When I tell people that i have 4 kids and that i'm a single mother the reaction is the same. With that same question" how do you do it? As if i'm going to freeze or not deal with it like any other mother would. I was raised with both parents and not only that but have a great father, so i know what to do and also what to expect from a father. Never did i imagine after being with my kids father for 8 years that he would be the biggest disappointment. Specially because he knew that I had gone through a chaotic marriage with my ex husband who abused me.
I deal with the neverending disappointments from him. He only sees his 3 kids 1 day out of the week and as is he will blow up my phone the following day un patiently to see when i'm going to pick them up. it's like wow i get 1 whole day to myself when he has 6 days to himself, it amazes me.
Their are times when he doesn't even see them he will purposesly start a fight and hang up on me to not deal with being a parent.
But he will proudly put on his myspace profile "proud parent". And the cherry is that his mother backs up his behavior and inresponsibility. By bad mouthing me and giving him advice on how to not be on the books.
She was a single mother herself. yes! i know the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree" I hear of guys that want to see their kids and the girl will play foolish games" and here i want him to see his kids and makes reason why he can't
I do it all the parent - teacher conferences, answer to the school, doctor, dentist appointments.
Name it i handle it, and when i', sick i still do the laundry,cooking, cleaning. As a mother we have no time off.
I even told him that i could care less for the ,money i just want him to be a father and be involved. That still don't make a difference.
Today he called in the morning inquirring about the kids and wanting to see them, but yet told his son that he was going golfing. and would be back by 1pm only to call at 7pm!
I intook all the frustration and decided that i won't put my kids through this anymore
they deserve to be priority above all for a father to want to spend the whole day with them
the bright side to this situation is that it has made be more determined to pursue my goals,dreams,passions, and also a tighter bond with my kids
that's his lost
"You can't force someone to be something that they don't want to be!