25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9

yes, children will not learn courtesy or manners on their own, they must be coached and taught . Their lives will more fulfilling when they learn to give the same respect to others that they want and they will be welcomed most everywhere you bring them. Rudeness never makes the heart grow fonder, manners are a gift.

The only way a person can get their children to follow these rules and keep their personal life from intervening in their social life (for the right reasons) is to practice these rules with their child or children on the first birthday to the age of nine-years-old. Am I right, state your opinion.

This list is not limited to just children. I think everyone should read this to freshen up their manners...

Amen Mel

Everyone seems to agree that #6 should not be taken literally, but few people seem to be aware that the second part of #7 is considered rude behaviour. Unless one knows a person well, to comment on his/her appearance, either positively or negatively, is a scrutiny and a judgment and as such, is rude, not to mention arrogant. A well-mannered person treats everyone with respect and kindness. Appearance should not enter into it. I, personally take issue with #20. I find it very annoying when I am engrossed in some activity and someone asks to "help". If I refuse, I feel they may be offended, if I allow them to help I risk having my project ruined. Better advice would be to help cheerfully,if asked.

These manners should be posted at WAL-MART!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AND STOP BLOCKING THE AISLES WITH YOUR BRATS!

Its about time we get back to this! Fundamentals that have seemingly missing from our society for far to long!

Why does everyone disagree with number 6? We all know how annoying children can get when all they sit there and do is complain. By letting them know their comments would be much more interesting to others if they were positive ones, I would think it would end up with happier, more appreciative children who would not seek attention by complaining.

Samantha good post...sometimes young children do get over excited and forget.....and yes often it is what they have learned...just as honor and honesty is something they learn...And maybe it is a southern thing...I would not truly know as I am not from the northern part of the country....and have met few folks from that part of the country...the few I have had good manners thou.

I agree with everything except for number 6.

PS. I might add, what's considered polite and good manners in one area/country/culture might be considered odd or even rude in others. Everyone hears the story when they're kids about how in some countries it's polite to burp after a meal because it shows you appreciated the food, but there are other less - conspicuous - differences.

I'll agree about 'please', 'thank you', 'you're welcome', holding doors open, and so forth, though. THOSE are universal.

Noisy eating and what-have-you? Yes, normally, that is rude. HOWEVER, I'm sure I'm not the only one who has severe breathing difficulties - asthma, allergies, chronic bronchitis and sinusitis are only four of the things I have - so it's not always POSSIBLE to eat with the mouth closed and so forth. Although I do try to as often as I can!

wow im 9 and i dont know any of thses exept for please and thankyou and i openthe door for people and most of the time i am polite

Other than #6 which I disagree with....my son does everyone of the above and more. I am raising him in Jamaica and he learns his manners in school beginning at about age 2. If he even thought of being rude to his teacher she would put the fear of god in him. Being rude is just not tolerated here in the schools. I know children in Jamaica that do not come from good homes but are very polite as they are taught in school to be. My child is much more polite than MOST American children that I know and I KNOW I made the right decision raising him in Jamaica.

#6 Should be rephrased : You are free to express your good and bad feelings – but please tell negative opinions only once or twice to your friends or adults, more than three times would become bragging and complaining.

The reasons behind a few of these seem a little too 'adult-pleasing' for me. I'm no psychologist, but I think that valid reasons make people adhere to certain behaviors, as opposed to the whole 'do what the adult wants you to do' attitude.

The robot comment I keep reading is driving me crazy. I love my kids' personalities and love to let them shine thru, but there is a time and a place. There is a time and a place to run and be free, but not at a place where it can be in the way of other people. I would love if I could teach one or two extra kids to grow up respecting elders, answer questions without the blank stare, think that the world does not revolve only around them, and to be HAPPY. I am 32 and sad to see how much disrespect there is difference from what there was when I a kid to now. My kids do NOT rule my life, they are part of it in a respectful way.

I was raised in a military and southern family. When we moved out to SoCal when my dad retired from the navy, my siblings and myself actually would get hauled into the principal's office for syaing "yes m'am" or "no sir"....the teachers would say we were smart-mouthing them by saying that. Gotta love the hippie teachers of the 60's/70's in SoCal. Growing up, people looked at me like I was growing a third eye and horns. Despite what happen to me as a kid with manners, I make sure that my son has the same (if not better) manners that I was raised with. He is twelve now and I am always told how polite he is...it gives him a lot of pride when he is directly complimented for his manners.

I am also a teacher and I can tell the parents that work with their kids and spend quality time with them because of the kid's manner.

Ma'am and Sir are not used in the North. Personally, I don't like to be called Ma'm and I am 64 years old.I am a retired teacher and didn't like it if my students ever used ma'am

I think this article is very annoying. It's kind of saying in a hidden way that adults know everything and that they never make mistakes so you shouldn't either. Personally, I think the best way to teach kids manners is to give them the general idea and let them go out on their own. Sure, they will make a few mistakes and might end being rude but this way they will figure out on their own why this is all so necessary.

oh think this is very good for me because of my schedule sometimes you dont take notice of all these but thank i have printed a copies for all of my kids i believe it will help in their upbringing thanks