by Rebecca Odes
I'm pretty sure I'll never forget the first time somebody asked me if I was pregnant.
I was all of about five weeks along. It didn't help that the person who asked me was my ex boyfriend.
Maybe it was the glow, or some kind of telepathy. Or maybe it was less the fruit of my love with my husband and more the fruit of our delayed honeymoon in Italy. Two months of primi AND secondi AND dolci had left me a bit on the grande side. But my belly did begin expanding almost immediately after I got pregnant.
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What could I say? I was indeed pregnant, but the last thing I wanted to do was tell anybody about it less than a month in. I knee-jerked "NO!!"My poor ex scuttled away, shamed and horrified. I felt guilty, yucky and afraid I'd jinxed it all with my flat out lie. I resolved not to go out again until I was out of the secret first trimester, for fear I'd be called out again. Who knows how many ex boyfriends I might run into before I was able to comfortably spill the beans? Morning sickness kicked in soon thereafter, which made my resolution that much easier. But I always wondered if there was something I could have done to prevent that awkward moment for both of us.
The first trimester can be an uncomfortable phase for fashion. Even if you haven't eaten enough gelato to sink a gondola, you may find your waistline looking considerably larger considerably quicker than you expect it to. It's hard to know how to dress the growing belly without calling attention to it. No one may be so bold as to flat out ask, but there can still be weirdness when people wonder "Is she or isn't she?"
After an embarrassing encounter on a public bus, one fed-up woman wrote some fashion rules for those who want to avoid being seen as pregnant…whether or not they are. Her recommendations are perfect for early pregnancy discretion, as well as general gut-friendly dressing.
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The fashion advice comes from Brooke Moreland, who isn't pregnant and hopes not to be mistaken for pregnant anytime in the near future, or probably, ever again. See her full piece, including the hilarious story of how she came to see the need for these Do's and Don'ts, at thegloss.com.
1. Just Say No to Low rise
This is tricky. Low waisted jeans can cause a tummy to pooch out. If your favorite jeans just happen to be low waisted, then do not wear a tight or short shirt with them. If you like how the jeans fit everywhere else but the stomach, wear a longer, looser shirt that covers the waistband. To test the length, try raising your arms above your head. If the tum-tum is still covered, you're good.
2. Beware of the Mom Jeans, or the Jessica Simpson effect
High waisted pants are very chic and very hot right now- but be careful. If the waistline is too high, say above the belly button, then that will draw attention to the gut as well, as you will be highlighting the belly curve. Ideally, the pants should hit about one inch below the belly button, thus cutting the belly in half, and preventing the ballooning look.
3. RIYF (Ruching is your friend)
Ruching is a technique where fabric is gathered and bunched. When a dress is rouched in the right places, it can obscure the belly and draw attention to the dress, and away from your abdomen. If the ruching is done well, it can also create an optical illusion that your waist is smaller.
I think shirts with bands on the bottom are a bad idea. Always. I don't even know what these shirts are called. I saw a woman wearing a loose, flowy shirt that had a tight band on the bottom. I don't know what would possess a person to wear a shirt like that. Anything with a band around the middle screams 'with child.'
5. Save the Empire Waist for when you really are pregnant
I say this a lot, but for women with bellies, empire waist is just not flattering. I know you want to just hide your belly sometimes, but empire waist dresses and tops will make you look pregnant. I know they can make your rack look great, but hello, this just adds to the problem (hello nursing?). I have said it before, but it is best just to stick to your natural waist. A-line skirts that hit on the waist are flattering. Anything that can help give the appearance of an hourglass shape is good. You want to highlight your bust and hip curves, and take the eyes off of that other curve.
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