So that cute co-worker has caught your eye? Have you been having awesome talks with the guy who always workouts next you at the gym? Does the leader of your book group have a deep soul and seems to finish your every sentence? Or, have you gotten back in contact with an old high school friend and are starting to wonder why you didn't see how great he was back then? Is the only problem with any of these scenarios is that you are not single? Here are some common sense ways on how not to fall in love with another man when you're thinking with everything but your head.
Phone ContactDo not exchange phone numbers unless it is absolutely vital to your work. Even in that case, only give your home phone number if you have one and limit your contact to facts such as where and when to finish a project. Cell phones are a great convenience but can also become a tempting trap of crossing the line. It is too easy to flirt via text, feeling that the delete button gets rid of any trace of doing so. Once you start with tiny innuendos, your fingers can get a mind of their own and before long it spins into unfaithfulness. You can tell yourself all you want that words are just words and do not mean a thing but if that were true you wouldn't have to erase your inbox and outbox every night before coming home. You know those tingles you get when you see his name on your screen? Those are not conducive to not falling in love with another man. Instead start flirting with your man via text, even if you have never tried it before. You may be surprised how spicy you can get when you can hide your blushes behind a phone and how pleasantly surprised he'll be for the effort.
Getting TogetherUnder no circumstances, and I mean no circumstances, should you start meeting your crush alone for any reason. I stress this so much because no matter how faithful a gal you are, even a boring business dinner can turn into a date scenario with the right guy. Invite a co-worker, a friend of even your man along with for any meetings you have to have with guy who's turned your head. This will ensure that your flirting stays to a minimum and deep heartfelt talks are taken off the table. Bringing your significant other along to flaunt your affections on also sends the message that you are part of a strong couple and helps you not fall in love with another man. Just saying the words isn't as effective, especially if it is in-between giggles at your crush's jokes. It's best to remember to not lead yourself into temptation. If you want to prove your strength in being able to stay faithful, head to a Chip N Dales club where your heart won't get involved.
Keeping SecretsIf you have already made the mistake of getting involved in a too flirty friendship with a guy, it's never too late to stop before you physically act on your feelings. Cut off personal contact with him now and you'll see the danger of what you were doing. You'll miss your chats and be a little sad now and then that you can't turn to him like you used to. It will show you that there is no such thing as small harmless secrets when it comes to being "friends" with the opposite sex when you are already involved in a committed relationship. In order to not fall in love with another man, you have to be one hundred percent honest with yourself.
Moving OnWhen limiting your contact with your crush, as Montel Williams put it ever so eloquently, "If you think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, water your own damn grass and it'll be just as green." I always personally add afterwards "And you have no idea how much fertilizer is be spread over there anyways." So, start concentrating on your man. Fall in love with him again. If the feelings for the other guy keep lingering, even after a few months of living it up with your significant other and you just can't get your crush out of your head it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship. Only after you are completely single can you stop trying to not fall in love with another man. Sacrificing your self respect by being unfaithful is never a good way to start a new relationship.