I Lied to My Husband So I Could be a Stay-at-Home-Mom

So much for parenthood making you a mature and better person...

This seriously made me sick to my stomach. I almost never wish divorce on anyone but for this author...Yeah, I hope your husband wises up and toss your butt aside. Why is it that when a man tells a woman BEFORE getting married and having kids he wants a out of the home working partner it does not matter? It seems as long as the baby pusher gets what she wants that's all that matters. What a bunch of crock.

So you agreed to do something and then backpedalled and lied about it. Yeah, you're just an awesome human being. You not only saddle your husband with ALL the financial responsibility but lie to him as well and you feel just so damn satisfied with yourself. And you think it's cute too, huh? Hope the shoe is on the other foot someday. Maybe one day your husband will decide he doesn't like his job anymore so he lies and says he was 'fired' and then takes a less stressful lower paying job, forcing your lazy behind to get a job. Women like this make me sick.

i get that you wanna be with your child but once she starts going to kindergarten you should at least get a part time job. Kids need their parents to be there for them but if your there all the time they'll push you away more. My mom did it and i guess it worked out well enough with me :)
Attachment is good but when it goes over board it could lead to depression!

Last I checked marriage isn't about what you want, it's about what's best for the whole family. If you think it's best to spend the first couple of years with your little one (because you can miss a lot in those years) then you should have just told him that. If he is really that concerned with you going back to work than your probably putting a lot of finacial hardship on him by just doing what you want and staying at home. Get a job in a daycare so you can be close to your child and work, it's called compromise (which in my book is the heart of a marriage).

You lied to your husband...how can he ever be able to trust you again. Might as well cheat on him, which would be the same level of betrayal. Be completely honest with him, and if you do not come clean then I would have little sympathy if he divorces you. Think about what you are teaching you child. Is it all right to betray the person you are supposed to love?

I agree with the majority of the commenters here. The way she lied to her husband is disgusting. Everyone else summed up my thoughts exactly, but I'd like to add one more thing. Her husband is not just supporting her and their new baby, he's supporting ANOTHER MAN'S CHILD additionally! She's lucky to even have a wonderful husband and father, let alone one that will also father another man's baby!

Wow...just wow. People who do things like you did to your husband make stay-at-home mothers (and women in general) look bad—making it more difficult for us to stay home or even get a job (if you weren't up front with your husband, I doubt you were with your boss). If/when your husband finds out, this could really ruin your marriage in the long run—yet here you are flaunting it on the internet. That's really sad.

I was with you until the packet thing. That is going way too far. Why didn't you use your computer skills to type up a budget and show your husband what you could do to keep staying home with your daughter. I can promise you if he ever finds out it will be crushing on your marriage.

The issue here is the lying, not wanting to stay home or go back to work or the affordability issue. It's about honesty and trustworthiness. Which she obviously has neither. That's too bad and in the end most liars get caught, you reap what you sow!

Who cares is not a big deal,is not like she murdered someone.Ppl make her out to be so evil when there is more important things out there in the world.

Why would you even post this?

Most of us, when we have a child, grow up. We learn selflessness, patience, sacrifice. We do what is best for our children, our families. In this case, what's best for your family is to go back to work. You know this, which is why you are lying like a little child. You haven't grown up.

Having a baby isn't having a cuddly little doll. You can't expect your husband to be the only adult in the household while you play dress up like a five your old. It's time to step up, grow up, and stop acting like a child.

What happens "if" your hubby lies to you?!??
Will it be "ok" to deceive YOU??!!??
WHERE'S THE TRUST??!?? If you can't trust him to understand your reasons for wanting this, why are you with him??!!?
ONE LIE LEADS TO ANOTHER AND ANOTHER AND ANOTHER...............

I cannot believe you are advocating this type of behavior! Stop living like a single person in a marriage. If you want to do only what YOU think is best or what YOU want to do - without consulting your partner - then get out! You obviously do not want to be in a committed relationship where both parties respect each other, so divorce your husband and be prepared to lose custody of your child in the proceedings.

I would think it would a lot more simpler to tell him the truth rather than make up a whole string of lies. Don't you feel guilty with every lie you tell your husband? I kinda feel sorry for him for the fact that he chose you for a partner and the fact that you feel that you can't be honest in your own marriage. I haven't lied to get what I want. I've told the truth even when I was worried about the results, but every time, I found that I worried for nothing.

like really?! you can't live thru your child and as the others said......grow up....id love to sit at home with both of my kids but my children wouldn't grow up aroulnd other children and get comfortable with being around others and knowing how to share and listen to other adults...what happens when the kid starts school??? come one....i cant believe you have done all this lieing and making stuff up to get what you want.... selfish and childish.... ifeel sorry for your child and husband

Okay, I understand wanting to stay home with your child. However, I think you better get a job selling Avon out of the house because when your husband finds out you lied to him (and lied BIG) you'll be headed straight for divorce court!

Wow. What a horrible thing to do! It's great that you love your child and want to spend time with her, but your actions are reprehensible. What kind of marriage can you have with this lie hanging over your head? Or do you even mind? You made a decision that would have a huge impact on your entire family based on your desires. I, along with seemingly everyone else, would love for your husband to find out about this. I would be incredibly surprised if he decided not to divorce you. Hopefully, that will force you to grow the hell up. I hope your "little angel" grows up to be nothing like you.

Also to all you other posters talking about how awful daycare kids are, well thanks, I aprreciate you insulting me and my childhood. I also appreciate the indirect insults to my mother, who had to work multiple part time jobs just to feed and clothe me because my Dad was a deadbeat. Just because you see a group of kids at one daycare or school act a certian way does not mean that EVERY child who attends day care is doomed. It does not mean thier mothers are bad parents because they chose to work and place thier child in daycare. So many people here on Shine are so ignorant and judgmental. Look outside your little narrow box. How bout looking up some statistics online, or reading some articles from a child psychologist on the topic. Taking both of those actions would show you that you are completely off the mark about daycare children. Like I said, the ones you see may be bad, but there could be so many other factors than JUST daycare causing the behavior.

un-freaking-believable.....you don't have a husband, you have a daddy if you expect him to take care of everything. Grow up and accept responsibility.