Shocking Tweets Sent by Teen Girls During Chris Brown's Grammy Performance
I'm not gonna lie, I was not happy to see Chris Brown perform (lip-sync) at the Grammys (let alone twice!). I do believe in second chances and forgiveness, and it's one thing to let him resume his career in entertainment, but it's quite another to praise him. He shouldn't be praised or given awards. He's an abuser.
Wasn't that sending the wrong message to our kids? I mean, there were countless preteens and teens watching the show. Wouldn't they see his performance as a sign that it was OK to beat up women? Would they think Rihanna deserved the abuse? While Jennifer Hudson's tribute to Whitney Houston was a definite highlight, maybe Chris Brown was just the very low … lowlight. Maybe I was getting ahead of myself, I thought.
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And then I saw this.
In the Twitter universe, teens and young women were tweeting about Brown and asking him to beat them, among other things:
"Call me crazy but I would let Chris Brown beat me up any day."
"Everyone shut up about Chris Brown being a woman beater…he can beat me all night if he wants to."
"I'd let Chris Brown beat me up any time" #womanbeater
"Like I've said multiple times before, Chris Brown can beat me up all he wants…I'd do anything to have him"
Disturbing just doesn't even cover this round-up of tweets. What the hell are our girls thinking? More importantly, how did they mentally get there? Like with too many things today, the media plays a role. If we condone the behavior or worse, applaud it (even for millions of dollars), we are failing our kids - boys and girls.
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On a night where we are all saying goodbye to Whitney Houston, a legend who was introduced to drugs by her bad boy husband, Bobby Brown, shouldn't we expect more than to see an abuser take the stage in all his glory? Don't our girls deserve it? People have made groups over not wanting Ellen DeGeneres to be a spokesperson because she is gay (yet she has never hurt anyone and only helps people), but no one blinks an eye when a man who had been convicted of felony assault on his girlfriend is praised and allowed to perform on the Grammys twice in one night?
There is something seriously wrong and I don't even know how to stop the madness that is media and societal morals today. It seems that anything goes as long as it brings in big bucks. As far as we have come with equal rights and women's liberation, it is not nearly far enough. We are still telling our girls that they are not worthy to not be hit, not worthy of fair treatment, not worthy of respect, or in other words, just not worthy.
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The majority of the show itself was nonsense, and little more than over-hyped packages of hoopla. Just look at Katie Perry and Nicki Minaj. I don't even know what the point was of their performances.
In stark contrast, Adele is a stellar role model for our girls, (plus her vocals can bring you to tears, they're just that beautiful). She is a 23-year-old who shows us what a strong woman is: self-confident and strong. She doesn't have to slink down to the point of sexualizing herself or using shock value to gather an audience. She can actually sing.
Jennifer Hudson, despite losing her family (mother, sister and nephew) at the hands of an abuser and having to sing on short notice on an intensely emotional night, nailed it perfectly with her tribute to Whitney Houston. She is another example for our girls.
There are too many extremely talented and decent artists in today's music to give a platform to abusers. Grammys, you missed the boat on this one, and it looks like from these tweets that the damage only continues.
Today will see teens walking the school hallways talking about how hot Chris Brown the convicted abuser is, and how they would endure a beating to be with him.
It's nothing but simply horrifying.
- By Danielle Sullivan
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