I, like most pregnant women, get ideas in my head … and food cravings … and interrupting my thoughts and plans will lead to major trouble. My husband, trying to be helpful, cleaned out the fridge. Only he threw away the leftover salsa (that had only been in there for four days…not two weeks, as he thought) that I was planning to eat for lunch. I was extremely unhappy and threatened not to eat any lunch if I couldn't have what I wanted (this baffled him…"Can't you just go buy more?"). Luckily it was in a sealed in container and had only just been thrown away, so I got it out, washed it off, poured it in another bowl, and went about my lunch.
Crazy, right? But this little situation led me to think about all the things that husbands really shouldn't say to their pregnant wives….
1. "Just eat it. Why are you so picky about food?"
Umm, sorry, if she has morning sickness - or is like any pregnant woman really - she has particular things she wants to eat…and particular things she can't stand. There's a good chance that if you bully her into eating something she really does not want, that she will throw up on your shoes. Just don't. Nor should you try to tease her with food she finds disgusting (which you can eat, but not in her presence) because you will end up with the same result.
2. "Eh, you don't really look pregnant yet. You just look like you let yourself go a little."
Do I even need to explain why you shouldn't say that?
3. "Umm, your butt is getting bigger…is there a baby in there too?"
Again, that should be self explanatory!
4. "Come on, all this" (morning sickness, fatigue, etc.) "is just in your head. The baby is tiny, it can't really do all this to you."
Oh, yes, it can. Her hormones are raging and there is nothing she can do about it, she feels out of control of her body. And yes, exhausted and sick. Do not suggest it is "all in her head" if you want to live.
5. "Why do we need to go to a birthing class? Doesn't it just come naturally? Or, aren't you going to get the drugs anyway?"
Belittling the need to prepare for labor - however she wants to end up, naturally or with drugs - is not smart. It is huge to her, and especially if it's her first, she needs to read books, take a class, or do whatever to learn what she can. And she needs you to support her, not tell her it's unnecessary.
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