In Defense of Nadya Suleman, Mother of Octuplets

Why would one say that "God has blessed this woman"? This is not a blessing, it is a curse. She has made a very poor choice and now she must live with it. Others will have to pay the consequences for her behavior. The grandmother has virtually had to raise her the other with very little financial support from Nadya. Most of her disability money went to lip enhancements, facial surgery and embryo implantation. Nadya's mother saw very little if any of that money. As a special education teacher for more than 30 years, I know there will be a lot of tough times ahead as these children grow up. That is when the real burden on society will begin!! You have no idea what it takes to educate a child with disabilites. It takes a lot of TIME and PATIENCE. I don't see Nadya having the mental stability herself let alone try to deal with 14 children, some of who are very disabled!! This is not about "hate" as many of you state, it is about reality. If you think 14 children are a blessing, then you should go to her website and volunteer time, money and goods instead of just giving lip service!!

The author's use of "fair and balanced" ruined the article for me.

There are so many other people out there who truly deserve our sympathy and understanding. People who, through no fault of their own, are facing hardship in their daily lives but who still refuse to sell out like this woman has done. She did something on purpose, knowing full well that she could not support these children on her own, and also knowing that either the state or the Jerry Springer/Oprah freakshow watching public would bail her out. I say screw her. I'm tired of paying for other people's stupidity.

I think your article was very well said. I agree with you.
The 8 babies should not be split up, along with the 6 other special children.

She needs contributions in the USA, instead of sending money to Asia, etc. to adopt a baby you will never get to hold or see. I don't believe she planned to have 8 babies. I look forward to seeing them grow up and lots of pictures. Let's all contribute some momey to her-- She is a very loving Mother.

Yes, she did have 8 more children added to her already 6. The children are the ones that I feel sorry for. How on earth will she ever be able to take care of them and see that they are all fed. I think it would be much better to have someone adopt them and give them the love and idividual attention that they deserve. She actually was not thinking and neither was the doctor who did this procedure. But who would think that all 7 embryos would even take or happen. This is very unusual. I pray that God be with all of them including the children she already has. And yes it does no good to comdemn. God is the only one who has the right to do that. Let whoever is without sin be the first one to cast a stone. We have no right to judge.

You are absolutely right! and i for one will offer my prayers for her and her children. A lot of people here complain as if they are perfect! such double standard, they are not helping but adding more hate and fire into the world.

No matter the poor judgement she showed, I think the Dr & his medical group should be financially responsible for the future care & the expenses of helping her raise these 14 children. They should have acted as "gatekeepers" to her hairbrained scheme, instead, they supported her decision. Their malpractice insurance should pay-up, since this is clearly a case of bad judgement on the healthcare group, and that is what malpractice insurance is supposed to provide monetary compensation for.

I too have been amazed at the hatred for this women. In the past media has given lots of happy, positive publicity to anyone giving birth to 6-8 babies. The parents have received lots of attention and tons of donations: large house, van, money, help with diapers, formula etc. I do not know why people are so full of hate for Nadia. Those babies need to stay together and not be scaterred like puppies. I do not know how people can just start hating someone that they have never met and do not even know. If people are not willing to help this girl and the babies the least they can do is stop feeding the hatred created by the media!

Leave her alone, the heart does what the heart does. Kids are cool.

In my opinion, I agree with most of what you said. She does need help taking care of those children and she does need some help to take care of her mental problems. But, my biggest concerns is the children. These children deserve a chance to have a good life now that they are here. the hatrey i have heard and seen toward the children really is horrible. The fact of the matter is the children are here and they need help regards of what we feel about the mother's decision to have them.

I do believe that this woman needs compassion, sympathy and help, but whether she would take it is another question. My mother is mentally ill (but not as bad off as Nadya) and I've worked with people who are mentally ill. Sad to say, but there are many people who will work the system to their own advantage. I doubt she even thought about how more children would affect the 6 that she already couldn't handle. My impression of the situation is that she had those babies to make up for something she was lacking in herself- sort of like those people who have a bad marriage and think that having a baby will make it better. I think people have a right to be angry with Nadya for being so very irresponsible and incredibly selfish, but I don't think that death threats or public humiliation will do anything to help the situation. Like it or not, helping mom is the best way to help the kids. Either help the mom or take the kids away if she can't be helped, but just lashing out at her isn't going to change anything. Putting more stress on her is only going to take away from the care that she needs to be giving those babies/kids.

LuvEvryBodee-She admitted on Dr. Phil that she now realizes what she did was wrong. She did say she did only want one more baby but all of the 6 eggs took and 2 split. So I don't think she is even condoning this behavior. I have run into a lot of families that have 10 kids or more and are living off of state aid and government help but no one is freaking out on them and saying how nuts they are. I'm sure it is difficult dealing with children with health, hearing, vision, and learning problems but would you give any of your kids up just because they have some issues? I'm guessing no because nothing is stronger than a parents love. So why should anybody expect her to give hers up because of a stupid mistake?

I was very sadden by this story as it started to unfold and I have had harsh judgements for her in my mind, but you are right there is nothing to be gained from all this hatred born because of her. Nadya hasn't made the best decisions in my opinion but the decision have already been made.

I do not think taking children away from their parents is the answer and I hope we as a nation won't go overboard and start major regulations that we all will regret later. Nadya is one person. We may not agree with what she did, but do you want the government to tell you what to do when it comes to your children?

At this point all we can do is try and make the best of this situation. I don't think giving money is the right way, but offering services and actual needed items would seem like a good idea.

I hope that people will be careful about what they are wishing for. I have never had in vitro but was always lucky to get pregnant on my own. I know many women who try in vitro for years and barely conceive one child with six embryos implanted. These situations really should be evaluated on a case by case basis, and, frankly, I don't know that I want to have rules and regs about this.

The government should go after her for using student loan money for IVF. That was money that was suppose to be used for going to college. What she did is criminal, mis-use of funds. No one really talks about that.

her kids should be taken away and placed in foster care just like what happened with the idiot parents who named there kid after hitler , i also think that the lady writing this blog Taz Tagore should be let go from her job she is either retarded, or just trying to provoke people by writing crap like this for attention, maybe she should be made to go live with Nadya and help take care of the kids if she feels this way

Your blog adds nothing to the conversation as you simply raise questions that are easily answered. What good does all the criticism of the octoidiot do? you ask - It will hopefully prevent other idiots from polluting and overpopulating the world the way she has.

Governemnt agencies are not there for people to take advantage of the system. Although many do, and it upsets republicans. After a certain point you have to tell people to sink or swim. Not just her but all people that take advantage of the system.
I would prefer to help people that that got layoff their jobs and had their homes foreclosed. Those are the people we should be helping.

It has nothing to do with her not being married. In my opinion it is sad that she had more children when she has no means of taking care of them. My children are supported by my husband and I. I know people fall on hard times and sometimes need help, but she already had government help and then had more. I work hard and I dont want to work to support someones sefishness.

I think you are right. People are so quick to judge based on what they hear in the media. It is scary how people who are so 'independent' are really just following the gossip and rumors that they take as fact because it's on tv or in a paper. People need to be quick to help others, not to put them down. What was done can't be undone. She is their mother and she should be able to keep her children. How do you think these kids will feel when they are older when they hear how people are condemning their mother. It is not fair for them.

I'm only going to state FACTS:

1. We are in an economic recession and have been since November 2007
2. She HAD SIX children before going into INVITRO with EIGHT EMBRYOS
3. She is unemployed and living with her parents

Why on EARTH, would the unemployed INJURED mother of SIX, two at least who are disabled in one way or another, WILLINGLY, without partner, income or a home of her own, have ONE more child, let alone EIGHT?

It's pathetic that you are supporting this woman. She made a huge mistake, was irresponsible and lord knows who can help her. She brought eight poor children into a life of struggle BY CHOICE and should pay for that. The children are not to blame but what was she thinking doing this?

You condone this behavior? You are a sad person. Really, really sad. It's one thing to feel bad for all fourteen children and her poor parents, but it's another to support a lunatic like this. Sickening.