25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9

One VERY important one was left off this list... If you burp in front of anyone besides your friends, SAY EXCUSE ME!!! It is NOT as funny as you seem to think it is! =)

The robot comment I keep reading is driving me crazy. I love my kids' personalities and love to let them shine thru, but there is a time and a place. There is a time and a place to run and be free, but not at a place where it can be in the way of other people. I would love if I could teach one or two extra kids to grow up respecting elders, answer questions without the blank stare, think that the world does not revolve only around them, and to be HAPPY. I am 32 and sad to see how much disrespect there is difference from what there was when I a kid to now. My kids do NOT rule my life, they are part of it in a respectful way.

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Please and thank you and other manners

Alot of these could use some re-wording/writing.

Here's one that's not on the list and I find very surprising. Don't address adults by their first names. I'm seriously shocked that kids regularly call adults by their first name and not "Mr." "Mrs." or "Ms." My kids have been taught to address neighbors and friends' parents as "Mrs. Smith" or "Mr. Jones." Even my life-long best friend, who we consider a part of our family (she even spends Christmas morning with us), is referred to as "Miss Heather" rather than her first name alone. So much more respectful.

I am concerned for a number of reasons:
1. NOWHERE on the list does it say that the child should know to say "Good Morning, Afternoon or Night" when encountering an adult. NOWHERE!
2. Is this list addressing the child or the adult?! Because I highly doubt a 9 year old will be reading this article. No offense.
3. "Manners # 6 The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults." Are you serious?! . . . This is ridiculous!!!

i grew up in the south with ma'am & sir, but my husband (and his entire family of origin) are from the north east find this completely silly, and actually somewhat rude. we do not require our daughter to say ma'am or sir, as we do not live in the south any longer. i do think that is a regional expectation, for sure, so i'm glad it didn't make the list.

manners are one thing, but i believe the most important part of this list is teaching children the TRUE reason behind each one of these so their words and actions are GENUINE and not just rehearsed socialized expectations. that way what they say in these moments comes from the heart rather than from a place of "have to" and about pleasing authority, which we all know will be rebelled against if the child is developmentally normal. teaching "scripts" can be rote and empty, and does not really create mindful children.

I think this should be followed by the elders first !

Its about time we get back to this! Fundamentals that have seemingly missing from our society for far to long!

My goodness!!! You people that don't agree with this list!!! Where is your sense of pride and dignity? Manners have been around for forever and even with changing times, manners should still be practiced. Im sorry that some of you were not taught it, that is a true shame. I am glad that my parents raised me the way they did.
Now there are some things on this list that could have been worded a little differently, but it is a good list just to let parents know that if your kid does not practice at least some of these manners, then something is wrong!I I truly dislike people that for example do not open the door for someone behind them or cough with their mouth open, it is just plain rude!
Teach your kids respect! that is what manners are!

How about some for parents?

1. Don't threaten your kids with a "whipping" if he doesn't say "please".
2. Trust your children. If they say something is so, take their side.
3. Teach by example and not by threats.
4. Respect your children. They are people too.
5. Don't talk when they're talking. It's called an explanation.
6. Be as much an adult as I was when I was 6.

Why does everyone disagree with number 6? We all know how annoying children can get when all they sit there and do is complain. By letting them know their comments would be much more interesting to others if they were positive ones, I would think it would end up with happier, more appreciative children who would not seek attention by complaining.

I think that's a good idea to give kids manners so they won't be such delinquent with no respect for adults.

I am a proud parent of a 5 year old son and after reading this, I am even prouder to say that my son has most of these down. Whenever he forgets to say thank you or please, I continue to reinforce the importance of it. I can't agree too much with the whole napkin thing though, children are messy, thats just what they do. I also have friends who have children almost the same age and they are just as polite. Etiquette should be taught a home from parents but if the parents are not polite, what makes you think the children with be?

PS. the picking nose thing--a very hard habit to break if you let the child do it in the first place.

Ok, this is just amazing that there are actually other people out there who believe in manners. I am a mother of 6 (yes, six) children and you would not believe how many times we are stopped and I am complimented on my well behaved children. Then I am asked my secret. I tell them, I lead by example! I know it works because I'm constantly being asked to give parenting classes. To which I just simply shake my head and say,"No Thank You."

These manners should be posted at WAL-MART!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AND STOP BLOCKING THE AISLES WITH YOUR BRATS!

"Manner #21

When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile."

This is dead wrong!

When an adult asks you for a favor, if it involves you going anywhere with them, you are to say "No, I am a child, pleas ask an adult to go with you".

Amen Mel

Amen Mel