What kind of mom wants to be left alone? Don't you ever think that as soon as you decide you really need a little time away from the demands of motherhood? Moms shouldn't feel guilty for needing some time alone. Thinking about it and feeling guilty, I realized that every mommy wants some time alone; some of us just aren't quite so aware of it or take the time to make it happen. Not only should we make it happen, but we should not feel guilty about it.
Everybody needs a little time away. Between work, cooking, cleaning, household chores, and the demands of friends, family and community every mom needs a little time away. Why else do you think we spend so much time in the bathroom? Did you thing we really liked spending that much time on our shower, bath, hair or makeup?
Break me off a piece of that Kit Kat bar. Even marketing offices know that it is normal to want a little time away from the demands of home, hearth and our career. Why else would they advocate "Calgon take me away" or "Break me off a piece of that Kit Kat bar." Commercials for everything from bath products to books try to remind us that we really do need a few minutes alone. Sure, they are selling something but what you should be buying into is the concept behind the sell, that everyone needs a break.
Finding out about me. Have you ever noticed how easy it is to answer questions about your work, home or children? I can tell you what size clothing they wear and what their favorite colors are. I can special order each of their meals, no matter where we may be dining but I can't seem to make a decision about what I am supposed to eat before the server returns to the table. Taking some time for me gives me chances to find out about me, from what I want to what I need and gives me the chance to think of ideas to make those desires and goals happen.
Don't take things for granted. After some time alone I actually appreciate the time I have with my children even more. I am able to see the joy they take in whatever they do, from creative play to cooking in the kitchen.
The "Ah ha" moment. Have you ever thought and thought about a problem facing you at home or at work only to find that the more you think about it the less likely you are to come up with an answer to that problem? Spending time alone actually provides you with the "ahha" moment like in the shower where you suddenly remember the name of that plumber you needed to call. Sometimes the answers to our problems are right in front of us if we could simply focus, instead of trying to do everything that needs done. Time alone provides time to focus on a situation as well as to dust off our thinking cap and spend some time wearing it.
Just because you want time alone doesn't mean you don't love your children, spouse, partner or significant other. It does mean that you realize that you can be a better person by finding those moments alone, so don't feel guilty about stolen time in the tub, since that may be the only way you can take some time for me.
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