According to Jessica Alba, I'm Not "Really, Truly" a Mother

I think Jessica was meaning that it's somehow more real... I honestly don't think she was speaking about anyone but herself. *For her* she really, truly feels like a mother now.

I don't take anything Jessica Alba says seriously. She has proved that intelligence is not her forte. Or maybe she is smart but her stupid comments get more publicity. Either way I don't pay attention to her.

Jessica Alba is a known airhead. I wouldn't take anything she said with a grain of salt. Remember when she said she was Sweden? You could easily argue that you're not a real mom either if you have nannies to help raise your children.

You are dealing with beauty not brains here..... Even if she is a smart lady she does say some really stupid things....

What is it about the expression "feels like" that y'all aren't understanding? While she's speaking from her own experience, two kids really catapults you in the mommy zone if you weren't totally there in the first place. Heck, she even CLARIFIES that you're really a parent as soon as you have that one kid (I'm pleased to note that she didn't specify that you had to give birth to that child--shout-out to all those brave adoptive parents out there!)

If having a second child doesn't in some way alter your parenting techniques, then there's something wrong with you. Two kids require more time and care than one, and if your kids aren't the same age (the case with most multi-kid homes), you have to get used to parenting on two different levels to be age-appropriate for each. Also, I guarantee that the "first time around" you will have done at least one thing, probably at least a dozen, that you think in hindsight should have been done differently; now's your chance to confront that.

Who cares? It is how she feels and she is entitled to her opinion. Two kids are way more work than one, but she never said having one means you aren't a mother. yeesh.

I totally get what she is likely trying to say. Plenty of women give birth once. Not all of them are into motherhood (or fatherhood- there are plenty of guys out there who have fathered a child). Once you have multiple children though, you no longer just have a child, you are a parent. Sure there are exceptions. There are plenty who choose to have one child or can only have one and are totally devoted and those who neglect multiple kids. Typically those who choose to have more than one do so because they dedicated to parenthood.

Somebody hit a Nerve or two... Look, Mrs Alba has an OPINION. thats all it is. definition of a mother is to have a child. If there is a child out there that calls or has called you MommY, guess what? you are one!
relax and take a mothers little helper.

I feel what your saying but I would have had more children if I could....a mother is a mother...like someone said earlier, Jessica is not know for her intelligence...who cares about levels..im handling with what i was dealt...I love my child and my other one who passed on too...some things are more important that worrying that people with more than one child think they are on sum other level..thats just stupid and ignorant to think that way....lol, we all experience the same challenges and if your smart enough you learn from going through it once...

I seriously doubt what she's saying is that women with one child aren't "real" mothers. Sure, she could have said it better but as you said your response probably has far more to do with the fact that you aren't able to have more children than with the actual words she said. I would guess she meant that having more than one is more challenging because there is more to juggle. I have three children, aged 7, 3 and 6 months. It is FAR more difficult to have three than it is to have one in my opinion (at least while they are so young) but does it mean the mom of a singleton isn't a "real" mom or that she doesn't also work hard? Of course not.

Bill Cosby had that routine 35 years ago!
Jessica Alba needs to think before she opens her mouth

Um... pretty sure that she was just talking about how being a mother of two felt and was not making an existential comment on motherhood and mothers other than herself. Maybe read the entire interview before getting randomly super offended.

Shesaid, " It feels like...". That means that is how SHE feels. She said it as a feeling for her, not as a fact. Geez.

Oh, and I have nine children and trying to have another. Your insecurities, for whatever reason, certainly shine through...

Let me just say that I found this article so distasteful that I couldn't even finish reading it. If I wanted to read someone cursing out a celebrity I would join twitter and read useless, mindless tweets. There was no substance to this article and it was poorly written. This author needs to relax and stop taking crazy pills and taking things personally. Yes, having more than one child does take parenting to another level, as it does with each additional child. Obviously having A CHILD makes you a mother so instead of thrashing a celebrity, who probably didn't intend her comment to come off as it did, spend your time doing something constructive - because THIS doesn't suit you.

What a great example you show your daughter. Years from now she can look back on this article and be overjoyed by your lanuage and most likely hormonal rants. Good going April Hussar! Way to show your little girl how to be a woman.

Although you certainly are a mom, whether you have one kid or ten, I will admit (though not to her!!) that my sister, who has 4 children does a HELL of a lot more work than I do, with only 1 small, rather quiet daughter. I have no fighting, sibling rivalry, or anything like that to deal with. I never run out of hands. I never need to divide my time or attention. It kinda does take it to another level!!

Seriously, let it go. You sound offended by the statement of ONE person you don't even KNOW. Lord. Who's the bigger idiot here? The one who made the stupid statement or the one WAY overreacting?

LMJFAO no Jessica, being a REAL parent does NOT depend on how many babies you breed, but rather on how well you parent. Ms Alba is a BNP.

OK, If you have one, two, three, or more children..... you are a parent responsible for up bringing a child. However a parent of two or more kids have more things to worry about.

To quote from Billy Cosby's stand up back in 1982, a parent of one kid doesn't have to worry about the following....

If a lamp breaks in the living room, and you have one kid you know who did it.

A parent of a one child doesn't have to worry about their kid saying, "Would you stop touching me". Otherwise if you are a parent of on child, that child says "Would you stop touching me", randomly, that child may have to be put in a hospital.

The bit comes from the same stand up when he does his chocolate cake bit.

April, I get it.

Reminds me a lot of the condensending vibe I get from women who tell childfree me I'm not a "real" women unless I give birth or at the least, adopt. Seems no matter what women do or don't do regarding reproduction, somebodies got an opinion.

I am a second child I don't think my mom or sisters were any less of a mother when they only had one child.