The 7 Worst Reasons to Get Pregnant

and this is why i choose to be child free...and i luv my life

Dear Liora,

I understand where you are coming from, but I think being a stay at home person takes a lot for any person, (Dad or Mom) for some it is a choice right out of the gate, for others it comes in the middle of a career, there are many complex reasons to stay at home with your kids, and yes you risk having people pass judgement such as yours on to you every day, and guess what I am writing all of this and I am NOT a stay at home Mother at all, but working on an advanced degree. I think by being a Mother you are ultimately contributing to society just as much or more than in other fields.

Now, I'm curious as to whether or not there are any good reasons to have a child... not to say that these are remotely close to it...

kokoro i think this world is populated enough we may have needed it more at one time but not now...

You forgot an important one for this generation getting pregnant to keep a man

"I want my boyfriend to commit to me." That one is the worst ever and many women use it.

I will admit, I had the "will I regret it if I don't have kids?" argument with myself for a long time. I finally decided that I knew I wouldn't regret it if I DID. My son is almost 2 and he is the most amazing thing in my life. I don't know that anyone can truly put into words the reasons they have kids. I think what's more important is what type of parent you think you will be. If you can't give of yourself enough to become a mother, then yes--those are all very bad reasons. One can say my reason was bad, but having my son was not a bad thing. It was the best thing I have ever done.

I have a friend who admitted she had a baby for the 6 weeks maternity leave. Now that is the worst reason I have ever heard of.

Where I live, I see hundreds of young women who are intellectually bankrupt, no education, no personality. Basically, they are losers and they know it. Then, they get married to wimpy doctors or dentists, get pregnant, and pop out two kids and all of a sudden, they have status in society--they are MOTHERS. And it is the hardest job in the world! Because going to the grocery store, playing with a baby, vacuuming the carpet, and chatting on the phone while baby is napping are all such high stress tasks. Wait! Let's not forget about microwaving fish sticks and opening jars of applesauce, and loading the dishwasher!...praise be unto these self sacrificing women! Ironically enough, it is these stay at home types who describe motherhood as a BURDEN, and I think it is disgusting to see your children as a JOB. Motherhood is not a job description--it is a state of being. So whether you are at work being productive or at home being a fat lazy slob while your kids are at school for EIGHT HOURS A DAY, you are still a mom...except that your kids will have more respect for you if you are a contributing member to society and not some selfish, unproductive loser.

kokoro, I hate when people talk crap about the human race's survival? Look at the world: global warming, murder, rape, of innocent people, animals being treated like crap (all mostly by men), the earth being destroyed..... What is your good reason for bringing that up?

Also, writer, these "reasons" are the most that people give for wanting a child (including some others just as bad), so what do you say to that?

Unfortunately, these are the very reasons most people choose to have kids in the first place.

is there ever really a reason other than 'cause I want to'? That's what I did, I said, I want a kid to my husband and ta-da, 3 weeks later I test positive for pregnancy. who says you need a reason?

My husbands cousin married last September and will be 21 this April. She and her husband have been living in his parents attic (from my understanding it's fully finished with a kitchen and bath) and are now planning on cleaning out her brothers basement and moving down there. Apparently they have been trying to have a baby and are now successfully pregnant.

I'm happy they got what they wanted, but it absolutely kills me that they will be raising a child in a damp, mildewy basement rather than focusing on finding their own home first.

How about: "I am sick of going to work." Hahahahaha!!!!

Yes, these are all terrible "reasons" to have a child!

This is why I'm not having kids. The only reasons I can come up with are some (not all) of the not-good-enough reasons on this list.

LOL #1 Unconditional Love - and then a couple years down the line the night comes when your trying to get your little bunde of joy to get his little butt into the shower and he screams at you how much he HATES YOU, and how mean you are, and how much he wishes he was never born. All because you made him pause his movie. Good luck with that.

How about "you forgot the condoms," "your partner didn't listen when you said 'no,'" "you want a welfare check," and "your partner told you to."

Ughh, this!
I absolutely hate it when people have kids for stupid reasons. You have kids
because you want to raise a caring, well-adjusted adult, not because you
simply happen to be able to.

How about to keep your boyfriend around? "yes I took my birth control today" muah muah ha ha... THATS the worst reason..and it never works anyway- if he dont want you nothing will make him stay for too long