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    Shocking Tweets Sent by Teen Girls During Chris Brown's Grammy Performance

    Chris BrownChris BrownI'm not gonna lie, I was not happy to see Chris Brown perform (lip-sync) at the Grammys (let alone twice!). I do believe in second chances and forgiveness, and it's one thing to let him resume his career in entertainment, but it's quite another to praise him. He shouldn't be praised or given awards. He's an abuser.

    Wasn't that sending the wrong message to our kids? I mean, there were countless preteens and teens watching the show. Wouldn't they see his performance as a sign that it was OK to beat up women? Would they think Rihanna deserved the abuse? While Jennifer Hudson's tribute to Whitney Houston was a definite highlight, maybe Chris Brown was just the very low … lowlight. Maybe I was getting ahead of myself, I thought.

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    And then I saw this.

    In the Twitter universe, teens and young women were tweeting about Brown and asking him to beat them, among other things:

    "Call me crazy but I would let Chris Brown beat me up any day."

    "Everyone shut up about Chris Brown being a woman beater…he can beat me all night if he wants to."

    "I'd let Chris Brown beat me up any time" #womanbeater

    "Like I've said multiple times before, Chris Brown can beat me up all he wants…I'd do anything to have him"

    Disturbing just doesn't even cover this round-up of tweets. What the hell are our girls thinking? More importantly, how did they mentally get there? Like with too many things today, the media plays a role. If we condone the behavior or worse, applaud it (even for millions of dollars), we are failing our kids - boys and girls.

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    On a night where we are all saying goodbye to Whitney Houston, a legend who was introduced to drugs by her bad boy husband, Bobby Brown, shouldn't we expect more than to see an abuser take the stage in all his glory? Don't our girls deserve it? People have made groups over not wanting Ellen DeGeneres to be a spokesperson because she is gay (yet she has never hurt anyone and only helps people), but no one blinks an eye when a man who had been convicted of felony assault on his girlfriend is praised and allowed to perform on the Grammys twice in one night?

    There is something seriously wrong and I don't even know how to stop the madness that is media and societal morals today. It seems that anything goes as long as it brings in big bucks. As far as we have come with equal rights and women's liberation, it is not nearly far enough. We are still telling our girls that they are not worthy to not be hit, not worthy of fair treatment, not worthy of respect, or in other words, just not worthy.

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    The majority of the show itself was nonsense, and little more than over-hyped packages of hoopla. Just look at Katie Perry and Nicki Minaj. I don't even know what the point was of their performances.

    In stark contrast, Adele is a stellar role model for our girls, (plus her vocals can bring you to tears, they're just that beautiful). She is a 23-year-old who shows us what a strong woman is: self-confident and strong. She doesn't have to slink down to the point of sexualizing herself or using shock value to gather an audience. She can actually sing.

    Jennifer Hudson, despite losing her family (mother, sister and nephew) at the hands of an abuser and having to sing on short notice on an intensely emotional night, nailed it perfectly with her tribute to Whitney Houston. She is another example for our girls.

    There are too many extremely talented and decent artists in today's music to give a platform to abusers. Grammys, you missed the boat on this one, and it looks like from these tweets that the damage only continues.

    Today will see teens walking the school hallways talking about how hot Chris Brown the convicted abuser is, and how they would endure a beating to be with him.

    It's nothing but simply horrifying.

    - By Danielle Sullivan

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    26 comments

    • Dolce Marimba  •  3 months ago
      Its been 3 effing years since he beat her up...get over Sullivan, ok? I'm a die-hard Chris Brown fan. I forgave him cause he plead guilty and admitted his faults. They both [Chris and Rihanna] played a role in that situation so la-de-dah. I would be front-row-center at his concerts and buy his albums cause he makes good music. Rihanna kept re-releasing that #$%$ album of hers that I'm tired of her...plus she's gone a lil demented with her songs. I like man down and all but she doesn't have the finesse as soon other singers (she can't really dance either). The grammys is about honoring musical talent...Chris got talent, so shut the eff up and realize we ain't living in your little world. Plus, if you were them girls' age (or even close to it or knew what they were thinking), you would understsnding the underlying innuendo of "beat" meaning sex...DUH!!!
    • Roberta  •  Phoenix, Arizona  •  3 months ago
      The error is expecting the Grammy Awards to be child-appropriate. 98% of the people participating in the show are NOT good role models for anyone (especially children)--that includes your beloved Whitney Houston.
      • Dubs 3 months ago
        EXACTLY
      • Rhetta Wolfe 3 months ago
        Indeed! I won't be paying tribute to drug abusing, messed up dead celebrities any time soon. Celebrating the likes of Whitney Houston, Amy Winehouse, Michael Jackson and others without acknowledging their BIG mistakes is no example to set for impressionable children.
    • Nicole  •  3 months ago
      Meanwhile, women with brains are swooning over Colin Firth being a gentleman to Meryl Streep when she lost her shoe.
      • julia 3 months ago
        and this is the type of behaviour we should teach our sons
    • Tigris  •  Pittsburg, California  •  3 months ago
      Those girls are idiots.
    • Han  •  Fargo, North Dakota  •  3 months ago
      Some of you people need to get educated about domestic abuse and stop making ignorant comments or don't say anything at all. It still matters, what this #$%$ hole did. Abusive men DO NOT CHANGE! They will always be the way they are, they do not deserve anything in life other than misery. Chris Brown is nothing but a fart in the wind as far as I'm concerned. As for the #$%$ who tweeted about wanting him to beat them, they're idiots. I wouldn't wish DV upon anyone, not my worst enemy. It ruins lives every single day.
    • Nate  •  3 months ago
      Teen girls are so stupid. They idolize the idiot Hollywood trash and then complain about their low self-esteem. When did our society start to think it was great to idolize brainless idiots like this over the likes of scientists, inventors, and philanthropists. Rome is burning.
      • A Yahoo! User 3 months ago
        Thank you very much, but not all 'teen girls' are the same. Hello, teen business owners, inventors, bloggers, authors, and artists. Even just normal girls like my friends and I manage to balance high-level sports, friends, relaxation, family, and, oh yeah, our 3.5 to 4.0 grade averages.
        This century really isn't that bad.
        Sincerely,
        Fiona
    • Nikki  •  Pleasanton, California  •  3 months ago
      I agree and this is just indicative of how much our culture has degenerated. Each and every family has to take responsibility for raising their youngsters right and for making the connection with their kids' schools and friends/friends families, etc., to ensure that everyone is on the same page and looking out for the best interests of the kids/society. If everyone is focused on that, and I mean everyone, then we'll have a better, more responsible, considerate, and accountable society. Sadly, it took generations for things to get in this condition, and its going to take generations of courage and hard work/effort to turn it back around. It makes it worse when adult people in positions of power and influence do not use it responsibly or with good judgment, but again it is indicative.
    • Zinta  •  3 months ago
      Bottom line is it starts at home people...teach your children, be there for your children....maybe tighten the ole belt rather than taking on extra hours at work....we are having children yet spending less and less time with them. They are getting an education about 'life" through their peers, MTV, the internet, FB, etc....SCARY!!!
    • Switchrat  •  Suwanee, Georgia  •  3 months ago
      Hold on. The issue in this article isn't him performing at the Grammy's. It's the girls accepting spousal abuse just because someone is famous. It just isn't okay.
    • LBC  •  3 months ago
      There are no morals in capitalism. The dollar rules all. The Grammy organization can make money off of him and so they will - they have no "moral obligation" to society not to. Or do they? I think corporations DO have a moral obligation, but beyond "corporations" or "organizations"... those are just collective terms for INDIVIDUAL MEN AND WOMEN. Individual men and women are making these horribly disgusting decisions... and they SHOULD be called out.
    • queen  •  Burlington, Vermont  •  3 months ago
      I have to agree that the main problem is letting our children think these people are role models to being with. They are not. Secondly, there was much much more to that story than "oh he beat her up". No he should never have touched her in any way. However, I also believe that she was as violent as he was. That is not ok either. Yes it is disturbing that kids would mock the violence. I do not think they mean it in a literal sense. No teenage girl- stupid or not- would actually want to be hit by a man. They simply think he is hot. the end. The mothers and fathers of these girls need to make sure to instill what respect is in a relationship. Not leave that up to someone who sells themselves for the next record deal. Not someone who dresses in little to no clothing and bounces around high on whatever the newest craze is. Teen girls are going to oo and ahh over any guy they think is "hot". Nothing new in that. Look at the ones some of us undoubtedly gushed over, they turned out to be violent, drug addicts etc. We just didnt see it all in the media at the time. Furthermore, he is a musician, not a moral compass.
    • julia  •  Warsaw, Poland  •  3 months ago
      Yes what Chris Brown did was disgusting, however he was a man about it and took responsibility for his actions....unlike Whitney Houston (who on previous occasions herself said she used to hit her ex hsuband...is this not equally disgusting?) and who NEVER owned up to her constant crack use and damage to her family. That being said, the grammys are meant to honour musical talent and not peoples personal lives.
      • JenniferR 3 months ago
        Sorry but beating a woman is not being a man about it. The only reason he took responsibility for his actions is because he was caught and probably his publicist fed him what to say to smooth things over. Man? I don't think so. No real man hits a woman. And yes... Whitney Houston hitting her husband is equally disgusting and offensive. I am not really a fan of hers either.
      • A Yahoo! User 3 months ago
        my rwaction to Whitney Housten's death was "Who the Hell is Whitney Housten???"
      • ChiChi 3 months ago
        I agree with JenniferR. Youre not a "man" if you lay your hands on a woman.
    • victorya  •  Albuquerque, New Mexico  •  3 months ago
      he should address the comments made by the young girls...unfortunately for him he will always be an abuser in a lot of peoples eyes and will always have to own up to that... as a mother, a woman and an advocate for victim/survivors of domestic violence thats what i would like to see happen
    • misssara  •  3 months ago
      Just so you know teen girls say alot of things we dont mean. We say things with out thinking to be funny. And we exaggerate about 90% of what we say. So dont take everything that comes out of their mouths so seriously. I can almost guarantee you that all they ment by those statments were "I think Chris Brown is hot" and I want people to like what I wrote and think its funny.
      • LBC 3 months ago
        I agree, the statements probably meant nothing more than "Chris Brown is hot" and "I want people to think I'm funny." But you know what they imply? "A woman beater is hot" and "I want people to think I'm funny so I'm going to degrade myself and my gender because apparently that is what is funny." Horribly sad.
      • MomokoChan 3 months ago
        As a teen girl, I think the twitter posts were idiotic and stupid. And so are those girls.
      • pumas087 3 months ago
        Well, if you don't want people to take what comes out of your mouth seriously.....then they never will! Grow up!
    • Dubs  •  3 months ago
      "On a night where we are all saying goodbye to Whitney Houston, a legend who was introduced to drugs by her bad boy husband, Bobby Brown, shouldn't we expect more than to see an abuser take the stage in all his glory?" 100% Wrong....She was an addict waaay before Bobby Brown. It seems you are just on your usual man hating kick. The worse message that you avoid in all of this is that women should be held accountable for their own choices /actions (then maybe they will deal with the scrutiny men have to for this very same evaluation of accountability) This is the real tale of Whitney....but it seems the truth is lost on you.
    • MissyNFL  •  Washington, District of Columbia  •  3 months ago
      I hate Chris Brown. I'm 12, and my dream boyfriend is Tim Tebow!
    • Rhetta Wolfe  •  Tulsa, Oklahoma  •  3 months ago
      I agree with Roberta. The Grammys, and much of the music industry in general, don't really have a reputation for sending the "right" message to kids. Parents who become aware of their children tweeting this sort of nonsense ought to be very proactive in correcting those attitudes and behaviors before they get even worse.
    • Christal  •  Ontario, California  •  3 months ago
      let him live and let that incident go already
    • cass  •  3 months ago
      So, we should never focus on someone's talent's but only their flaws?
      That's what you want to teach girls (or any kid in general)?
      We all know that what Chris Brown did was wrong, but he deserved to perform at the Grammy's if he can still sing.
      Also, why can't people stop hailing celebrities as role models?
      The best role models should be found in the people living the closest to you, not some celeb who we don't know anything about.
      You want to write an article about why the world is so effed up?
      Start looking at yourself, and you can see the answer.
    • Bass Man  •  3 months ago
      "It's nothing but simply horrifying". Couldn't agree more about this entire article, completely horrible, off target, and pathetic excuse to incite controversy where there is none...Is this Chris Chase in drag?

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