if you're feeling a little ho-hum about him, the feeling is likely mutual! To combat the blahs, take turns coming up with an interesting date idea every month. Keep the time and details to yourself, and try to think outside the box - dinner and a movie is not exactly innovative. An awesome concert or a snowboarding lesson, for example, is a much less predictable treat.
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